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With your most recent partner, what was the exp with photos/ videos during sex?

  • I requested, but was refused.

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  • I requested, and the partner said yes.

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  • The partner requested, but I refused.

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  • The partner requested, and I said yes.

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  • None of us initiated.

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I myself have been asked for consent during a BJ, but I refused.

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We were not in a committed relationship, and I am not sure if I would want to even if we're in one.

What are your experiences? How long have you been dating? Are you in a committed relationship? If you have done it before, how many times did you / your partner ask before having consent from both of you?
 

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I did a video once with a partner I'd been with for about 5 months. To be fair, it turned out really well. I joked that we could have sold it online and made a fortune, but it's probably true. He just happened to have a porn star dick and an eye for camera angles/lighting, and I had a really cute outfit and am a nympho. I never thought I'd do a video with someone, and retrospectively am kicking myself because it's probably all over the internet now that we broke up.

Side note: My laptop broke while I was in a foreign country, and when I asked them to transfer my files the guy gave me a funny/knowing look. I am 99% positive some British tech nerds have my sex video. Sigh. Let that be a lesson to you kiddos...
 

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I've done several. Me holding camera, video camera, receiving snapchats, pics. And the last relationship, she has so many dick pics, she probably had to get an external harddrive (iPhone syncs with computer).

And that's with only 2 (I'd do it again) relationships and both had a lot of trust. I THINK they knew I wasn't the type of guy to ever release those, because I am not, but that probably was a leap of faith on their part.

It's great/hot in LDRs and here and there.

Never tried a full length feature film though, ha.

If I was a girl, even in a trusted relationship, I dunno. Would take some courage.


Oh, one more thing, I THOUGHT I had her consent to record a few of the snapchats (there's apps for that), but apparently there was a miscommunication cuz she got pissed when I told her I replayed some stuff. I deleted them at her request : (
 

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I did a video once with a partner I'd been with for about 5 months. To be fair, it turned out really well. I joked that we could have sold it online and made a fortune, but it's probably true. He just happened to have a porn star dick and an eye for camera angles/lighting, and I had a really cute outfit and am a nympho. I never thought I'd do a video with someone, and retrospectively am kicking myself because it's probably all over the internet now that we broke up.

Side note: My laptop broke while I was in a foreign country, and when I asked them to transfer my files the guy gave me a funny/knowing look. I am 99% positive some British tech nerds have my sex video. Sigh. Let that be a lesson to you kiddos...
Oh shit! I knew I've seen you some place!

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Side note: My laptop broke while I was in a foreign country, and when I asked them to transfer my files the guy gave me a funny/knowing look. I am 99% positive some British tech nerds have my sex video. Sigh. Let that be a lesson to you kiddos...
That's my concern too! Would it have been safer if on a phone though?
 
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Be wary of anyone who asks you to do this. You don't know what they'll do with the files. I'd say that's a red flag in dating. You can't know if you can fully trust someone regarding this.
 
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i've only done it with one person. when she was out of town, she'd want me to send her pics (lol), and then she'd send some... and once was all said and done, we'd each make the other delete them.

i did get one picture from someone i didn't know very well at all, and kind of forgot it was on my phone because we quit talking. and then, i was trying to show a friend at work a picture of my dog and accidentally showed him the picture of her--i was all like, "no, no, no, no!" (luckily her face isn't visible and there's no chance they'd ever meet, so... that's almost like it didn't happen. i deleted it after that).
 

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And you were smart to do so. It would show up on the Web the very next day. I wouldn't want to see myself in a sex act. I don't think I could take it. I don't see myself the way I am. I see who I was when I was younger (and thinner).
 

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i've only done it with one person. when she was out of town, she'd want me to send her pics (lol), and then she'd send some... and once was all said and done, we'd each make the other delete them.

i did get one picture from someone i didn't know very well at all, and kind of forgot it was on my phone because we quit talking. and then, i was trying to show a friend at work a picture of my dog and accidentally showed him the picture of her--i was all like, "no, no, no, no!" (luckily her face isn't visible and there's no chance they'd ever meet, so... that's almost like it didn't happen. i deleted it after that).
That's called sexting and not really what OP was talking about.
 

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That's called sexting and not really what OP was talking about.
alright, not far removed either.

on-topic then:

i've done one video with a person. we dated for several years. spur of the moment, we erased the video afterwards. neither of us were harping on it, we actually didn't give it any thought at all. if someone keeps asking, and keeps bugging someone about it, that would raise a flag with me.
 

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Did that once.
Apparently my friends told me back then it was circulating the internet.
Thankfully we had the forethought of not recording our faces.
Still don't know how it even got out.

The fact that both my friends knew who I was from the torso down AND he/she watched it is a bit freaky.
 
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