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1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?

Whilst I am very certain of being an INP type, it is the third letter that I am slightly unsure about. But I would be an 'Unhealthy' INFP or INTP, if any of those.

Though I am most likely an F type, I doubt this because I am not very sympathetic and I have always been socially awkward (a psychiatrist has also diagnosed me with mild asperger's syndrome, but I believe this to be a misdiagnosis, and believe there to be another problem that mimics it somehow or is very similar, it is not that I am socially clueless, but rather socially terrified). I am and have always been weak, when conflict or criticism comes along, I will move Heaven and Earth to avoid it, when I face it, my spineless back flops over and I am paralysed. This is perhaps why I feel more on the F side.

2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?

A lot of the time I yearn for some sort of clarity. My beloved inner world is always subject to terrible earthquakes, famines, wars and other disasters. Yet, it seems as if I am apathetic to this, as if I have fled, and do not know where I am, homeless, in fact. It is of course, because of all of this, that I do not know where my interests or passions lie. Though I desire to know.

On the outside, I am not very bothered about much. Most of it is all nonsense, jobs, money etc. But I do however desire a wife, and children (though I am not sure if I am willing to subject them to this world which is heading for rapid decline).

3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.

I can not remember, for I do not think I have been at my finest. When I walk however, my mind seems to walk with me, and I am full of thoughts. However, these thoughts do not seem to have anything to them, they seem to be idealistic always and float away.

4) What makes you feel inferior?

When I read a work written by a genius (even though I do not read much, for I am too troubled and lazy to read). My inferiority is always in terms of intelligence or wit.

5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)

It is always the general feeling of something, and that is very hard to explain. It as if I can feel the ins and outs of everything, and can too be sentimental. For instance, when given a roast beef dinner, I can attribute to it certain things via feeling - does it feel old-fashioned? does it feel homely? etc. This seems to outweigh taste as in the senses, and so I do not decide on whether I like something or not because of it's mere taste, but the feeling of the taste, or it's appearance, however ridiculous that sounds.

6) When working on a project what is normally your emphasis? Do you like to have control of the outcome?

I would not know, for I do not like and cannot remember when I have ever started a 'project'.

7) Describe us a time where you had a lot of fun. How is your memory of it?

Cannot remember a time.

8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)

I'm a mathematical or logical learner, it would seem. When learning at first, I can be quite slow, but as soon as I grasp the big-picture, or the underlying patterns, then I learn quite quickly. If it is of any relevance, my favoured subjects (in terms of education) are Maths, Philosophy, Theoretical Science (excluding Biology), whilst my least favoured are History, Biology, Physical Education or in that sense anything practical at all.

9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?

Not at all organized, both outer and inner, though I do desire to be organized.

10) How do you judge new ideas? You try to understand the principles behind it to see if they make sense or do you look for information that supports it?

Understand the principles behind it.

11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?

Second.

12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?

One-on-one, of course. I do think before I speak when in groups (which is very rare), but when in one-on-one, I seem to juggle thoughts, possibilities and ideas for the very sake of it. Mostly I try to figure out all of the factors the affect certain things, such as a bus' journey, and then also how individual factors affect other ones just for the very sake of it.

13) Do you jump into action right away or do you like to know where are you jumping before leaping? Does action speaks more than words?

I'd like to know where I am jumping. Action certainly does, but not always, it is dependent on the situation. Today, when people say 'I love you' to each other, it has gotten to the stage where I do not believe it at all, for people do not realize the value of words any more, and so actions are a better thing to judge.

14) It's Saturday. You're at home, and your favourite show is about to start. Your friends call you for a night out. What will you do?

Neither of those things happen. But it has happened when I was younger that I have stubbornly wanted to stay in but after persuasion, changed my mind.

15) How do you act when you're stressed out?

I'm not quite sure.

16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?

Most of all, I do not like people that cannot seem to comprehend the notion of privacy. Pretentious people, I also do not like, though I have been accused of being pretentious myself, but I am confused as to why.

17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?

Philosophy, nostalgic things.

18) What kind of things do pay the least attention to in your life

I'm not sure.

19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?

