And I think that social obligation aspect is only attempted by a small amount of people. Not that it isn't a nice, but because it isn't easy for people who aren't so hot at finding the balance between gtfo of my face and gentle in the hopes of maintaining something. The INTP was pissed, the INFJ was gentle, and I'm sure ENFJs are even more so. I tend to just ignore women who I think like me and play dumb because I'd be terrible at telling them I wasn't interested.In any case, I think it's the other person's social obligation to make any rejection gentle in effort to preserve relations (and delicate egos), because this is something natural, I think. So the fact that the miscommunication exists isn't actually all that bad, imo. Casualties will happen.