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How would you describe how type 6 works with you combined with being an ENFP?

What aspects of your life are affected by being type 6?

What do you think of the descriptions of type 6?

I am type 6 but it was causing me confusion about being an ENFP, so I am interested in what your personal experience is like.
 

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What do you exactly think conflicts for you?

For me, the influence type 6 gives me is (social) uncertainty. While I am an outgowing person who (as far as I know, looks confident from the outside), I worry a lot inside. I can feel alone quite fast, which I think is triggered by being a type 6. I actually made a topic about that over at the type 6 forum.

The description of type 6 for me is overly depressing, it sounds like there is no real upside on being one. Still, i think the anxiety helps with not jumping into every (possibly bad) opportunites. Mm, not sure if this helps you though.
 

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How would you describe how type 6 works with you combined with being an ENFP?

What aspects of your life are affected by being type 6?

What do you think of the descriptions of type 6?

I am type 6 but it was causing me confusion about being an ENFP, so I am interested in what your personal experience is like.
I feel blessed and cursed for being a type 6. Anxieties..extreme insecurity..objective pessimism completely clashes with my ENFPish nature. Sometimes I wish, I was more happy about life, but I can't hideaway from the bitter truth which the world has shown me. Being a 6w5 makes me less emotional and sensitive, and even when my sensitive side gets visible, I can literally kill that. But the sad part is, most of the times I stay cynical and depressed and more when I think of me and this world. My nature is melancholic, I was more bubbly when I was younger, but I can sense that I'm slowly loosing my happy side as I'm growing up. In my opinion, being a type a 6 and an ENFP is definitely not a great match, but it makes me mature much quicker.
 

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That was a better answer than I gave, and was closer to what I meant than what i got to type. Somehow I can't voice my thoughts as well on paper and internet as I can by talking :)
 

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That was a better answer than I gave, and was closer to what I meant than what i got to type. Somehow I can't voice my thoughts as well on paper and internet as I can by talking :)
Fi fails eh? :p
 
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I think it often feels like a battle in my core. I want to love, but I struggle with trust. I like to be carefree, but I crave stability. I worry immensely and always feel like it is me against the world. It is definitely a strange combination; to be so happy yet so dark at the same time. Light versus dark is my internal battle.

Everything is affected by being type 6. I've had to work on building trust and finding what comforts me to curb the anxiety and worry. I don't necessarily find the description too depressing but it definitely seem to have more battles with consistency issues. I believe finding a cause to support helps build trust and loyalty.
 

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How would you describe how type 6 works with you combined with being an ENFP?

Well, Ne+6w5 is a really powerful combination. It allows me to see all the possibilities in everything and everyone so no one or nothing ever goes underestimated. Not for one second. I also have a more developed Te because of it. I also use Ti and Ni quite a bit as well, though not as much as the NTJs do. Im also not very emotional. Im more stoic when it comes to serious situations and only use Fi in instances that pertain to me. I don't use my internal value system and apply it to situations that include other people and require objectivity.


What aspects of your life are affected by being type 6?

Being type 6 has honestly benefited my life more than anything. Ive always said that I have a heightened awareness of my environment at all times, so I can see potential pitfalls or problems before they arise. Its like just knowing that something is going to happen and preparing for it or taking care of it before the time arrives.

I also used to have really bad anxiety when I was a kid, and tried to run away and hide from it, but over time I ended up building a very thick skin because of it. Now, I can pretty much handle anything. I collect "blue prints" of situations. So, once i've been through something, I acquire a new way of handling that situation. Not to say I'll handle it the exact same way next time, but I have information to contribute to another situation should it arise in the future.

Also, being type 6 has help me to really understand people and see them who they are completely. I don't take people at face value and upon initially meeting them, I instantly start to probe deeper and deeper. I also have a pretty good awareness of other peoples motives and intentions. Im also an excellent judge of character. If you're a good person, I will notice it instantly, and if you're a rat, theres no point in trying to hide because I can sniff those out as well.

