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All the time, especially after a debate that I have no desire to join but is forced into it. I can't verbalise my thoughts very well in such situation. I end up sounding like a little brat trying to win the argument with word vomit :dry:
 

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Not especially how I said something (like nuance in voice) as this is generally pointed out by a TJ directly after ("you said that a bit funny") - in varying degrees of politeness :laughing:

I often find myself thinking "if I'd said that it would have made a big difference" - although generally speaking, if I think about it some more, it wouldn't have done. It may have made me look better...possibly....
 
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Lol, yes. Especially when I get that deer in the headlights look from the person to which I'm speaking.
 
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Yes, I had a somewhat 'heated' debate with my philosophy teacher this morning and I have already evaluated my positions, arguments and usage of words ten times over. It's terrible but I just can't stop doing it... :crazy:
 

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Do my fellow INTP's analyze what was said during a conversation? More what YOU said during the conversation, and how you said it? Or is this just me?
I often ask myself questions like these...
"Have you talked about yourself too much?"
"Were you too assertive?"
"Have you acted as a snobby know-it-all?"
"Oh you totally have; you're such an idiot."
"No! It's alright, people say even stupider things and pull it off."
"Yeah, but your overly enthusiastic voice and making sounds which were faster than the ones a squirrel on crack makes must have had at least some impact on how you've been perceived, amirite?"
"I guess... oh shit. Remember that remark I made 10 minutes in the conversation... yeah, that one. I think it was too insulting. Or perhaps she didn't get it? Either way, it sucks. Sucks really bad. "
"Have I used perfect grammar? Oh, of course I have..."
"Wait... what must have made me sound like a stuck-up snob... Great.
"Oh, I also mentioned games. Why on Earth have I done that? Now she probably thinks I'm a loser living in my parents' basement... Well perhaps that might even be true but she doesn't know it yet... does she?"
"You should have told her you like midget porn, that would at least be remotely interesting."
"Hmm... have I listened to what she had to say? Did she wear a necklace? Yeah, she must have worn one, she was blabbering something about it and I commented about Zirconium and its molecular structure!"
"That explains the puzzled look you got"
"Shit man, shit. Think. What am I gonna do?"
"Let's go through this again, perhaps we'll think of something"
Rinse, repeat.
 

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I do this with arguments mainly. I analyze the emotions and argument. As a result, I have gotten better at saying what I mean the first time around; throw in maybe some indifference depending on the person or the subject.

The problem now is I start on the beginning of the subject, and as a result the new comments are like: "Do you enjoy the sound of your own voice?" or "You talk too much."

Ya, my friends are worthless:p, and they tend to promote an indifference in me. My new goal - more intelligent friends and coworkers. It comes to ether that or smoke pot for the rest of my life.
 

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Yes, yes, a thousand times yes. Conversations, arguments, academic debates, posting on the Internet (thank you, Personality Cafe, for your edit button)... I have some of the conversations replayed thousands of times in my head. It used to be worse, though, so maybe there is hope for all of us...
 

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Oh hell yes! I can't stop analysing and overanalysing what I said, my bodylanguage, what I didn't say, how I phrased things, how I should have phrased things..
 
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