So, because I am an INTP female, naturally my family does not take very well to the way I think and act. They don't like that I'm not girly and soft and (what I see as) weak. They don't like my straight-forwardness and my willingness to argue and debate just for the fun of it. They keep telling me to be obedient, kind, smile more, talk about my feelings, etc.
I don't roll like that.
So yesterday I was in the car, and my sister and my mother were talking about trends and fads and whatnot, specifically what is "in" and what is "out" as far as attractiveness goes. Naturally, I went to expand the topic further. I wanted to know by whose standards where we to judge what was "in" or "out," who got to decide it, the underlying social implications of it all, whether or not it makes people more or less "true" to themselves regarding their own preferences, etc. You know, the usual million questions that pop into my mind.
I made the mistake of opening my mouth.
As soon as I started asking questions, they accused me of being defensive and basically told me to STFU. They asked why I always had to be so antisocial and go against the grain and accuse people and all that jazz. They accused me of having a low self-esteem, not liking myself. They said I was being rude and my tone of voice was unacceptable. Stuff like that.
I didn't understand any of this at all. I was merely presenting my opinion and trying to take the topic to a deeper level. They didn't want that. They said to let the conversation stay general, that I didn't need to ask a million things.
My mother told me to stop questioning everything.
I am not allowed to listen to my headphones in the car until I learn how to have "engaging superficial conversations." To me, THERE IS NO SUCH THING.
I am being punished for the way I think and act, and I am being coerced into changing into a more "socially acceptable" role. Maybe I'm being immature about this, but I could care less right now. I like the way I am, and I change for no man.
tl;dr - sorry for the rant. Do any other people experience this, especially you INTP females out there?
I don't roll like that.
So yesterday I was in the car, and my sister and my mother were talking about trends and fads and whatnot, specifically what is "in" and what is "out" as far as attractiveness goes. Naturally, I went to expand the topic further. I wanted to know by whose standards where we to judge what was "in" or "out," who got to decide it, the underlying social implications of it all, whether or not it makes people more or less "true" to themselves regarding their own preferences, etc. You know, the usual million questions that pop into my mind.
I made the mistake of opening my mouth.
As soon as I started asking questions, they accused me of being defensive and basically told me to STFU. They asked why I always had to be so antisocial and go against the grain and accuse people and all that jazz. They accused me of having a low self-esteem, not liking myself. They said I was being rude and my tone of voice was unacceptable. Stuff like that.
I didn't understand any of this at all. I was merely presenting my opinion and trying to take the topic to a deeper level. They didn't want that. They said to let the conversation stay general, that I didn't need to ask a million things.
My mother told me to stop questioning everything.
I am not allowed to listen to my headphones in the car until I learn how to have "engaging superficial conversations." To me, THERE IS NO SUCH THING.
I am being punished for the way I think and act, and I am being coerced into changing into a more "socially acceptable" role. Maybe I'm being immature about this, but I could care less right now. I like the way I am, and I change for no man.
tl;dr - sorry for the rant. Do any other people experience this, especially you INTP females out there?