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All porn inherently? no not at all but its a pretty broad brush.
Assuming all parties involved are willing I don't see an issue in ethics.

You can argue the parties are not healthy people to be willing to do porn, but honestly most people aren't working jobs they want to be doing for reasons beyond their power.
 

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No more so than watching a gory, violent slasher film is ethical/unethical. Provided there are safety limits and acts are consensual, I don't see any inherent ethical problem in any sexual activity, regardless of whether that activity is filmed. Like @Mountainshepherd pointed out already, why people work as anything has so many nuanced reasons so I don't really think the industry of pornography is some sort of cyclops in need of slaying.

The usual arguments for pornography being unethical, a priori, usually revolve around disgust for the sexual acts; though how one can categorise sex acts as good/bad, normal/deviant etc in any meaningful, objective way escapes me. Other arguments suggest that pornography cheapens sex, though what sex is 'worth' strikes me as a matter of individual choice. Lastly many believe that pornography exposure inspires sexual violence. The argument is very similar to the furore that surrounds violent video games, movies etc. However, I am unaware of any causal link ever having been established between sex offending and pornography viewing/possession. Most academics suggest that the strongest predictor of sexual offending is having been a victim of a sex offence, particularly as a child. Though I'm not naïve enough to assume that images, film and advertising don't affect our opinions, drives and motivations in some way, otherwise, well, why advertise, speak or advocate at all?


Really, it's up to you. But I don't buy the idea that watching a porno makes you some (prima facie) weird voyeuristic, misogynistic pervert who resides Gollum like in their basement staring relentlessly at people who shag in front of video cameras. I do find the lack of education to combat an increasing prevalence of erotic material to be slightly disturbing, but that's a different issue altogether. Long story short, porn's ethical standing = your call.
 

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Nope - it's legal to produce it and legal to watch after a certain age. Like anything, it can be abused, used to excess, become and addiction, but in and of itself? No, I don't think it immoral. Like other sensorable items, if I don't care to watch it, I wont. That does not mean I will try to interfere with your watching it.
 

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I love the differences in response and opinion.
I'm only asking because I've been watching a lot of porn lately.
I would say that, women in porn turn to it because its a source of power (This is from observation, I write fiction, so I use my own observations to come to conclusions at times) A source of power, then also, it's the only thing these women know. And most of that trickles down to, and jumping out on a limb here, Daddy issues. Because your Father is the first man you have to base the rest of your attractions to I suppose.
Maybe it's my INFPness, but I watch porn, because it's a quick source of a sensual feeling. I try to understand what is going on in my brain while I'm masturbating. It's such a disconnect. I don't know. Right now, I'm leaning more towards it not being so positive. I mean, in most instances I'd say it comes out of some youthful rebel attitude, or "I'll do what I gotta do to make the big bucks."
But one issue is, with kids now, the kids that will grow up having FULL ACCESS to porn, will run into some intense shit. And it'll be between them and the computer only.
There is some really intense shit on there.
Women getting throat fucked till they vomit, pulling of the hair, being forced to say really degrading things.
Imagine running into that when your mind is just developing. It's very scary. And so personal, you can't un-know that kind of shit.
 

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And hardly any parents seriously sit down and talk with their kids about sex.
From my experience. I'd say the majority avoids it.
 

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If your interested in the normal 1 on 1, male and female porn then you really need to see a psychologist.

But all the brutal stuff, Hardcore, group, orgy and the rest seems pretty normal
 

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I do not agree with pornography. In order for someone to watch other people engaging in sex acts publicly for entertainment, someone else had to actually commit said sex act on camera for all to see. I've listened to many ex-porn stars tell their stories, and many have had their self-esteem affected negatively by being in that industry. Some have contracted STDs because STD screening is not priority, according to some of the ex-porn stars. It is far more than just acting. I have seen relationships destroyed by pornography use. I do not agree with watching it (yes, I would say it's unethical, I won't lie), but to me, it is even more unethical to produce the stuff, as those who produce it are playing a more active role in promoting an industry that I am very strongly against.
 

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For men though, I think there is such a fine line.
Ted Bundy talked a lot about how he blamed porn for a lot of his murders, the bar of stimulus was set so high. He came across it one day and couldn't forget it. I also read a story about a woman who saw some gnarly S&M stuff, and it haunted her in the sense that she couldn't forget it. She wanted to be beaten by her boyfriend/husband but she was too ashamed.
It is an individual experience, but the thousands of many secrets are clear when you're watching it, of how it could be affecting someone who:
a) Seriously enjoys it
b) Could become terribly traumatized by it, for whatever reason

But in our culture, porn is extremely normal. But think about what it's doing for developing teenage boys in relationships at school. They expect girls to do the things they see in porn, anal sex for example is so common now. Many more men want to try it, or can't get off without it. It's guiding our sexual urges and lives before we even get a chance to realize it.
 

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Not my cup of tea, but I don't think the act of watching it is unethical at all. I think the false expectations it puts on both men and women can be detrimental though.
 

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Not my cup of tea, but I don't think the act of watching it is unethical at all. I think the false expectations it puts on both men and women can be detrimental though.
False expectations? People watch porn because it is a fantasy. The moment you make contact with a real person, it's obvious how fake porn it.
 

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Pornography is not unethical because it is not harmful to the viewer and produces pleasure.In my opinion the majority of the people in porn have positve or neutrel experiences.

Child pornography is an obvious exception.
 

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False expectations? People watch porn because it is a fantasy. The moment you make contact with a real person, it's obvious how fake porn it.
Never underestimate the ability of people to be naive. The less mature are known to throw tantrums when they are disabused of their nativete, like some kids when they realise there's no Santa Claus...
 
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If it is unethical, it's not because it's abnormal or anomalous: There was an attempted social study where they were going to compare attitudes between groups of men who watched porn vs. those who did not. The problem: They couldn't find guys who didn't watch or view porn in some form or another. Those who abstain are statistically weird.

That being said, if you prefer jerking off with a laptop to actually being intimate with someone (or acting towards being intimate with someone) then you are committing basically the very essence of what the ancients would call "sin": You're choosing the unreal imitation over the real thing, and if you really get into it you'll mistake one for the other and think your relationship is with Asia Carerra or Rita Faltoyano. I've actually witnessed this.

And though you won't get hairy palms and go blind, porn helps you gradually develop a dopamine tolerance that makes real sex difficult if not impossible. I can tell you that certain . . . uh . . . professionals I know have noticed that johns have stopped ejaculating during their sessions. The only way they can cum is by jerking off while looking at a computer. It's sad but true, and most news outlets won't mention that part, instead covering the "oh, the poor exploited woman!" angle or the ever-reliable "but think of the children" bullshit. In actual point of fact, the more accepted porn in an society, the fewer instances of rape and molestation there are. That's the good part. The bad part is that it's because in those societies porn has basically turned young males into virtually-castrated jerk-offs.

So, unethical? Ultimately I would say "yes". Don't confuse a 2-dimensional illusion for the real thing.
 

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I wouldn't call it unethical, but I will say that some porn is very disturbing and I have seen some pretty disturbing stuff floating around the internet.
 
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