When I sart to reflect on foolish things I have done ect, I put them into context...how old I was for example. Should I really still feel bad about a mistake I made as a child? If I knew someone that age who did that would I think it was a big deal, or something to feel that bad about?
I think about my enviroment...was it understandable given the conditions I was in? Could it have been prevented at all, or with the information I had and the people around me was that the only action I was ever going to take?
Why did I make those choices or take those actions? If they still upset me, how I can I learn from them and use them to establish possitive change for the future.
I envisage a brighter, happier, future for myself...because I have had the opertunity to make mistakes, and learn from them. Each day I strive to be stronger and become better than the day before.
I am acepting and happy with myself and my life as it is, and I see everything from the past as leading to this state, so I have very few regrets.
One of the things I used to feel bad about was that I narrowly I didn't get into the university I wanted. I had to go to my second choice...however, in conext that meant I met a lot of good friends, and my ex. Ok, we broke up, but over all I enjoyed the relationship and it has taught me a lot. I also now know more about what I need in a partner. This will lead to better future relationships. I look forward to this. Because I went to that university I also got to graduate in a Cathedral, which I wouldn't have done otherwise...and I learnt a lot about life and people, which I could not have learnt acept from the specific expirences I had there.
As to palm reading ect...I create my own destiny. I do not simply let things happen to me or regret and focus on present or past sorrows, I activly listen to myself and change things to reach my goals and make things better.
I've always had people telling me what I can do, can't do, will do, should do...I listen to what is inside myself, and I decide what I shall do. Unless the palm reader said something I thought favorable, I'd ignore them. You can always put getting married off just to prove them wrong if you want, and to establish you have some controle over things.
It is your life.
Do not waste it on regret and supersition, live it, and make better memories for yourself.