I've read that 6w5 can will uphold their beliefs even if its not popular and I definitely agreed with that. I will stand my ground on something if I believe in it. I don't care how many people are against me. It also give me confidence. After a while, you get used to people disagreeing and you just stop caring about it. I certainly don't care anymore.

I also tend to follow my head alot and it always leads me in the right direction, even if that direction is different then other peoples. For example, people might say that doing X thing won't warrant you results (usually its because everyone else says so), but I can see the benefit in doing it and after doing it, I reep those benefits. Doors open from me following my own path, so I'll go against the grain because it feels right and it will end up working out. Its kind of like a door opening up, and everyone is too busy all trying to go into the same door, but I run into that one and it ends up benefiting me. Things have worked out so well for me. Im not afraid to take a risk and do something different/be something different.

Anecdote: I majored in International Studies in college. Yea, one of those "useless" degrees. But by following my gut, and pursing this degree, I had to choose a language, and ended up choosing Korean. Now, when I graduate in a few months, I'll be moving to south Korea for a few years to teach and learn the language fluently. After this, I'll be able to become a translator. Its a pretty wide open field that offers a lot of variety and I know I won't get bored with it. If I work my ass off, I can make quite a bit of money doing it. I can also be my own boss. I don't like being married to a company or job. So, in pursing that degree that others thought was worthless, Im going to be able to travel, learn and be free. So, while everyone else is trying to fight over the jobs that are slowly being outsourced, or are flooded with applicants, I'll be travelling around East Asia.


What do you think of the descriptions of type 6?

I think it overplays the 6s anxiety and fears waaaaaay too much. Their sample size was probably primarily phobic 6s and primarily 6w7s. Which is different from the 6w5 and the counterphobic, especially depending on the variant stackings.


I am type 6 but it was causing me confusion about being an ENFP, so I am interested in what your personal experience is like.


​A type 6 ENFP is different then all the other ENFPs. As you can see based on the ENFP enneagram list, most of the ENFPs here aren't 6s. Lol, Im actually pleasantly surprised to be stumbling across all the 6w5s. I never knew you guys existed. Yaaaaaaaaay. :happy:
 

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Thanks everyone. I relate to nearly all of this.
I feel blessed and cursed for being a type 6. Anxieties..extreme insecurity..objective pessimism completely clashes with my ENFPish nature. Sometimes I wish, I was more happy about life, but I can't hideaway from the bitter truth which the world has shown me. Being a 6w5 makes me less emotional and sensitive, and even when my sensitive side gets visible, I can literally kill that. But the sad part is, most of the times I stay cynical and depressed and more when I think of me and this world. My nature is melancholic, I was more bubbly when I was younger, but I can sense that I'm slowly loosing my happy side as I'm growing up. In my opinion, being a type a 6 and an ENFP is definitely not a great match, but it makes me mature much quicker.
This describes me in a lot of ways, mostly just in the melancholic nature. Also I was really energetic when and optimistic when I was younger too. I actually have bipolar 2, which I think began to originate from the type 6 enneagram in general + being ENFP. I believe that combination did it for me. Yeah, but I have this interesting way that I feel about life. It's very bittersweet. I get really excited internally about some things, but at the same time really nervous about other things. I don't consider myself an optimist or pessimist, or even a realist. I feel emotions inside and don't necessarily make judgements on them all the time. I think my anxieties have made more of a quiet person, but I'm known to do some outrageous things that seem odd to other people who assume I'm really introverted. A lot of people can't really figure out my personality.


What do you think of the descriptions of type 6?

I think it overplays the 6s anxiety and fears waaaaaay too much. Their sample size was probably primarily phobic 6s and primarily 6w7s. Which is different from the 6w5 and the counterphobic, especially depending on the variant stackings.

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I relate to most of what you said in this post. What do you know about the differences between 6w5 and 6w7? That's one thing I'm not entirely sure of.
I think it often feels like a battle in my core. I want to love, but I struggle with trust. I like to be carefree, but I crave stability. I worry immensely and always feel like it is me against the world. It is definitely a strange combination; to be so happy yet so dark at the same time. Light versus dark is my internal battle.