They mostly, and even people that do not know me very well, say that I am a 'genius', 'the smartest person they've ever met', people have also stared at me in some sort of amazement, but nothing could be further from the truth. When I deny their compliments, they then begin calling me 'modest'. Which I hate again, for I do not believe that. I have also been called 'unique', 'different' etc. which I like very much and I must admit that I do hope to be called those and other things. 'Shy', 'quiet', 'within yourself', all are correct. 'In your own world', correct.

20) You got a whole day to do whatever you like. What kind of activities do you feel like doing?

It is the holidays, so that perhaps applies, but I am so troubled that I do not do very much. Every day seems to repeat the last. Ideally, I would walk, think, study, read etc.
 

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@benswh Why are you torn between them? J and P is not a simple change of one letter, it changes the cognitive function stack.

INFP = Fi Ne Si Te
INFJ = Ni Fe Ti Se

Fi is different to Fe, Ni is different to Ne. You use Fi Ne Si Te. When I have time I will go through your post to highlight your use of these functions. :)
 

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A few questions: how do you perceive your surroundings? When you're taking in a location, if you take it in all that much to begin with, how is it that you take it in? How do people see you in this regard, if they've ever remarked on this? Examples of you observing things, or even people, just about anything, would be greatly useful; some form of detail would especially help.

Another thing I could use is a description of this inner world you have: when it comes to possibilities, what exactly are you focused on? What exactly do you find yourself thinking about? I don't need private thoughts or anything of the sort, but more like a general idea for how you perceive possibilities and concepts.

To be honest, the part that I'm confused about with you is whether you've got S or N, because everything else seems pretty much in place: you have a clear Fi-Te. As such, I'd want some more information to clarify whether you're INFP, or actually ISFP. You give off a dominant Fi vibe, and you pretty much seem like an INFP, but it'd be great to have confirmation. It's really because of it that I'm asking about how you perceive your surroundings in various fronts, since, between an INFP and an ISFP, there's a world of difference.
 

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1) What aspect of your personality made you unsure of your type?

Whilst I am very certain of being an INP type, it is the third letter that I am slightly unsure about. But I would be an 'Unhealthy' INFP or INTP, if any of those.

Though I am most likely an F type, I doubt this because I am not very sympathetic and I have always been socially awkward (a psychiatrist has also diagnosed me with mild asperger's syndrome, but I believe this to be a misdiagnosis, and believe there to be another problem that mimics it somehow or is very similar, it is not that I am socially clueless, but rather socially terrified). I am and have always been weak, when conflict or criticism comes along, I will move Heaven and Earth to avoid it, when I face it, my spineless back flops over and I am paralysed. That is a tendency of dom Fi with inf Te. This is perhaps why I feel more on the F side. Ts are not too fazed by conflict. INTJ and ISTJ will say what they need to say and leave it. INTPs will explore it.

2) What do you yearn for in life? Why?

A lot of the time I yearn for some sort of clarity. My beloved inner world is always subject to terrible earthquakes, famines, wars and other disasters. Fi dom, aux Ne. Yet, it seems as if I am apathetic to this, as if I have fled, and do not know where I am, homeless, in fact. Fi-Ne, inf Te. It is of course, because of all of this, that I do not know where my interests or passions lie. Though I desire to know.

On the outside, I am not very bothered about much. Most of it is all nonsense, jobs, money etc. Fi dom, inf Te. But I do however desire a wife, and children (though I am not sure if I am willing to subject them to this world which is heading for rapid decline). Fi dom (the way you said it).

3) Think about a time where you felt like you were at your finest. Tell us what made you feel that way.

I can not remember, for I do not think I have been at my finest. When I walk however, my mind seems to walk with me, and I am full of thoughts. However, these thoughts do not seem to have anything to them, they seem to be idealistic always and float away. Fi-Ne, inf Te.

4) What makes you feel inferior?

When I read a work written by a genius (your wording - Fi dom) (even though I do not read much, for I am too troubled and lazy to read). Your wording - Fi dom. My inferiority is always in terms of intelligence or wit. Inf Te.

5) What tends to weigh on your decisions? (Do you think about people, pro-cons, how you feel about it, etc.)

