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So, what are your private things, that you wouldnt lend anyone, because it contains private information only you should know about yourself / others and stuff... What are the reasons for it? Also when you are in the relationship do you share your cell phones so the other person can have a look at everything ? Do you share passwords to e-mail accounts, facebook and other stuff? Some people do, I dont understand it...

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I use my cellphone only once a day - as an alarm clock, there is not any confidential information about me or anybody else so I wouldnt mind if you steal it for bully reasons or whatever...

Though, my laptop ...... I wouldnt leave you alone with my laptop, not even for three minutes. Curiosity is a bitch and there are lot of things that I have looked up just for the sake of curiosity and people usually tend to gossip and chain ideas in a way that it could not be nice... Also I store videos from the internet ehm ehm you know what I mean. So you could accidentally by few clicks find it, because I dont care enough to hide it somewhere, and it would not really be hard for a advanced PC user to find it anyway...

Some female friends can get really curious about these tabs of mine, so I have to be really careful when they are watching my screen... Accidents happen.

I dont think there is any other private thing besides my laptop.

As for sharing accounts and passwords, I find it stupid, it would break my privacy even if there wasnt anything to hide, it is my stuff, my e-mail my whatever and it is one of the little things I have and wouldnt allow anyone to access it... I dont see it as a reinforcement of relationship, I see it as opposite, it shows there is no trust...

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Pretty much you nailed it for me.
I don't let people use my cell or laptop, as my main "private" areas.

But I also would feel discomfort in letting people crash at my place overnight without me being there or to use my car. I'm probably more apt to let them do that than use my laptop or phone, tellingly; but I'm still uncomfortable.

EDIT: Y U hide vids of happy kitties n unicorns n rainbowz on ur 'puter???



(note: Very sad. I typed that EDIT first before thinking about how hard it would be to find something... THEN went looking for a pic that had unicorns and kitties and rainbows in it... and immediately found one.
 

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I wouldn't share some of my word documents with people. They contain some personal thoughts. And my other word documents are filled up with poems and stories that I don't want anyone to see until they're published. Then there's the porn, locked inside the castle in the stormy hills of Ireland. But that can only be accessed if you find the secret passageway by pulling a lever, walk down miles of twisting stone steps, crawl through a narrow tunnel, and know the combination for the vault, which is always guarded by the mutated tiger men of an ancient order.
 

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Pretty much you nailed it for me.
I don't let people use my cell or laptop, as my main "private" areas.

But I also would feel discomfort in letting people crash at my place overnight without me being there or to use my car. I'm probably more apt to let them do that than use my laptop or phone, tellingly; but I'm still uncomfortable.

EDIT: Y U hide vids of happy kitties n unicorns n rainbowz on ur 'puter???

(note: Very sad. I typed that EDIT first before thinking about how hard it would be to find something... THEN went looking for a pic that had unicorns and kitties and rainbows in it... and immediately found one.
I dont own apartment or car so I cant tell. I have never organized a party without my parents knowing it, because something would totally get broken.... (and I ended up as boring guy ...) Also I dont like going to these parties because I dont like the possibility of something going wrong and breaking things....

I dont know why I hide the vids and I dont know why I store them either, I tend to look for more unicorns and kitties and rainbows, but the old stuff somehow stays in there until there is no more free space left on the disk.
 

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My Journal.
It contains some private thoughts about myself and other people that I think would be misinterpreted if read by an outsider.

Phone, laptop, etc: not bothered as long as they don't leave my sight.
House: close friends and family, fine; everyone else get lost.

OP needs to learn about Private mode on his browser.
 

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I get nervous and possessive if I have to take my computer in to the store to get it fixed. I don't think I would even give an SO my laptop's security password, as I have quite a few things on it that are rather sensitive(to me at least). I have my cats and unicorns and rainbows, I have my writing(like @Kilgore Trout, I really don't want people reading it until I'm finished), I have tons and tons of pictures that I've compiled as research for my writing, and it would just be impossible to explain some of them.

I have tried to organize my files in a way that could be navigable by somebody else, but that's mostly for my own compulsiveness than anything.


I don't really give two shits about other stuff. I don't have a cell phone right now, and when I did I didn't really use it for anything but calling and messaging. I guess if I had a vehicle I'd be somewhat protective of it, but if I trusted a person enough I could see myself letting them borrow it.
 

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Yeah, I won't let people handle my phone or computer. It's not to the point where I won't let someone briefly hold it or use it with my direct supervision (i.e. show me videos on my laptop or something) but I'd never let someone use it with me not there. And I don't even have anything incriminating, like the rainbow cat and unicorn vidz that @Jennywocky alluded to. I just don't want people browsing through my stuff. I leave myself logged in on some sites, and some people like messing around with that sort of thing. Or reading things.

I feel I actually have fairly good reason to be on edge about this, because recently, an ENTJ friend of mine decided to read through my ENTP twin brother's mail (including personal letters) when he was in my brother's room and my brother was absent. Do note that this wasn't just mail that was lying around -- it was in a mail sorter box, and each letter was re-enclosed into its original envelope. So reading the mail involved more than a few quick glances. It was pretty screwed up. And I don't care to invite that upon myself.
 

