[xlr8r]

Even when I visit home for holidays, he mostly ignores me.

..

He verbally assaults me whenever I see him.

Which one is more true?

 

[xlr8r]

I read it as "he typically ignores me, doesn't say hi, doesn't ask any questions about my life, all the normal things that people should do in a relationship; and on the occasion he does engage or suddenly says something, it's typically to be verbally abusive." That's just like my father too.

Thanks this is a good interpretation.

By the way I still do not see why the OP should bring his gf to him. If he wants his mother meets her, he just can make sure he does it when the father is not around. Or invite the mother for a lunch outside the house, or whatever.

Presenting his gf to his father just shows his submission and feeds the father's bully instinct.