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I hate when ppl compare ESFP women as being almost brainless and party animals. Thats really not the truth. Yes I love to party, but not all the time. I love researching topics of interest, I was a bit above average in grades in school, ppl do call me bubbly, ditzy and think I have a very "light" personality, but ppl who really know me, tell me I'm a much more deeper person than I show the world. My sister and boyfriend thinks that I fake the persona of a bubbly person cause I love it and it comes naturally to me but I do have several sides than that. I feel ESFP's can be deep. I'm in a constant turmoil about my identity and my place in the world from inside. I don't show that to others. As a performer personality I do like entertaining others, but love my time alone too. I need complete silence when I'm studying or sleeping. Background noise at work and play is fine. I like background noises when I'm cooking or doing house work. Thats why when humanmetrics and socionics said I'm ESFP I couldnt believe the stereotypes I read about us. Some I liked. Some I don't. I especially don't like ppl giving more credit to the male ESFP's when female ESFP's are negatively steotyped. Secondly I hate porn stars and when someone says they are lot like female ESFPs, I hate that. Anyway, now that I've ranted about myself, say something about yourself or the positive stereotypes you think female ESFPs have. Thanks.
 

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The female ones I knew had a real fondness for children, were young at heart, often described by others as 'free-spirited', were naturally flirtatious, sporty (rollerblading or soccer), one of them was very talented with cooking, crafts and costumes, had many male admirers/friends, moody but overall cheerful, one had studied psychology but became an au pair, the other was into science and physiotherapy but went into human resources (she might have been more EnFP). Neither of them were really "partygirls" in an out-of-control Girls Gone Wild way (the only person I knew who was anything like that was an unhealthy ESFJ), though they were definitely popular fixtures at parties.
 

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They work hard! One of my ESFP friends doesn't consider herself really that artistic, but I've seen her attack incredibly ambitious projects with a lot of dedication, and come out with brilliant results. I worked on my Student Council this year with an ESFP as my #2, and he did his job with as much integrity and elbow-grease as I did... and he's taking my job next year!

When I meet ESFP's, I don't expect them to be shallow or ditzy. They can definitely come across that way, but in a sense that makes it even more rewarding when I get to see what they're really about.

You also don't expect ESFP's to have a lot of integrity or moral character, but I've seen the opposite. The ones I know really, really do care about people, are true to their word, and know how to own up to mistakes. There's an honesty, even bluntness they have, which I often find really refreshing.
 

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well I'd rather marry an ESFP then say an ENTJ ..will that help
 

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Thanks everybody, I feel better now knowing I'm an ESFP. I was very frustrated with all the negative stereotypes of female ESFP's on the web. Please come up with more if you can :).
 

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The most positive to me is usually about the generosity of ESFPs, male and female. ESFPs are often involved in charitable causes and volunteering to help people in need, and often females are represented more in these.

The ESFP female I know the best does kinda fit the "party animal" stereotype BUT she also fits the "give you the shirt off her back" stereotype in that she volunteers with kids, helps the homeless, and never thinks twice about donating her time and money to help people who need it. She's combined those two stereotypes in fact by inviting homeless people out to dinner and to parties! :proud:
 

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Adventurous and fearless, like Amy Pond


or suuuper cute, bubbly, and fun, like Kerry from mythbusters
 
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I sometimes think other types can learn a lot from the ESFP bubbly, light way of looking at life.
I associate the ESFP personality type with being fun loving, caring, enthusiastic and energetic.
Being fun loving, caring, enthusiastic and energetic are very good traits to have, but in this serious INxx heavy site, I think it gets look down on a lot.
As for women, these traits are seen as being overly feminine and lacking in any depth. Don't let it get to you, having a positive and energetic enjoyment of life doesn't make you shallow, it just makes you... a positive and energetic lover of life. Nobody should be afraid to show their femininity!
 

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You have to see the positives rather than just the criticisms. Every personality type has its strengths and weaknesses and thus, "advantages and disadvantages". Different personality types have different challenges to conquer. You may even try to view the stereotypes as being positive, as they are subjective judgements. Just remember that what matters is being a well-developed person, not what type you are.