It is always the general feeling of something, and that is very hard to explain. Fi for feeling and Ne for general. It as if I can feel the ins and outs of everything, and can too be sentimental. Sentimental would be from dom Fi, tert Si. Like reliving the feelings or longing for the feelings you've felt in the past. For instance, when given a roast beef dinner, I can attribute to it certain things via feeling - does it feel old-fashioned? does it feel homely? etc. Fi-Ne-Si. This seems to outweigh taste as in the senses, and so I do not decide on whether I like something or not because of it's mere taste, but the feeling of the taste, or it's appearance, however ridiculous that sounds. Fi dom.

8) When you want to learn something new, what feels more natural for you? (Are you more prone to be hands on, to theorize, to memorize, etc)

I'm a mathematical or logical learner, it would seem. When learning at first, I can be quite slow, but as soon as I grasp the big-picture, (intuitive) or the underlying patterns, then I learn quite quickly. If it is of any relevance, my favoured subjects (in terms of education) are Maths, Philosophy, Theoretical Science (excluding Biology), whilst my least favoured are History, Biology, Physical Education or in that sense anything practical at all. Inf Te.

9) How organized do you to think of yourself as?

Not at all organized, both outer and inner, though I do desire to be organized. The desire can sometimes come from inf Te but the reason you may not carry it out is because it is in the inferior position. You may not feel organised in your inner world because of Fi entertaining Ne ideas which jumps from thing to thing.

11) You find harmony by making sure everyone is doing fine and belonging to a given group or by making sure that you follow what you believe and being yourself?

Second. Fi.

12) Are you the kind that thinks before speaking or do you speak before thinking? Do you prefer one-on-one communication or group discussions?

One-on-one, of course. I do think before I speak when in groups (which is very rare), but when in one-on-one, I seem to juggle thoughts, possibilities and ideas for the very sake of it. Aux Ne. Mostly I try to figure out all of the factors the affect certain things, such as a bus' journey, and then also how individual factors affect other ones just for the very sake of it. Aux Ne.

16) What makes you dislike the personalities of some people?

Most of all, I do not like people that cannot seem to comprehend the notion of privacy. Fi dom. Pretentious people, I also do not like, Fi. though I have been accused of being pretentious myself, but I am confused as to why.

17) Is there anything you really like talking about with other people?

Philosophy, (Ne) nostalgic things. Fi-Si.

19) How do your friends perceive you? What is wrong about their perception? ? What would your friends never say about your personality ?

They mostly, and even people that do not know me very well, say that I am a 'genius', 'the smartest person they've ever met', people have also stared at me in some sort of amazement, but nothing could be further from the truth. When I deny their compliments, they then begin calling me 'modest'. Which I hate again, for I do not believe that. Fi dom. I have also been called 'unique', 'different' etc. which I like very much and I must admit that I do hope to be called those and other things. Fi-Ne in this context. 'Shy', 'quiet', 'within yourself', all are correct. 'In your own world', correct. Fi dom.
 

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@benswh Why are you torn between them? J and P is not a simple change of one letter, it changes the cognitive function stack.
Well, I believe I understand MBTI more than I am letting on, I'm aware of the function stacks and the effect that individual letter changes have on them.

Although the two do not share any functions at all, I cannot help but question if I could be an INFJ, perhaps it is down to my indecisiveness. There seems to be a presence of some extroverted feeling at least for I can be extremely polite to the point in which it annoys whoever is subjected to it. It is also a common conception that INFPs are writers of many wonders, but my writing is nothing but a montage of blunders. I'm very sure that is something you have already gathered. So I doubt that I am an INFP at all, but your other post is certainly of promise.
 

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There seems to be a presence of some extroverted feeling at least for I can be extremely polite to the point in which it annoys whoever is subjected to it.
Any person can be polite if they want to... but I'm interested to hear what you do to be polite and how people react to it.

It is also a common conception that INFPs are writers of many wonders, but my writing is nothing but a montage of blunders. I'm very sure that is something you have already gathered.
All I'm gathering is Fi-dom-speak. I'm not here to criticise how you write - I'm not going to read what you've said and think it's a blunder. That's far from my mind. I'm just here to categorise what I see by pointing out functions. You can use that information to compare it to function descriptions and see how your thought process may line up. It's for you to draw correlations if you wish. That's all I'm doing.

So I doubt that I am an INFP at all, but your other post is certainly of promise.
I think you're an INFP but it's your call. There's no need to put INFP up if you believe you're an INFJ.
 

