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Recap, my room-mate is an ESTP who lately... has been turning more and more into an asshole.
We had another prolonged debate. This time he told me that it was perfectly okay for someone to support banning people from having anal sex, while having anal sex in secret. (The woman we were talking about was a woman he had sex with a few weeks ago, and she dumped him)
Not only did he say it was okay, but he said that such people have integrity. He added that me saying that such people lacked integrity was a personality flaw of mine.
Okay this is where I really started wondering what in God's name my ESTP room-mate was thinking. So I ask for clarification. His response:
"Because if you looked closely enough when they say they don't have anal sex and that it's morally wrong, you can tell they're lying."
My head nearly exploded. I said, "What if they vote to ban anal for everyone?". He responded that a single vote doesn't matter.
He then proceeded to tell me that, unlike him, I had very little empathy and that if someone's true nature was to lie, and they lied all the time then that was a statement of integrity.
Me: "But that's just a huge lack of honesty, which is just as bad as a huge lack of integrity." He seemed to ignore this point.
I pointed out that his argument was ludicrous and challenged him to try selling his case to any sane person in the world. He then refused to do so, and admitted that any sane person would agree with me. Yet, he continued to attack my beliefs and every time I argued him into a corner, he would repeat this, and then say that he was wrong, and that he didn't mean what he was saying, only to digress back to attacking me again and again.
Finally, he resorted to saying that there was no such thing as morals (In reference to my objection). But at the same time, argued that this girl (The one who sparked this) was moral.
I pointed out his obvious flaw in logic, and he wouldn't admit he'd made the flaw, and ignored it. Then I proceeded to tell him that if there was no such thing as morals that people should be able to run around raping and murdering and that such an act would be right.
He agreed that this was true, and that if someone could get away with raping and murdering, that they should. I threw my hands up in absolute frustration and reminded him that minutes before, he'd claimed to have "many times more empathy" than I did.
At the end, he told me the whole thing was a joke, but I was reading his face the whole time. HE WASN'T JOKING! He was defensive and serious.
What in God's name is wrong with ESTPs and how can I get him to freaking stop?
We had another prolonged debate. This time he told me that it was perfectly okay for someone to support banning people from having anal sex, while having anal sex in secret. (The woman we were talking about was a woman he had sex with a few weeks ago, and she dumped him)
Not only did he say it was okay, but he said that such people have integrity. He added that me saying that such people lacked integrity was a personality flaw of mine.
Okay this is where I really started wondering what in God's name my ESTP room-mate was thinking. So I ask for clarification. His response:
"Because if you looked closely enough when they say they don't have anal sex and that it's morally wrong, you can tell they're lying."
My head nearly exploded. I said, "What if they vote to ban anal for everyone?". He responded that a single vote doesn't matter.
He then proceeded to tell me that, unlike him, I had very little empathy and that if someone's true nature was to lie, and they lied all the time then that was a statement of integrity.
Me: "But that's just a huge lack of honesty, which is just as bad as a huge lack of integrity." He seemed to ignore this point.
I pointed out that his argument was ludicrous and challenged him to try selling his case to any sane person in the world. He then refused to do so, and admitted that any sane person would agree with me. Yet, he continued to attack my beliefs and every time I argued him into a corner, he would repeat this, and then say that he was wrong, and that he didn't mean what he was saying, only to digress back to attacking me again and again.
Finally, he resorted to saying that there was no such thing as morals (In reference to my objection). But at the same time, argued that this girl (The one who sparked this) was moral.
I pointed out his obvious flaw in logic, and he wouldn't admit he'd made the flaw, and ignored it. Then I proceeded to tell him that if there was no such thing as morals that people should be able to run around raping and murdering and that such an act would be right.
He agreed that this was true, and that if someone could get away with raping and murdering, that they should. I threw my hands up in absolute frustration and reminded him that minutes before, he'd claimed to have "many times more empathy" than I did.
At the end, he told me the whole thing was a joke, but I was reading his face the whole time. HE WASN'T JOKING! He was defensive and serious.
What in God's name is wrong with ESTPs and how can I get him to freaking stop?