Meeting up with someone you have only spoken to on the Internet would big time freak me out tbh. Plus I am not even all that shy! More the potential for major awkwardness and fear of rejection I suppose. I presume he initiates conversations with you too? Seems like a pretty good sign to me he has some interest in you (at the least as a friend). People I don't feel like talking to are fighting an inevitably losing battle in trying to hold a conversation with meI've been talking with someone for over a year, strictly over the internet, and I'm almost positive he's an INTP. He's always been very polite and respectful, and it took him a while to open up, but after talking for ~6 months, he did. I'm also very hesitant to share parts of myself, and once he opened up I felt more comfortable opening up, too.
Being that we only talk over the internet and that he doesn't readily discuss his feelings -- I find it hard to pick up on what his intentions are with me. Once we opened up to each other, we discussed meeting up in person (he lives 3 hours away), but it's never followed through. I've brought it up a few times since then over the span of a few months, and he always seems excited about it, but we put off choosing an exact day because of our schedules. I'm now at a point where I'd like to meet in person so that I can pick up on how I feel about him (chemistry, vibes, all that jazz), but I don't want the conversation to go the exact same way as it always does. I've asked him about intentions before, and we seem to be on the same page -- we like each other and would like to meet to find out where we think we should go from here.
Last time I brought it up, he responded positively to it, but then mentioned money being an issue (he's a student) despite that he's brought up having money before. I reminded him of it and he said that his shyness is most likely the bigger problem.
I'm finding it difficult to figure out what to do at this point. We've known each other so long that I feel like we're good friends, he's opened up to me in ways he hasn't with a woman before, our conversations are playful and frequent...
Any advice from an INTP? Can I assume that if we talk regularly, that he genuinely likes me? Should I wait for him to bring up hanging out? If he and I do hang out, I don't want him to worry about it!
Thanks in advance!
My two cents on it.