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how do you perceive your surroundings? When you're taking in a location, if you take it in all that much to begin with, how is it that you take it in? How do people see you in this regard, if they've ever remarked on this? Examples of you observing things, or even people, just about anything, would be greatly useful; some form of detail would especially help.

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Seemingly difficult to answer. But what I can say is, regarding people, most people, I can and always have been able to intuitively know somewhat the type of person they are just by looking at them, some being easier than others. Though, it is as if I am not looking at them, but looking somewhere towards them whilst not looking at them, and that must be far from understandable. Perhaps I should refer myself to a psychiatric ward.

With location, I'd suppose it would be similar to the above if I were to guess. Very sorry I am however, for I can not answer much more.

Another thing I could use is a description of this inner world you have: when it comes to possibilities, what exactly are you focused on? What exactly do you find yourself thinking about? I don't need private thoughts or anything of the sort, but more like a general idea for how you perceive possibilities and concepts.
Difficult question again, but I'll try. Imagine the inner world exists as similar to our own.

Unquenchable anxiety occupies the air, and has for so long that I have grown numb to it. Let's give the anxiety a smell, and as normal, when one is subjected constantly to a smell for long, one's nose grows bored and lacks the enthusiasm to let it in. Confusion is also painted wherever one looks, trees lie upside-down, leaving giraffes questioning their unreasonably long necks.

On the topic of unreasonable things, the paragraph above is an example of it, for what is it's relevance to the question that you asked?

Then again, most of the things that I focus on are quite unreasonable. Very silly things, idiotic philosophies that make no sense at all, to give an example would be embarrassing.

But I will give an example of a process that occurs and I will hope that it is relevant, for your question is much harder to answer than I had expected. Most of the time, I will imagine things, things that are completely unfounded. At the time however I do not realize this. It continues until I stumble upon reality, and all of the fantasies in which I had built momentarily crumble. Delusions, perhaps?
 

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Any person can be polite if they want to... but I'm interested to hear what you do to be polite and how people react to it.

All I'm gathering is Fi-dom-speak. I'm not here to criticise how you write - I'm not going to read what you've said and think it's a blunder. That's far from my mind. I'm just here to categorise what I see by pointing out functions. You can use that information to compare it to function descriptions and see how your thought process may line up. It's for you to draw correlations if you wish. That's all I'm doing.

I think you're an INFP but it's your call. There's no need to put INFP up if you believe you're an INFJ.
I'm becoming more confident that I am indeed an INFP.

A couple of examples -

Whenever somebody invites me into their home, I will ask them again and again 'are you sure it's not a problem' and say 'I don't want to intrude'. Going on holiday abroad or emigrating will only lead to myself becoming full of guilt, for I am intruding on land which is not my own.

If somebody offers to cook for me or give me food, I will constantly say 'only do so if it is not a problem, and if you have both the time and the resources', I might even offer to pay for whatever they have given me, to which they always decline.
 

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Seemingly difficult to answer. But what I can say is, regarding people, most people, I can and always have been able to intuitively know somewhat the type of person they are just by looking at them, some being easier than others. Though, it is as if I am not looking at them, but looking somewhere towards them whilst not looking at them, and that must be far from understandable. Perhaps I should refer myself to a psychiatric ward.

With location, I'd suppose it would be similar to the above if I were to guess. Very sorry I am however, for I can not answer much more.
Intuitive, intangible observation that's difficult to explain?

Difficult question again, but I'll try. Imagine the inner world exists as similar to our own.

Unquenchable anxiety occupies the air, and has for so long that I have grown numb to it. Let's give the anxiety a smell, and as normal, when one is subjected constantly to a smell for long, one's nose grows bored and lacks the enthusiasm to let it in. Confusion is also painted wherever one looks, trees lie upside-down, leaving giraffes questioning their unreasonably long necks.

On the topic of unreasonable things, the paragraph above is an example of it, for what is it's relevance to the question that you asked?

Then again, most of the things that I focus on are quite unreasonable. Very silly things, idiotic philosophies that make no sense at all, to give an example would be embarrassing.

But I will give an example of a process that occurs and I will hope that it is relevant, for your question is much harder to answer than I had expected. Most of the time, I will imagine things, things that are completely unfounded. At the time however I do not realize this. It continues until I stumble upon reality, and all of the fantasies in which I had built momentarily crumble. Delusions, perhaps?
"Very silly things"?