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I don't care if anyone uses my phone. It's a cheap LG that's only good for calling and texting. I'd let someone use my laptop, but I'd have to CCleaner it first, and be in the same room with them, and be uneasy the whole time. I don't believe in sharing accounts and passwords. It's still a violation of privacy even if you have nothing damning to hide.

That being said, in my past relationships, the more protective over his phone and computer he was, the bigger the red flag that something was not right.
 

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My lunchbox. Nobody touches my lunchbox. Been together since day one.

l was conceived, and my fetal development occurred inside of that lunchbox.

And by ''lunchbox'' l mean, ''anal cavity''.

Of course, it should be noted that auto-rectal asexual reproduction is more commonly and introverted iNtutive phenomenon.
 

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The only person I share my very complex passwords with is my SO. My passwords are entirely random set of lower and upper case letters, numbers, and symbols, and switch it every few years. (I have "lower priority" passwords which are often old versions of my passwords, which I use on most online/internet sites.)

I relate to a lot of my tendencies of privacy though--I get highly irritable when my SO picks up my phone or laptop, even when I've just offered one for her to use. I setup an entirely new account/login on my desktop (which neither of us use much), just to avoid the annoyance I feel.
 

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I don't have anything sketchy or particularity embarrassing (that I can think of, lol), but yeah, I am a private natured person overall and I too feel a bit defensive over my computer and phone. I've only let people I've felt trusting towards use my stuff, and always in sight, but my sense of protection is mostly about not having my stuff stolen or damaged rather than having privacy violated.

I tend to click to over to another tab when I'm on websites like PerC because I just don't wanna be webstalked or have some of my interests known. I sometimes think my being a little insecure of some of my interests is a bit childish, but I ain't sure, ha.

I let one of my roommates use my computer briefly, and she tried to go into my tools because she accidentally said "Yes" to the pop-up box that asked if she wanted her Yahoo log in data to be saved. I felt a little pissed for a second. I was right there and all, but why would you go messing with someone's stuff without asking permission? Anyway, that's the only "bad" incident that comes to mind that I've known of at least, past childhood, lol.
Oh yeah, and my Dad and brother once decided to clean everyone's cars while we were gone as a surprise, but when I found out I just felt kinda violated. They even teased me afterwards about how dirty the thing was, even though they went in there and got all up in it without my permission :dry:, lol. Anyway, when they saw that it bothered me a bit, they said wouldn't do it again.
 

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As long as the person asks and I'm present when they use the thing, I don't mind much. If they seem like they feel entitled to whatever it is, I'll probably just say no, unless I really don't care much. If someone does use something of mine without asking however, I'll give them a talk on why that's not okay (and no one enjoys my talks - they're very long and detailed as to exactly why it's not okay). Sometimes, if it's something like borrowing keys, it's fine without asking, but best to check with the owner. It's just polite.
 

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I don't know anyone who would need to borrow an electronic device from me for more than 5 minutes, and if they do it's because their own electronic device is dead. Usually I'm right next to them so that's never really an issue. If someone needed something from me for an extended period, I would simply clear off all the questionable items before giving it to them. Also, I don't lend out my stuff to just anyone. In my constant observation of people I rate them on their ability to take care of objects, people, and themselves.

There are friends who I would never loan a device because it will come back broken in some way. There are friends who know they can't borrow any of my clothes because I think they are smelly and can get visibly skeeved out by the thought of them wearing something of mine. I had a roommate once who lost EVERYTHING I ever lent to him. Books, clothes, DVDs, umbrellas - it didn't matter what it was. Bitch would borrow a t-shirt and go to the park, come back 2 hours later completely shirtless. That's likely why I look at people like this when they ask to borrow something unsupervised:

 

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My lunchbox. Nobody touches my lunchbox. Been together since day one.

l was conceived, and my fetal development occurred inside of that lunchbox.

And by ''lunchbox'' l mean, ''anal cavity''.

Of course, it should be noted that auto-rectal asexual reproduction is more commonly and introverted iNtutive phenomenon.
Hmmm ya I guess I'd add this to my list too lol.
 

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Hmmm ya I guess I'd add this to my list too lol.
Do you find yourself catching flack over it :cool:

l suspect it isn't really a male problem, but l've heard things.
 

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Do you find yourself catching flack over it :cool:

l suspect it isn't really a male problem, but l've heard things.
Not yet lol. Hopefully the issue never comes up. But ya, I guess it's an issue for women more. Porn society for the loss.
 

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My lunchbox. Nobody touches my lunchbox. Been together since day one.

l was conceived, and my fetal development occurred inside of that lunchbox.

And by ''lunchbox'' l mean, ''anal cavity''.
Of course, it should be noted that auto-rectal asexual reproduction is more commonly and introverted iNtutive phenomenon.
So you were conceived and developed inside your own ass. I guess it's safe to say you kept your head up your ass thought most of your development. No doubt being a major contributor to a shitty outlook on life and a chronic case of pinkeye.
 

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I agree on the lack of will to share my computer with others. I have some personal word documents (from rants to full on essays on my beliefs) to excel sheets with information I simply don't want others to endlessly question me about, not to mention my internet history. I let my neighbor borrow my laptop once and it was nerve racking.

There's nothing else I can think of right now that I would be reluctant to share with others.
 
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