I've been a little down lately after my slow realization that my ENTP (sometimes tested as J) boyfriend just doesn't share the same passion that I have for people. I'd hate to compare, but my past ENFP boyfriend was so much more sensitive and had the same drive to help people as I do. My boyfriend now doesn't really seem interested in my philanthropic goals and adventures, and he said once that he's not really into helping people. Sometimes I think he just sees philanthropy as a passing hobby for me, and not something that is truly important.
This kind of struck me. He's never been really kind to others, at least not face to face with them. He's very critical and all of his observations of people are negative and somewhat insulting - never positive. I'm starting to wonder if this might be a deal breaker or not... I love him dearly, but I feel like my partner should care about people just as much as I do.
Am I being irrational? Any tips on how I can bring this up to him? Any other thoughts? This is really putting me in a sullen mood.
This kind of struck me. He's never been really kind to others, at least not face to face with them. He's very critical and all of his observations of people are negative and somewhat insulting - never positive. I'm starting to wonder if this might be a deal breaker or not... I love him dearly, but I feel like my partner should care about people just as much as I do.
Am I being irrational? Any tips on how I can bring this up to him? Any other thoughts? This is really putting me in a sullen mood.