"Idiotic philosophies"?!

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... Welcome to the club, my friend. You are most definitely an INFP.

Naturally, I took more from your post than that, but yup, you got a Si-Ne, alright. You're totally an INFP. Also, the reccurring anxiety that permeates to the point where it becomes commonplace and you just feel numb about it is basically me, hahaha.
 

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Would struggling to argue, or debating be a common trouble for the INFP?

Not only because of the fear and dislike of conflict, or criticism, but also because of inferior Te? For whenever I try to come up with an argument of any sort, regarding intellectual issues, although I faithfully cling to the truth, I cannot argue for it. But then again, faith does not ask to be reasoned for. Sometimes, I can argue against something with ease, until I return later drenched in scrupulosity and find minor logical faults that tend to go unnoticed by others. Oftentimes, though cowardly in a sense, I will admit to whoever is at the other end of the debate that for me to argue is to go to war with a stick of celery.

Problems such as the above result in the inevitable feeling that I do not genuinely believe what I allegedly believe.
 

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Would struggling to argue, or debating be a common trouble for the INFP?

Not only because of the fear and dislike of conflict, or criticism, but also because of inferior Te? For whenever I try to come up with an argument of any sort, regarding intellectual issues, although I faithfully cling to the truth, I cannot argue for it. But then again, faith does not ask to be reasoned for. Sometimes, I can argue against something with ease, until I return later drenched in scrupulosity and find minor logical faults that tend to go unnoticed by others. Oftentimes, though cowardly in a sense, I will admit to whoever is at the other end of the debate that for me to argue is to go to war with a stick of celery.

Problems such as the above result in the inevitable feeling that I do not genuinely believe what I allegedly believe.
That's a common INFP characteristic. Nothing strange to me. I'd say it's a Ne thing: it gets you all anxious about these what-ifs that it creates anxiety and gives constant doubt. I tend to avoid debate because I can't guarantee my points are right, or for fear of embarrassing myself epically. However, I still stand by my beliefs. Personally, it's like one half is 100% sure of being right, while the other is 0% sure. I wouldn't say that you don't believe yourself, but that you likely just doubt yourself. I think inferior Te could have a part on it, but in different ways.

To be honest, this is the sort of thing you could make a thread for in the INFP Forum. A lot of INFPs would be willing to give you answers to this, and many could probably provide more insight.
 

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Yes. While auxiliary Ne can play a part, it is mainly the dynamic between dominant Fi and inferior Te that causes your problem. Te provides you with the structure and method of delivery; how to effectively weigh your facts and points against theirs. Having the dynamic of inferior Te with dominant Fi makes it harder for you to deliver an argument in the usual manner that you see people participating in. With dominant Fi you would have such a strong preference to be authentic and true, down to your very core, that you would put most of your energy into refining who you are (Fi); you would do this by exploring ideas through Ne. Your natural inclination is not to form conclusions for others or bring others to your conclusions. And if someone is trying to argue against one of your beliefs, they are, in a sense, arguing against you (I assume that this is how you would feel but it is not actually what a person is trying to do).​ Do you get what I mean? And on another level, because you have put so much energy into becoming this person, it would cause you so much angst to be misunderstood, yet how do you effectively portray what you stand for? By being yourself.

INTPs and ENTPs have Ne (aux/dom) and have no issues with arguing or presenting their thoughts. This is because they would rather keep their arguments in the grey area as this provides them with the opportunity to feed Ne and Ti. They are exploring ideas through Ne and refining their own logic through Ti. Thus they are forming logical conclusions for themselves and are keeping communication channels open so that they can play around with ideas. They are usually not so invested into the thoughts and focal points that they bring to the surface. When you engage with them, you're most likely standing in their playing field. It's you against their barrage of random ideas. :p

A dominant or auxiliary Te user will tackle things differently. They will want to form a conclusion. They are moving certain players into certain positions because they are ultimately interested in affecting the external world.

Te and Fe - a decisive nature that is directed towards the external world to universalise conclusions (tailored for specific groups of people).
Ti and Fi - a refining nature that is directed inwards, personalising conclusions.
 

