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Hi, I'm a 5w4 with a strong 4 wing. It's weird. I feel the wing pull more or less under different circumstances.
In relationships, I feel my 4 traits come out more.
I would think I enjoy intense romance more than others...sometimes to a fault.
I experience a push/pull sense when in a heated conflict with a significant other. It happens with friends and family I consider very close to also, but more so in romantic relationships.
I find myself reacting strongly in some cases... sometimes really going off, and then I want the person to react back. When I'm ignored in these situations, I feel the worst. I would rather the person yell and be mean to me than to ignore me. When I do feel ignored in those situations, I just get more angry and get more intense, trying to provoke a response.
I know this sounds childish and I feel embarrassed afterward.
I also realize that this makes people feel very uncomfortable...at the force of my emotional reactions. I can really scare people. They can start questioning the stability of our relationship because I will say extreme things in a moment of intense feelings.
Do any of you other 4's relate? Have any advice or stories you want to share?
I'm also thinking my instinctual variants must play in here.. I'm sx/sp. I feel like that adds to the push-pull energy. And I know type 5 can move to 8, so some of the anger probably stems from there also.
Any discussion is welcome. Thanks.
In relationships, I feel my 4 traits come out more.
I would think I enjoy intense romance more than others...sometimes to a fault.
I experience a push/pull sense when in a heated conflict with a significant other. It happens with friends and family I consider very close to also, but more so in romantic relationships.
I find myself reacting strongly in some cases... sometimes really going off, and then I want the person to react back. When I'm ignored in these situations, I feel the worst. I would rather the person yell and be mean to me than to ignore me. When I do feel ignored in those situations, I just get more angry and get more intense, trying to provoke a response.
I know this sounds childish and I feel embarrassed afterward.
I also realize that this makes people feel very uncomfortable...at the force of my emotional reactions. I can really scare people. They can start questioning the stability of our relationship because I will say extreme things in a moment of intense feelings.
Do any of you other 4's relate? Have any advice or stories you want to share?
I'm also thinking my instinctual variants must play in here.. I'm sx/sp. I feel like that adds to the push-pull energy. And I know type 5 can move to 8, so some of the anger probably stems from there also.
Any discussion is welcome. Thanks.