Phrases You Avoid

Hmmm... let's see here:

"I'd tap that." This seems a little bit too blunt for me to say or hear. Honestly, it's fantastic that you feel comfortable enough with me to talk about your desires, but trust me I don't want to hear about it.

Ditto on "Yolo". I like the connatation that carpe diem has a lot more but I try not to use either.

"god bless you". Sorry, guys. Apparently, this one is a social imperative but I don't say it ever. Who gives the authority to bless people anyway? Other languages seem to have a better way of saying "you've sneezed, I hope you feel better".

"Have your cake and eat it too". I understand the meaning of this one but it doesn't make any sense. The point of baking a cake is to eat it. This is a terrible way of saying, 'you can't have the best of both worlds'.

Rather Unusual said:

You will never hear the following phrases from me...

"Life is short" - I'm sorry but this is the single most depressing thing you can say to anyone. I fail to see how striking the fear of impending death into someone is supposed to encourage them to live.

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Hm. I agree with you, but what you will hear from me is the much more depressing, "We're all going to die soon!" I bust it out when I feel like people are being immature, not being self-aware, not living consciously.

Like, people talking about their favorite tv shows, celebrities, etc... Interject me: "We're all going to die soon! You don't have time to watch television!"

God, I'm such a downer.

You can have your cake. And you can eat it. But you only have both halfway through the slice. Lots of good ones so far.

Mine are...
Man Cave I work in real estate

I promise / I swear / I swear on... / Trust me / I never lie / My word is my bond or Don't take my word for it.
I guess it's because I don't trust people who use these phrases

I have trouble saying " I hate you " ....it seems no matter what was done...I can't bring myself to say that to anyone...I don't know if it's that I truely don't hate the person....or that I do and can't say it
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and then.... v.v ....I can't say certain...um...certain........ sexual phrases without experiencing the highest level of embarrassment..

then...you know how some girls...who are friends will call each other rude things such as bitch hoe skank ect...but just for "fun" as a joke....my little sister does this... and that's fine....but for me It's something I'd never say/ do

Theosophie said:

Hm. I agree with you, but what you will hear from me is the much more depressing, "We're all going to die soon!" I bust it out when I feel like people are being immature, not being self-aware, not living consciously.

Like, people talking about their favorite tv shows, celebrities, etc... Interject me: "We're all going to die soon! You don't have time to watch television!"

God, I'm such a downer.

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Gaaah no! That is evil.

We could die soon. Any one of us could walk out of our front door tomorrow and get splattered by an out-of-control eighteen wheeler. You never know.

Phrases I TRY to avoid:

"I'm sorry." Of course I say I'm sorry when I'm in the wrong for something, or when I'm expressing empathy for someone's situation. But I also say "I'm sorry" when things aren't my fault, aren't within my control, and when I've done things that aren't bothering others. I'm "sorry friendly" and that's a bit unhealthy and disempowering. So, I'm actively trying to avoid the excessive use of this phrase.

"That's retarded." For a while, I'm ashamed to admit that I was actually using this phrase to express my discontent with something that I found ridiculous. I know it's a pretty common one, but it's also a pretty offensive one, especially if you're around someone closely associated with an individual with cognitive deficits. The diagnosis for cognitive deficits in the DSM-IV actually is still Mental Retardation, so given that I'm going into the field of psychology, I obviously need to watch how I use the phrase. Therefore, I'm actively avoiding it.

Also, I actively avoid cliches. I try to create my own statements.

Rather Unusual said:

"Cheer up" - It irritates me greatly when some asshole says this to me. I wouldn't dare tell someone to cheer up when they're feeling down. We are entitled to our own emotions. If anything the person should be comforted...not invalidated.

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Agreed. I can't tell you how many times my boyfriend (out of combined good will and cluelessness) has said this to me and it made me feel freaking worse. No one can just "snap out of it" that easy, nor should this be expected of them. Saying "cheer up" is essentially saying, "I don't really want to listen to why you're upset, but you shouldn't be upset, so don't be upset." THANKS! Haha.

Semi-irrelevant proclamation: My boyfriend is an ISTP Type 8, so his natural instinct after exposure to emotions is to run away or act annoyed. He's getting better at sensitive communication, however. And I'm getting better at not taking everything so seriously/caring way too much.

Killbain said:

I find a useful phrase to avoid is:

"You haven't got the guts to pull that trigger!"

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Hahaha, a wise decision. I work at a crisis center, and one of the first things they tell trainees who will be dealing with suicidal clients is "never dare someone to pull the trigger." Because, well, they might.

A useful phrase to avoid is "I hate you!" or "I am going to kill___", if you are angry express by telling the person "I am very angry with you, because of_____ so please just do not speak to me for the time being" because I believe hate is a really strong word, just like love is... and tactfulness is everything when you are trying to express an emotion.

Mankaroni said:

Ditto on "Yolo".

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I seriously feel left out and old now that all these new abbreviations require constant googling. There's a few abbreviations I've googled at least a hundred times and still haven't learned to recognize or dared to use. I don't like carpe diem or you only live once either...it's like a way for people to avoid deeper inspection about something, or they lose interest in taking apart why something or someone is the way it is, so they put a big stamp on it saying "forfeited" by using a phrase they don't really mean. There's so much more going on that they choose not to see or question.