I don't really believe in the Meyer Briggs test. I think it is a very crude and theoretical system of dividing people. Nevertheless, I score INFJ every time I take the test, and much of the description rings true for me (especially for the way I was when I was younger).
I consider myself a pretty grounded, down to earth, confident guy. But it seems that my confidence is sometimes sabotaged involuntarily. A typical scenario is this: I'll talk to the checker at the store, and right as I say goodbye, I'll see that she makes some insignificant face. As I walk out of the store, I feel the most awful feeling. I know that it was nothing, I know that it was insignificant, but my mind is flooded with thoughts of social failure and so forth.
Now, I believe that humility comes from not thinking about yourself, and so when I'm driving home I try to observe the trees, observe the landmarks, and etc., but I can't shake the feeling. It runs in the background. I get home, and I start reading a book or watching a movie. The stupid incident keeps popping into the foreground.
Many times, it will not end until I get on the internet and do searches on self improvement of some kind, and then it will temporarily subside.
The important thing here is that I do not WANT to think about this stuff. I don't give a damn what others think of me. Unfortunately, it seems like there's a part of my brain that does.
But enough gloom and doom. I want to know how to keep this from happening, how others have dealt with this if they have noticed it in their own lives. Any tips would be great. I feel a little embarrassed posting on a forum like this. I like to handle things myself. But any help would be much appreciated.
Thanks for your time,
What about meditation? You will discover in time you are not your thoughts, not even your personality. You can let them all pass, let yourself detach, yet remaining always aware and in peace. Disconnected from the world, yet connected with everything all at the same time.
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What about just devoting a little time to let your thoughts just run amok and burn themselves out? Trying to repress them might just be prolonging the ordeal.
Or take a quick nap. The thoughts will be running through your head as you fall asleep, and even during your sleep (in your subconscious), and by the time you wake up they've run their course and you don't care. It's like anesthesia for negative emotions. This is usually how I deal with things, emotional stress typically makes me feel tired in general to begin with so I just go with it. In more extreme cases I'll just pass out for a 3-hour coma-nap, and I really don't care by the time I wake up
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this has more to do with society tanting natural things with fear
god forbid someone might not like you, this affects NF-types or more sensitive types however you want to call them, because they notice everything
but the thing is there are billions of us, so next time you feel like that just remember nobody cares and a lot of people aren't worth the effort to have fun with and make them like you so they can fuck right off with their opinions
this is also one thing that prevents some individuals initiating a conversation in many circumstances (shyness or whatever)
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