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Don't you think, that what comes easy to you, you value less, and don't get why it is so hard for other people?
You make a very valuable point there. Everyone wants what they don't have, whereas our assets are "a given". For example, imagine anything that you could ever want. If I gave you it, some time later you wouldn't even acknowledge that you wanted it so badly. I think we all naturally "look forward" to certain things or sometimes overstate our desires, thinking that by getting that thing we'll be very happy. Yet, when we get it, although the instantaneous utility is certainly present, it tends to wear off very quickly.

Bottom line: we should all be grateful for who we are and what we have ;)
 

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I admire ESFP's way with children and how they get along with people.
 

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nO_d3N1AL : Hi!, I know what you mean. INXX ppl seem so cool to me, that I sometimes forget that it is okay to be my kind of cool too. Whenever, I wished I had better things in life, I try to take a moment and be grateful that at least I have a roof over my head and had a relatively happy childhood. Not many people have that!. I'm grateful that I have the basic life's necessities and don't have to fight for survival or I'm not living in a life or death situations. I consider myself very lucky, when I think like that. It brings me down to earth and helps focus on the future goals. It helps me be humble and sympathetic towards others. We all are cool in different ways. I accept, my shyness, boldness, friendliness and other ESFP qualities, as part of the whole me. I feel, for people like me, having a discussion like this and organizing thoughts and writing down the positives of one's own nature helps. Because I know that ESFP's improve more with appreciation and positive feedback.

I'm glad I started this positive thread :). Thanks everybody :). We all are awesome !!!! :)

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One day at our restaurant an ESFP was in the kitchen whistling, bouncing back and forth, all while peeling potatoes. There was no music playing, and there was no one but me to see her. I've never seen something so marvelous.

She didn't like being vulnerable, and she would always do something brave when doubt crept in. Her voice was sultry, and everything she said was music. She is so loving and genuine. The word that comes to mind when ESFPs are mentioned, limitless. But if you're lucky you will see their vulnerability, it is quite a sight to behold.

I see why ESFP females have negative stereotypes weighing them down. If they didn't they would just fly away, and some people are so afraid to lose them that they forget to enjoy their wonderful outlook of life.
 

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My mom is an ESFP. She's always willing to help others, she's participated in charity events many times, and she always donates clothes, food and toys. She's very talented at anything she dedicates to -- she's a very good hairdresser and sews very well; she always sews my backpacks, school cases, sheets and many other things, and everyone wants to buy the things she sews because they're very pretty. People often ask me "where did you get that backpack?" and when I say "my mom made it" they're "REALLY? Wow that's so cool!". She's very cheerful and is always successful when it comes to entertaining people. Pretty much everyone who becomes her friend likes her a lot. She's very known at my church because always talks to the priests and the missionaries, and they're all very fond of her, they even call her by a cute nickname.
 

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My mom is an ESFP. She's always willing to help others, she's participated in charity events many times, and she always donates clothes, food and toys. She's very talented at anything she dedicates to -- she's a very good hairdresser and sews very well; she always sews my backpacks, school cases, sheets and many other things, and everyone wants to buy the things she sews because they're very pretty. People often ask me "where did you get that backpack?" and when I say "my mom made it" they're "REALLY? Wow that's so cool!". She's very cheerful and is always successful when it comes to entertaining people. Pretty much everyone who becomes her friend likes her a lot. She's very known at my church because always talks to the priests and the missionaries, and they're all very fond of her, they even call her by a cute nickname.

Hi Beatriz,

Your mom, seems to be a really nice person! It's so cool, she does all that stuff :). Thanks for sharing :)
 
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We all have stereotypes against us.
I border on E and I most days, and people are always surprised to find that "You're much more intelligent than I thought you were. You sound like an airhead, but you're really deep!" Um... Thanks?

ESFPs are whimsical and you can relax around them. They're not uptight or judgmental.

But I do get voted most fun teacher a lot... They behave for me because they WANT to be in my class and if they don't behave I will kick them out. My students all feel comfortable around me and I can discipline them and they don't take it personally, they know I still love them and just want them to succeed.
 