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There seems to be a presence of some extroverted feeling at least for I can be extremely polite to the point in which it annoys whoever is subjected to it.
This is not Fe, this is Fi. If you want to know more, open the spoiler. There's a lot to read. :x
 

I'm becoming more confident that I am indeed an INFP.

A couple of examples -
Thank you for these examples. I will try to explain to you why people take it in the wrong way.

Whenever somebody invites me into their home, I will ask them again and again 'are you sure it's not a problem' and say 'I don't want to intrude'. Going on holiday abroad or emigrating will only lead to myself becoming full of guilt, for I am intruding on land which is not my own.
Your home and your privacy is very special to you. You would not want people to intrude into your "space". Even as a tertiary Fi user, I can understand this.

When you're adamant in asking people whether something is a problem, these two things are likely to happen:

1) They could get offended because they are offering something to you, or extending something to you, that they think you would like, but when you are adamant in asking if it's okay, they would be wondering why you are not accepting it.

Imagine you have something of worth and you would like to share it with others to bring them happiness or security. Imagine what would happen if the person you offered it to seemed so adamant that you should check again and again to see whether you really want to offer it to them. How would that make you feel? Besides wondering why they are just not accepting it, wouldn't other things like doubt creep in? Wouldn't you start to wonder if there's something wrong with what you just offered? Maybe you will begin to feel uneasy when you start to think that they don't want it. Maybe you will feel offended if you start to think that they do not see the value in what you are offering, or at how much cost it came to you to even offer it in the first place.

2) They don't see it as a problem for them, or it is not as inconvenient to them as you think it is. Therefore, your hesitance (your politeness) is turning the scenario into a problem when there was either no problem in the first place, or when the pros outweighed the cons.

People have already established external customs or standards of practice (the concerns of Fe and Te) and you are 'not paying much attention to them' because of dominant Fi and inferior Te. If you would spend more time to understand these customary practices, it would help ease your interactions with others because these external standards are what other people most likely adhere to or are used to. You have mistaken your Fi views and politeness for Fe. Fe deals with customs and norms, what is widely accepted ('universal'), and Fi deals with what you accept (personal).

As an INFP, you have the same valued functions as I do, but we have them in a different order. If you came to me with your politeness (dominant Fi) of not wanting to intrude on my personal space, I'd be all for it. I treasure privacy and want to keep my space private (tertiary Fi).

On the other hand, here is another scenario. I invite you over because I enjoy your company and would like to have you here; I tell you this. If you are adamant to ask me if that is okay, I will get irritated because when I say something, I mean it (that is a tendency for tertiary Fi, auxiliary Te users). And, as I have told you that I would like you there, continuing to ask me will take up unnecessary time. Te users are particular to time because they measure a lot of things against it (it is an external measure that they use in evaluation). Time to them is like values to you; you don't mess with it. :tongue:

If somebody offers to cook for me or give me food, I will constantly say 'only do so if it is not a problem, and if you have both the time and the resources', I might even offer to pay for whatever they have given me, to which they always decline.
Besides being polite, the core of why you're saying this, in terms of cognitive function, is due to inferior Te. Time and resources are external measures that Te users pay particular attention to. This is why you mentioned these things in particular, out of all the things you could have said.

When you repeated it, it showed that you did not pay attention to the concerns of Fe (customs/atmosphere) and at the same time, you demonstrated inferior Te. The repetition is your projection of your own 'thinking' (your process of thinking), onto them. The repetition shows your concern for time and resource, but lack of knowledge of how to put this concern into a suitable context. If you continue to do this, people will feel uneasy because in reality, it is out of place to put so much emphasis on time and resource when they just want to offer you something to eat. I can understand if they're 'juggling' children or work (time), or struggling with finances (resources), but I'm addressing the circumstances where people are getting along fine and you still have an inclination to repeat your concerns.

As you lead with a dominant introverted judging function, it is natural for you to come to quick conclusions and decisions. On the other hand, dominant introverted perceivers are slower to come to conclusions because their primary mode is to take in information; they spend more time pondering over it. So in essence, when you interact with people, it is easier for you to project how you think and feel, onto them, as if now they think and feel in the same way you do, or that they just jive with the way that you think. I am not sure if you are aware of that concept, but it is what you did with me when you said, "I'm very sure that is something you have already gathered."

