I had to join personalitycafe just to post on this! Not too much out there on this shadow relationship...
I am consistently drawn ENTJs--I have three males that have significantly impacted my life: high school sweetheart, current roommate and a recent love affair that has physically ended, but is proving to be impossible to shake mentally...ugh so I'm partially here to beg for ENTJ insight.
Initially I'm very self-conscious around them-obviously, they are everything I am not. At the same time, I realize that because we are SO different it's impossible to be anything but myself-too much of a stretch to put on an act!!
Here are some blanket dynamics I've noticed:
- "quit being so judgmental/insensitive" runs through my mind a lot...
- I feel like I see their emotional flaws so acutely- which makes me believe my flaws must be glaringly obvious as well.
- Seem to jump to conclusions prematurely...blame the weak P-ness? hehe :wink:
- I have really intense emotions for people, but I'm absolutely terrible at expressing them. My big fat Fi with ENTJ inferior Fi is obviously frustrating...
What I love:
- My practicality complements their logic nicely. Even though I do what I FEEL, what I feel must make sense
- I feel very secure around them, ENTJs are so great at pulling it all together, so efficient!
- Although we come from very different angles, I truly respect their opinion. They challenge me to think in a different manner.
I am SO attracted to the aforementioned ENTJ love interest-but I feel my inability to articulate my feelings may have killed my chance. :sad: Even though I did not demand anything from him...time, a label, "the talk" etc., (what can I say, I let it "be") he abruptly ended things quoting that he didn't have the time for a relationship.
So, I assumed he wasn't into me, tried to move on and we didn't speak for 6 months....but just recently he broke the silence when he texted me "Happy Anniversary" on the day we first met.... what?? To me, that doesn't make "rational" sense, someone please tell me what was the point? I was under the impression when ENTJs are done, they're done.
Now I have to think about him all over again. Perhaps we really do speak a different language.