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I was having a discussion with my INTJ roomie about a character in a movie who I adored. In gushing about what a complex character he is, the INTJ interrupts by saying that the main reason she doesn't think he's all that great is because he can't/refuses to pick sides. She mentioned, as the conversation shifted, that she cannot stand it when people don't pick sides, odd considering she's agnostic and an apathetic moderate when it comes to politics. The funny thing is, when she said this I wonder if she realized that the main REASONS she likes me is because I'm so tolerate, I don't try to self-righteously force my way of thinking on her as if it's some sort of absolute truth, and basically,I almost never take sides. My reasons for not taking sides are that, more often than not I immediately notice when the 'morality' of the situation is 'grey'. Therefore both parties are 'right' or both parties are 'wrong', and not often will one side ultimately dominate over the other. I practice this in almost every debate I'm in whether it's online, in school, or with classmates. With the exception of a few severe situations where the righteous way seems obvious and unanimous, most of the squabbles I come by or the topics I'm prompted to speak about actually need a mediator/peacekeeper/objective opinion. Essentially, I'm not picking a side because I'm on the third 'side'. I'm no atypical or 'cowardly' INFJ. I have my values. I always mean what I say and express my beliefs with the confidence that I believe them to true and with a fervent passion (we'll save the relative vs absolute truth for some other time). But honestly, not every situation requires that kind of intense subjectivity.
Anyone else do this? Do you find yourself often picking sides, staying out of the squabble, or making the peace? Which type of people do you find yourself doing any of the former? (e.g MBTI type, relationship type, age group etc)
Anyone else do this? Do you find yourself often picking sides, staying out of the squabble, or making the peace? Which type of people do you find yourself doing any of the former? (e.g MBTI type, relationship type, age group etc)