Overall, good intentions can be misinterpreted and it is sad that despite your efforts to be polite, people do not always receive it this way.
 

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Sorry for posting again, it would have seemed as if this thread had fell to it's natural end. But as always, I return. Though, I am speaking as if it has been abandoned for quite a while.

There happens to be something causing me a lot of doubt (though completely innate for I entered the womb with a doubting disease) and it is something that I had mentioned in the very first answer of the questionnaire, which I should have emphasised.

That is, the diagnosis of asperger's, and also my disapproval of it. For instance, INFPs are said to be loving, supportive, empathetic souls who are masters of emotion. Asperger's, however, lies on the contrary. Would it not be right to associate or find similarities between the typical symptoms of asperger's with the peoples of the INTX (and in some cases ISTJ) persuasion rather than that of the INFP? Is there then any way that a very troubled INFP can mimic or appear as someone 'aspergery'? (Do note, the diagnosis is Mild Asperger's Syndrome, which may indicate some uncertainty, that I have always doubted it myself and believe that the symptoms are caused by an extreme social anxiety or some sort of personality disorder, and that the diagnosis may have made it so through belief, I have subconsciously picked up some of it's symptoms.)

Below are the typical traits that I have found from a website, I will make bold those more relevant to me for an easier conclusion/analysis.

Social/Communication Traits

Despite a desire for friends, difficulty in initiating or maintaining close relationships
Problems reading non-verbal or social cues or understanding/using social rules
Very socially naïve and as a result are often taken advantage of, rejected, or bullied
Social contact may be directed by them (e.g. play is “on their terms” or not at all) (perhaps, though somewhat doubtful)
Poor (or intense) eye contact, atypical use of gestures and flat or inappropriate facial expressions
One-sided conversations, and little ability for “small talk”
May appear overly shy or overly extroverted, but inappropriately so
Unaware of others’ thoughts, feelings or perceptions resulting in inadvertently appearing rude or inconsiderate
Literal interpretation of communication from others
Avoidant of social contact or events, and may experience heightened anxiety in social situations
Language is learned and used in “chunks” (e.g., phrases, dialogue from TV shows, etc.)
Communication is used for delivering information or requesting, not as a way of interacting socially


Behavioural Traits

May respond poorly to changes, sensory stimuli, transitions, lack of structure, and restrictions
Repetitive movements (e.g., jumping, rocking, pacing) and speech (i.e., talking about favourite topics, interest)
Rigid, inflexible and rule-bound behaviour
Inappropriate behaviour given the social situation (e.g., speaking too loud in place of worship)
Exaggerated emotional response to situations (e.g., tantrums when asked to something that they don’t want to do)
Superior ability to focus on favourite activity or area of interest (e.g., spends hours mastering video game to the exclusion of other pastimes)


Cognitive Traits

Average to superior intelligence (not of my choice but I am often referred to as a genius)
Detail oriented approach to tasks which may result in missing the “bigger picture”
May have associated learning disabilities (e.g., non-verbal learning disability)
Often have high verbal scores in a cognitive assessment, and low performance scores
Difficulty seeing “parts-to-whole” and “whole-to-parts” relationships
Prefer technical/factual information over abstract


Associated Challenges

Anxiety and depression
Attentional difficulties (sometimes) (e.g., shifting attention; attending to unimportant stimuli)
Tics or Tourette Syndrome
Gross and fine motor deficits
Poor organizational skills (e.g., time management and planning, partializing tasks)

I do also apologize for the post's length.
 

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Short answer? No. At least, probably not: for example, my father isn't exactly healthy mentally, but I could still type him as ESFJ because he still displays the thought processes fitting of the type. I imagine this applies for everyone (though I naturally can't be 100% sure). Besides, people are varied. What INFPs can be described as sometimes correlates with only a certain variant of the INFP thought process. Nothing you're saying is changing my mind. Unfortunately, while I can discern a type, I can't discern the conditions you may or may not have, so there are some questions I can't respond to, like how if an INFP could be reminiscent of certain conditions, but not actually have them; I naturally wouldn't know. There could be a tendency for x characteristic in x type to be seen by others as this or that, but I don't find myself qualified to give an opinion on this matter.
 
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