You may not appreciate that being an ESFP is socially advantageous. Being adaptable, care-free, bubbly, excitable, outgoing, emotional and flamboyant are attractive traits compared to, say, INTx types who are typically socially awkward and can be boring to most people. At the end of the day, you're judged on how you come across to others, and since ESFPs are quite volatile and very extroverted, they may appear like they have no depth or seem silly and dumb. This is of course, not the case. They like to draw conclusions by comparing. They may assume that your strengths necessarily deny you of the strengths of polar opposite (INTx) types. This isn't the case. Remember, people judge based on what they know, and if they don't know you well, then their judgement is less valuable.

I suspect that the negativity surrounding ESFPs stems from the perception that "party animal" conjures up images of someone getting drunk and taking drugs and not doing anything productive. They think of ESFP, and they think of the very definition of a "chav". It's all about what they see and what they associate. They may associate all the stereotypically ESFP traits with chavvy behaviour. In truth, anyone of any personality type can be good or bad, and those judgements are again subjective.

I personally find the ESFP personality the most attractive if "done correctly". A lot of it is about perception of stereotypes too. Saying that someone has a "light" personality and is a "party animal" doesn't necessarily mean they have no self respect and do stupid things all the time. It depends on their environment, lifestyle and people they associate with.Of course, certain types are more likely to do certain things but stereotypes don't tell you everything you need to know about a person. Also remember that MBTI is a framework for categorising preferences in behaviour, not abilities.

All in all, don't let personality stereotypes dictate life or take it too seriously. All personality types appear in all levels of society. It would be ludicrous to "label" everyone of a single personality type by a stereotype. Anyways I think I'm repeating myself now so I'll end it here xD
 

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If you need someone to make any reunion entertaining and enjoyable, call an ESFP. They will not let you down. They have incredible people skills.
 

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The only ESFP girl I knew turned out to be pretty observant in her own way.

Since she had an emotional connection with a lot of people, she had a lot of knowledge of how they worked, and she just "got it," if that makes sense. She was intelligent in her own right.


I've actually really enjoyed every interaction I've had with ESFPs. They're interesting people and I love learning about them. The only thing that would keep me from not getting along with them is immaturity, but that applies to every personality regardless.
 

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The ESFP women I know are tough yet gentle. They are very much non apologetic in how they display their personalities.

The stereotype of the airhead ESFP frolicking around is silly. They make me anxious to be honest, they remind me of a well concealed battering ram. ESTPs might be extremely stubborn but they lack the self confidence ESFPs have, because they know exactly who they are and what they want.
 

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I find SEE females usually rather brooding characters, not bubbly, optimistic or light hearted. They are impulsive and willing to do anything, though. Yet, being around them is quite boring if you dont share their interests.

Positively, umm, they are more likely to be geniune and have moral integrity than most people. They are less likely to care about material stuff. They deal with hardships of life head on and they coolz :wink:
 

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- While bubbly often, you guys can be extremely sincere and personal (contrast: ESFJ)
- Love adventure and exploring the world; traveling
- Can coerce poor INTJs out of their shells with a mix of brute force and kindness
- You love your freedom--a part of you which can never be tamed
- You are the most "sincerely passionate" type (contrast: ENFJ)

Of course, INTJs will be biased as we are your duals in Socionics.
 

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Thanks everyone for your opinions :). I feel more relaxed in my own skin now. Sometimes I do delve too much on the criticisms, and not on the positive. Don't you think, that what comes easy to you, you value less, and don't get why it is so hard for other people? Like I find art easy, and don't understand why my INTJ and ENTJ sisters find it hard. Yet, I find their analyzing skills unique. My ENTJ sister looks very soft and cute when she is with me, but when she is social, she has a huge image thing going on, about keeping a poker face, it's like you have to be a ninja to be a socialite, which is quite funny to me. My INTJ sister, is a bit socially awkward and shy, but it doesn't matter, cause she thinks most people are stupid anyway!, lol. In school, I used to bring "social love" to her and she "social respect". We were a team! It worked :). I'm serious about looking very pretty, presentable and feminine, she is very serious about coming across as a highly respectable intelligent person, so sometimes, in social settings, she needs help from me to loosen up, and then, her intelligent colleagues, are shocked by her natural feminine cuteness, lol!...thank u thank u, I feel a little confident now :). You stay with an ESFP, and they will show the world "your inner positive qualities" behind the image :)....if you get along :).

So, thanks everyone :)
 
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