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I have to go to a birthday/social mingler/social networking party tonight. I know a total of two out of all the people that are going to be there (acquaintances). One of them is definitely an ISFJ. I thought about asking her to take me around, but in my past experiences ISFJs in situations like this have told me "sure, yes, of course" and ditched me anyway or flat out told me it would good for me to venture on my own because the people here are nice (I agree, people can be nice... it's just that i don't know a single soul to begin with! except her. :crying
The ISFJ acquaintance going to the party started going off on the latter reason so i decided not to ask. The other person I "know" I have briefly passed by in the hallways at work, and we know each other by face (but not name), from the coffee room and one or two meetings where our departments overlapped.
The party is scheduled to be a few hours long, but my backup plan is to show up, say hi, try to fit in, and if things fail, to leave after an hour or so. people probably wouldnt notice anyway. How do I make this experience as small of a torture as it is? Parties are just painful for me. Last time, I was at a similar one, I didn't know anyone that well, but I had to go for work. Sometimes I'd try to initiate conversations, but then I'd be joined by some other people that knew each other, and they would start getting excited and catching up, and I'd sort of be left out. Or they start talking in their language and I'm just like "Uh.... okay, I'll leave." The major problem is that I don't know that many people well, whereas most people are already friends with each other. so yes, fellow introverts, what do you do at parties where you don't know almsot anyone? what kind of questions are you supposed to ask? do you just approach a group and introduce yourself? How do you conduct yourselves in conversations amongst close people and how do you try to get yourself to be included? "AH, PULL HAIR, SCREAMS!!!" this is in a few hours too!!!! :shocked::crying::crying::crying::crying:
The party is scheduled to be a few hours long, but my backup plan is to show up, say hi, try to fit in, and if things fail, to leave after an hour or so. people probably wouldnt notice anyway. How do I make this experience as small of a torture as it is? Parties are just painful for me. Last time, I was at a similar one, I didn't know anyone that well, but I had to go for work. Sometimes I'd try to initiate conversations, but then I'd be joined by some other people that knew each other, and they would start getting excited and catching up, and I'd sort of be left out. Or they start talking in their language and I'm just like "Uh.... okay, I'll leave." The major problem is that I don't know that many people well, whereas most people are already friends with each other. so yes, fellow introverts, what do you do at parties where you don't know almsot anyone? what kind of questions are you supposed to ask? do you just approach a group and introduce yourself? How do you conduct yourselves in conversations amongst close people and how do you try to get yourself to be included? "AH, PULL HAIR, SCREAMS!!!" this is in a few hours too!!!! :shocked::crying::crying::crying::crying: