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I’ve recently become very interested in someone... and I’m wondering if you guys could help me type him? based on my reaction to him? I think he might be an INFJ? and i’m going to add a disclaimer before i finish writing: i’ve wrote a post about this person like three times this week, deleted it and tried to erase him from my mind, but after today’s encounter, i need to flush it out. It’s long, but any insight would be appreciated.
so why am i interested in him? attracted to him? we have really long conversations on philosophy and politics, and when we talk, i feel like he articulates my own thoughts on it and sort of teaches me along the way because our conversations allow me to figure out my thoughts /understand myself better (just like on the PerC forums!). he is a lot more confident when he is talking about something on his own, but as soon as it becomes a conversation between him and me, he seems to not be so “present” or as cohesive in his thoughts. For many reasons, i’m attracted to him, but i can’t really explain why - he’s not the typical alpha male, he doesn’t stand out physically in any way to me, but one of the first reasons i started getting drawn to him was because he showed interested in me first when he introduced himself to me.
today, i had lunch with him, because our departments are working on a project. I think I was trying to act as if nothing was different, but I probably gave off vibes that i was interested. And I think he got the vibe from me, that I wanted something more from today’s lunch than just a draft of our project. And because i sensed he picked up those vibes, I think he may be an intuitive type. because in terms of the sensory, I acted no differently or did nothing apparent in the present. Also, sometimes when we debate, we have times where we just get into theory and we’ve both had times where we just get lost in the theory and we have to ask each other “wait, what was i responding to?” This makes me think he may be an F? not a T? I’m so confused, as you can probably tell by this post... I feel myself being guarded, but strangely attracted to him? and I feel like we have so many similarities, and sometimes it feels like i’m looking into a mirror... so that it’s almost the same, but a mirror image of each other obviously.
I can read most people well, but I can’t figure out at all what he thinks about me. He is directing the project that several groups/departments are a part of, and I am the representative for my department. I guess i came off as confident about the overall stuff, because he joked in front of the group, “okay, i’ve just made the decision that i’m going to pick on you during this project. Yeah, you’re the one i’m going to pick on.” he was joking, he never picked on me. I sort of feel like he’s an INFJ- the way he directs the project is very similar to my own leadership style - how we allot assignments, the format of how we send out directions/project updates. So can he be an INFJ? i don’t know him well enough yet, but for the first time in 5?6? years,I am attracted and drawn towards this person, unwillingly. .
And after the lunch, it became awkward, a bit. I went to the library before going to another office, and it turned out he had also gone there after lunch .i didnt even see him until he said HI first and came where i was working. i had actually stopped there to make copies, but i didn’t really have to make the copies at that particular office. it just dawned on me that it probably looked like i just followed him from our lunch to the library. After that, i went to a building where my classes were, but that building’s bathrooms are like on the 10th or 11th floor, so instead I lazily went to the next building which has bathrooms by the entrance. Turns out he had a class there, too, and i didn’t see him again until he said HI first. But now i feel embarassed - i will just act as if nothing happened, and act normal next time i see him, but i would feel better if i could know his type lol.
so why am i interested in him? attracted to him? we have really long conversations on philosophy and politics, and when we talk, i feel like he articulates my own thoughts on it and sort of teaches me along the way because our conversations allow me to figure out my thoughts /understand myself better (just like on the PerC forums!). he is a lot more confident when he is talking about something on his own, but as soon as it becomes a conversation between him and me, he seems to not be so “present” or as cohesive in his thoughts. For many reasons, i’m attracted to him, but i can’t really explain why - he’s not the typical alpha male, he doesn’t stand out physically in any way to me, but one of the first reasons i started getting drawn to him was because he showed interested in me first when he introduced himself to me.
today, i had lunch with him, because our departments are working on a project. I think I was trying to act as if nothing was different, but I probably gave off vibes that i was interested. And I think he got the vibe from me, that I wanted something more from today’s lunch than just a draft of our project. And because i sensed he picked up those vibes, I think he may be an intuitive type. because in terms of the sensory, I acted no differently or did nothing apparent in the present. Also, sometimes when we debate, we have times where we just get into theory and we’ve both had times where we just get lost in the theory and we have to ask each other “wait, what was i responding to?” This makes me think he may be an F? not a T? I’m so confused, as you can probably tell by this post... I feel myself being guarded, but strangely attracted to him? and I feel like we have so many similarities, and sometimes it feels like i’m looking into a mirror... so that it’s almost the same, but a mirror image of each other obviously.
I can read most people well, but I can’t figure out at all what he thinks about me. He is directing the project that several groups/departments are a part of, and I am the representative for my department. I guess i came off as confident about the overall stuff, because he joked in front of the group, “okay, i’ve just made the decision that i’m going to pick on you during this project. Yeah, you’re the one i’m going to pick on.” he was joking, he never picked on me. I sort of feel like he’s an INFJ- the way he directs the project is very similar to my own leadership style - how we allot assignments, the format of how we send out directions/project updates. So can he be an INFJ? i don’t know him well enough yet, but for the first time in 5?6? years,I am attracted and drawn towards this person, unwillingly. .
And after the lunch, it became awkward, a bit. I went to the library before going to another office, and it turned out he had also gone there after lunch .i didnt even see him until he said HI first and came where i was working. i had actually stopped there to make copies, but i didn’t really have to make the copies at that particular office. it just dawned on me that it probably looked like i just followed him from our lunch to the library. After that, i went to a building where my classes were, but that building’s bathrooms are like on the 10th or 11th floor, so instead I lazily went to the next building which has bathrooms by the entrance. Turns out he had a class there, too, and i didn’t see him again until he said HI first. But now i feel embarassed - i will just act as if nothing happened, and act normal next time i see him, but i would feel better if i could know his type lol.