Same. I've even tried to rationally convince myself that it doesn't matter that much if I don't choose the best among the possible options, as long as I avoid choosing the worst one. It hasn't worked.I think that may be the reason of my anxiety. I am not always aware of my self-doubt, it sits somewhere deeper, but it is the reason why I fear confrontation with truth. More specifically, truths about myself. Very passive aggressive manifestation.
"What if this?", "What if that?" - I rather pass, thank you. Not the way to go obviously since fear should never interfere in my decision making. And this only becomes apparent when I break through these fears and see there is nothing bad really there, only growth.
The reason why I experience this is perhaps my perfectionstic nature for the things I am deeply interested in; the things that really matter to me (life in general included). I set the standard too high for myself. Which is 'good'... essentially, but wrong if you are too damn scared to make mistakes.
More generally speaking, because our Ti decision making originates from so many different layers of information stacked on top of each other, well... if something (no matter how small) triggers the alarm system, every single unit is suspect and the entire thing falls apart. 99% just ain't enough.
I used to be like this.Very much plagued by it, in any sort of context where I am required to perform publicly. By performance I mean executing a task where the result stands a chance of being evaluated by some sort of metric, which will stand as a proof that I am inadequate/incapable in some sense.
I still function, and I guess I have achieved some things that others may consider to be worthy of note, but this anxiety is always present.
It is probably at its worst around women, and manifests as a strong sense of being unappealing and sometimes even as being rather repulsive.
I've started seeing a psychologist in the hopes that I can break some of these thought cycles and hopefully focus more on unhindered action and self expression.
Now I'm more like this. Although I didn't stop wondering about other people, I just changed my perspective. I saw life less as a popularity contest, or a skill contest, and realized that I just need to be good enough for those around me.I don't have much self-doubt.
If anything, I have financial doubt.
I'm not that self-conscious either in the sense of worrying what people think about me. I'm usually absorbed in my own world, learning, playing with new ideas. I often fail and fail spectacularly, but that's part of the process. When you stop wondering about other people, stop comparing yourself to them, and become curious again, then you realize that stress is caused more from imagination than from reality. Then you can be free to try whatever you want because you don't give a shit about how you're perceived. But that also means removing those toxic influences from your life that condition you into conforming to unhealthy ways of thinking. Throw out the trashy magazines and reality television. Burn your social media. Avoid large groups of people who wear special hats.