I am always surprised at how many comments I get on my appearance, some insults, others compliments. I guess it shocks me that people are paying that much attention to the details of my physical self and that they feel the need to tell me. People will blurt out, "you gained weight", "your body looks good", "your skin is breaking out", "your skin is clear", "you look thinner", "your teeth are yellow", "your teeth are white" etc. I guess what really surprises me is that I don't focus on my looks that much...I make sure to be clean and decently attractive, but that's it. I guess if it were a huge preoccupation I could be more attractive, but I enjoy other things than shopping and counting calories. I already feel attractive enough to be happy so I don't understand why others need to 'rate' me or whatever you want to call it. I'm not a model, never wanted to be so why do I feel that there is pressure to be model perfect. Why do women police each other in that department? My boyfriends have always been happy with me, even calling me beautiful, but it seems like other women in particular are the ones who are always sizing me up and are sometimes very harsh critics. Sometimes they will give a compliment one day and an insult the next even if though the conversation I have with them is unrelated to appearance, but somehow they have to find a way to bring it up. I personally want to not be preoccupied with my appearance because I find that to be a very shallow focus for my life. I am always surprised when I discover how much some women, even older women focus on improving their looks, even if they aren't particularly good looking. I want to be attractive, but then that's it...I'm not trying to be the 'best', but for some reason I get the impression that others assume that I am trying, maybe because that's the way they are. But really, the cosmetic industry is way too overfocused on trying to make people feel inadequate in the beauty department...It disturbs me that people fall for this and then spend their whole lives looking at their flaws and looking for others' flaws. Life is short and we all end up in the ground anyway. I'd rather just be happy with myself...But having people constantly making 'comments' doesn't help in that pursuit.