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So today I realized that there were very few people I feel very comfortable around in the sense that I feel relaxed with them, physically, mentally and emotionally. Does anyone relate to this?
Specifically, there is a friend I have in mind while writing this - although I usually like to recharge/withdraw by myself, spending time with her is like recharging itself. Also, I feel comfortable around her because my gut instincts tell me she has no ulterior motives, she's truthful, treats everyone equally, and doesn't hold back on revealing herself (she usually doesn't volunteer information about herself, but when asked, she's really straight-forward and open, without TMI). Another thing - I feel comfortable just being myself with her in that she is accepting of who I am, as is. With most friends/family, I feel slightly uncomfortable because sometimes I feel that there are certain expectations or hopes of me behaving or responding in a way that's not really me, although it may not be explicitly requested of me.
Anyway, I realize that I need to be around more accepting friends like this, and I just wanted to ask everyone some questions. If you relate to this and have met someone you feel comfortable around,
- What qualities about them first drew them to you?
- What qualities about them make you feel comfortable?
- Going off of pacifique's post, are there certain combinations of preferences that you feel more comfortable with and accepted (generally speaking)? just curious if there may be some correlation.
Specifically, there is a friend I have in mind while writing this - although I usually like to recharge/withdraw by myself, spending time with her is like recharging itself. Also, I feel comfortable around her because my gut instincts tell me she has no ulterior motives, she's truthful, treats everyone equally, and doesn't hold back on revealing herself (she usually doesn't volunteer information about herself, but when asked, she's really straight-forward and open, without TMI). Another thing - I feel comfortable just being myself with her in that she is accepting of who I am, as is. With most friends/family, I feel slightly uncomfortable because sometimes I feel that there are certain expectations or hopes of me behaving or responding in a way that's not really me, although it may not be explicitly requested of me.
Anyway, I realize that I need to be around more accepting friends like this, and I just wanted to ask everyone some questions. If you relate to this and have met someone you feel comfortable around,
- What qualities about them first drew them to you?
- What qualities about them make you feel comfortable?
- Going off of pacifique's post, are there certain combinations of preferences that you feel more comfortable with and accepted (generally speaking)? just curious if there may be some correlation.