Yep!We are good listeners and on top of that we are introverts. Perhaps that gvies them the confidence that we won't spill the beans.
Indeed. It's the same with my ENTJ girfriend. Around others she's the boss. But with me a smart sweetheart. Just a girl with her joys and worries.people who seem extremely arrogant to others seems to share their insecurities with me which i find kinda touching in a way.. because with everyone else they are so overconfident.
I thought I wrote this messageFor some strange reason, sometimes I'm able to get people that I barely know to share their intimate secrets with me.
Is this because we are such good listeners that people trust us?
I respect that this may be your experience, but it's not in accordance with theory that infps' don't care so it's a little hard to digest accepting this as a general trend. How can you know that someone is too occupied in their own feelings by the way?Are you sure it's just you they share it with?
Why do you think they trust you enough?
Do you even care?
Will you use it against them?
I just find this all fishy, normally INFPs are too preoccupied with themselves and their own feelings to even handle someone else's.
My only suggestion is to not accept the stories unless you want to assist them. I know you guys are giving and emphatic though.. something just smells weird.
I asked first.. but thanks for the info.I respect that this may be your experience, but it's not in accordance with theory that infps' don't care so it's a little hard to digest accepting this as a general trend. How can you know that someone is too occupied in their own feelings by the way?
It confuses me why you would ask most infps' if they care, because from my experience we generally do a lot of listening of others (more than sharing of our own emotions) in REAL LIFE. I know more about others' and their lives than they know about me for example. Why would we listen if we didn't care? Fi is often associated with empathy. It is also associated with acknowledging other peoples boundaries and not pushing people to help them etc. Fi being selfish is a stereotype rooted in experience dealing with unhealthy types, and not necessarily the norm.
+ Just because someone says "people share things with me" doesn't mean that person is claiming that they are the only person getting people to open up. I would think that is a given.