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We all have stereotypes against us.
I border on E and I most days, and people are always surprised to find that "You're much more intelligent than I thought you were. You sound like an airhead, but you're really deep!" Um... Thanks?

ESFPs are whimsical and you can relax around them. They're not uptight or judgmental.

But I do get voted most fun teacher a lot... They behave for me because they WANT to be in my class and if they don't behave I will kick them out. My students all feel comfortable around me and I can discipline them and they don't take it personally, they know I still love them and just want them to succeed.
I have realized, all types have some stereotypes they don't like. And like you said, I'd rather be loved that hated, and that makes me an ESFP.

I'm glad your students love you. It is difficult to discipline students, when they are such a bundle of joy :). Probably ISFP/ESFP make the most loved teachers like you :).

Kudos: Always feel loved :)
 

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I hate when ppl compare ESFP women as being almost brainless and party animals. Thats really not the truth. Yes I love to party, but not all the time. I love researching topics of interest, I was a bit above average in grades in school, ppl do call me bubbly, ditzy and think I have a very "light" personality, but ppl who really know me, tell me I'm a much more deeper person than I show the world. My sister and boyfriend thinks that I fake the persona of a bubbly person cause I love it and it comes naturally to me but I do have several sides than that. I feel ESFP's can be deep. I'm in a constant turmoil about my identity and my place in the world from inside. I don't show that to others. As a performer personality I do like entertaining others, but love my time alone too. I need complete silence when I'm studying or sleeping. Background noise at work and play is fine. I like background noises when I'm cooking or doing house work. Thats why when humanmetrics and socionics said I'm ESFP I couldnt believe the stereotypes I read about us. Some I liked. Some I don't. I especially don't like ppl giving more credit to the male ESFP's when female ESFP's are negatively steotyped. Secondly I hate porn stars and when someone says they are lot like female ESFPs, I hate that. Anyway, now that I've ranted about myself, say something about yourself or the positive stereotypes you think female ESFPs have. Thanks.
I agreed to this very much. lots of people don't know that we're not actually act "bubbly" all the time. we just "like" to act bubbly because it's just naturally that we just want to see how people accept us. we could be a deep thinker person, we could just spend time alone for ourselves to introspect and analyze everything that we have done, or even deeper than just about it.

funny how people stereotyping us as "dull" "no goals in life" "party animals" and that one who said we mostly look like a "p0rn star", is what I disappointed about.

They wrote all of those thinking that we never checking or never interested in mbti world, or any kinds. because of how they stereotyping and sees us as "outside world-achiever" or an "entertainers". so not true
 

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ESFP women are usually excellent in creating a harmonious atmosphere. If you are in a group with an ESFP in general, they will do their best to include everyone. They tend to have some of the best morals (if they can get past their dominant extroverted sensing and immediate impulses), and will generally go above and beyond for the people in their group.
They are very spontaneous and quick on their feet, which makes them extremely adaptable to many different scenarios. They can really come in handy when unexpected events happen out of nowhere.

Now of course, most of the activities that stimulate ESFPs aren't ones I generally like (concerts, bars, etc), but that doesn't mean they are inferior. While I much prefer to sit in the corner of the room and write in my journal, that is no more a valid pass-time than hanging out in the bar with your friends. People are just wired differently.

The girl I was actually closest to getting into a relationship with was an ESFP, and while it didn't work out, I did end up learning a lot from her. I also have a younger brother who is an ESFP, and he is stronger than me in many different ways. He is a lot more outgoing, and open with people. As someone who shows more of a quiet intensity, I envy him.

I wish people wouldn't use MBTI types to immediately disregard people. Cognitive functions can only offer a potential glimpse into an individual. Maturity often plays a large role how a person operates. For one ESFP who is addicted to drugs and other immediate stimuli, there are many more who are amazing individuals from which everyone can learn from. I work with many ESFPs in College, and during my run at a workshop. They are some of the hardest working people you'll ever meet (if you can get them invested in what they are doing).
 
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