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Please help me- I can't decide if I'm an ISFJ or INFJ

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So I've read descriptions of both types and there are aspects of both that I relate to. I feel like if I'm an ISFJ, I have a really bad memory for one and am lacking in practicality, logic, etc. But I don't think I'm really that intuitive, although I'd love to be. (I'm jealous of anyone who can "read people" well- people's minds and personalities fascinate me). I know they are separate temperaments, but I think I might be an ISFJ, INFJ wannabe.

Some things that may or may not be relevant:

-I feel like I generally take things at face value, and then remember to analyze them.
-I easily get jealous of and am possessive of my friends, but don't show it.
-I cannot or do not bother to predict the outcome to books or movies. Twist endings almost always take me by surprise.
-I am insecure- when someone compliments me on working quickly, I always get paranoid that I left something out. I often feel like I'm not good at anything.
-I envy people who don't seem to let anything bother them. I often feel weak because I'm overly sensitive
-I love the idea of being part of a group- when everyone depends on and cares about one another. I like assembly lines.
-Intuition confuses me, period. Maybe I'm thinking of it in the wrong sense.
-I often imagine elaborate conversations with people- real, fictional, strangers, and friends
-I enjoy analyzing friends and fictional characters
-I don't mind breaking rules and sometimes enjoy it (when doing so doesn't hurt others in any way)
-My dad frequently gets frustrated with me because whenever he asks me a question, I think of why he's asking that question and answer that instead of the actual question.
-I consider myself liberal (politically wise). The idea that anyone has pre-determined roles in society annoys me
-I'm attracted to things that are "dark"- music, art, people
-A good way to motivate me is to criticize me- I'll want to prove you wrong
-Whenever I'm listening to music in my car, I keep the windows up because I don't want anyone else to hear what I'm listening to. I will, however, freely tell people what type of music I like. I don't understand this.
-From the type descriptions, a world of "hidden meanings and possibilities" seems much more appealing than one that is "concrete and kind"
-I have trouble understanding basic logical concepts.
-I have difficulty "living in the moment"- I'm always worried about what's going to happen next
Any feedback would be welcome. I know this was long- I appreciate it if you read it all the way through (or at all)
Thank you!
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I am an INFJ, ISFJ wannabe, so the opposite of you, I guess :lol

The other posters are right, though, you should also consider that you might be ISFP or INFP.

But, if it really is narrowed down to INFJ or ISFJ, I think you sound more like an INFJ to me...
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I think the difficulty with living in the moment could be if you are using your tertiary introverted intuition fuction instead of your auxiliary extraverted sensing function.
Another possiblity is that you are an INFJ with Inferior Se function. For me, having Inferior Se has meant that I have a strong desire to live in the moment at times, and sometimes Se completely overtakes me for a short time; but it's not something that I can easily access at any time, nor easily control when it comes upon me unawares.
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@ vocalist- aw why don't you want to be an infj?
It's not that I don't want to be INFJ. It's just that, being a young mother, I often try to act more like an ISFJ, and then when I am unsuccessful I get really down on myself. Learning more about INFJ functions has helped me to be able to better accept what I am and work with my preferences rather than against them. Still, being able to switch into ISFJ mode at will certainly would be handy...but I've given up trying that tactic; it wasn't good for my mental health.
I guess this post might seem a bit defensive. But the thing is, I want to go into a career in psychology and international relations. I want to spend my life studying people and the ways in which we relate to each other, express ourselves, arrange ourselves into societies, form our cultures, and where that's going to take us in the future. I want to understand- and try to improve. Being an INFJ would mean that at least I have a natural aptitude towards the thing I want to do, which isn't something that happens very often.
This part definitely makes you sound like an INFJ. The desire to help people, and to improve society according to our own personal vision, seems to be a hallmark of INFJs. For instance, I want to be a personal trainer for pregnant and post-partum women to help improve the health of that population, as well as giving them the "tools" they need to give their children a healthier start in life.

A stray bullet from a gang shootout flies straight at your head.

You have absolutely no way of stopping the missile. It is going to hit your brain.

Suddenly the fabric of time stops and a suited man materialized instantly at your side. You find yourself unable to move, but, somehow, you can hear the mysterous man speak to you in a overly formal english accent

"You might be wondering who I am," he begins "but that is most inconsequential. What deserves your consideration is the bullet in front of you. You see, I am unable to stop that bullet from piercing your brain; it is against the rules, you see."

He senses your desperation and lets it linger before he begins again:

"Now what I Can do is give you a choice." His tone turns even more serious and businesslike, "if you rush to tilt your head to the left, you will survive but you introverted intuition function will be rendered unusable for the rest of your life. Now if you rush to tilt your head right, you will survive as well, but your introverted sensing function will be rendered unusable for the rest of your life. If you turn into any other direction, you will just die"

He holds three fingers in front of you. He lowers the fist one: 2. Then 1. Then you are out of fingers.

"Choose wisely"

Time starts at a sloughed pace, as if it has been woken up from a nap. You feel the power of movement, once more. In the drawn out split second, you turn you head ____________
Haha, I like this :crazy:
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