[Haldir]

You're thinking too long and too hard about yourself and how the world reacts to you or might react to you or could react to you in a worst case scenario. Instead of being less self-absorbed than others, you're actually more self-absorbed.

I think this is a big part of it right here. I've always felt that there was a strong #humblebrag component to a lot of this bitching and moaning people do about how socially inept and awful they are. It's almost like a personal reaffirmation that they're a harder-core INTP than the rest of us peons. "Ohhhhhhh woe is me I pass out from social anxiety if I have to order for myself in a restaurant. Look how much of a caricature of an INTP I am." Gimme a break. I don't think everyone is necessarily like that, but I've definitely gotten that vibe on many an occasion.