Everything is affected by being type 6. I've had to work on building trust and finding what comforts me to curb the anxiety and worry. I don't necessarily find the description too depressing but it definitely seem to have more battles with consistency issues. I believe finding a cause to support helps build trust and loyalty.
And I am identical to this. It's like something I could have said myself.
 

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Aww I'm the lone 6w7! But yeah, there aren't a lot of sixes. I find that I manage to meet many of the requirements for ENFP and ISFJ because being a 6 really boosts Si and Fe like behaviors. And I do agree, I think we stick out a bit.
 

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Aww I'm the lone 6w7! But yeah, there aren't a lot of sixes. I find that I manage to meet many of the requirements for ENFP and ISFJ because being a 6 really boosts Si and Fe like behaviors. And I do agree, I think we stick out a bit.
I don't think you're alone being a 6, there are more ENFP here that are anxious at their core than they care to admit. Being a 6 doesn't boost my Si or Fe behaviours, it actually brings out my Te/Ne. I'm living proof that being a 6 doesn't increase Fe Lol in any sense of the word, if anything it decreases it :D
 

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I kind of like being the way I am (6w7), because I'm never caught unexpected. When events happen, or are about to happen, I get glimpses of what can go wrong, but also what can go well. For the most part, I don't have the stereotypical anxiety. I would consider myself a pretty healthy 6 (meaning I become a 9, I think?). The only generally bad part I can think of is, I always feel like I'm in a bit of trouble when someone calls my name.

If I let the anxiety and suspicion get into my head, it's extremely hard for me to get back on my feet. Getting into a close relationship/getting attached usually makes me go insane, which is why I try to avoid it. My mind spins with endless what-ifs, will start thinking the person is just pretending to be nice to me, etc.
 

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How would you describe how type 6 works with you combined with being an ENFP?

Well, Ne+6w5 is a really powerful combination. It allows me to see all the possibilities in everything and everyone so no one or nothing ever goes underestimated. Not for one second. I also have a more developed Te because of it. I also use Ti and Ni quite a bit as well, though not as much as the NTJs do. Im also not very emotional. Im more stoic when it comes to serious situations and only use Fi in instances that pertain to me. I don't use my internal value system and apply it to situations that include other people and require objectivity.


What aspects of your life are affected by being type 6?

Being type 6 has honestly benefited my life more than anything. Ive always said that I have a heightened awareness of my environment at all times, so I can see potential pitfalls or problems before they arise. Its like just knowing that something is going to happen and preparing for it or taking care of it before the time arrives.

I also used to have really bad anxiety when I was a kid, and tried to run away and hide from it, but over time I ended up building a very thick skin because of it. Now, I can pretty much handle anything. I collect "blue prints" of situations. So, once i've been through something, I acquire a new way of handling that situation. Not to say I'll handle it the exact same way next time, but I have information to contribute to another situation should it arise in the future.

Also, being type 6 has help me to really understand people and see them who they are completely. I don't take people at face value and upon initially meeting them, I instantly start to probe deeper and deeper. I also have a pretty good awareness of other peoples motives and intentions. Im also an excellent judge of character. If you're a good person, I will notice it instantly, and if you're a rat, theres no point in trying to hide because I can sniff those out as well.

I've read that 6w5 can will uphold their beliefs even if its not popular and I definitely agreed with that. I will stand my ground on something if I believe in it. I don't care how many people are against me. It also give me confidence. After a while, you get used to people disagreeing and you just stop caring about it. I certainly don't care anymore.

I also tend to follow my head alot and it always leads me in the right direction, even if that direction is different then other peoples. For example, people might say that doing X thing won't warrant you results (usually its because everyone else says so), but I can see the benefit in doing it and after doing it, I reep those benefits. Doors open from me following my own path, so I'll go against the grain because it feels right and it will end up working out. Its kind of like a door opening up, and everyone is too busy all trying to go into the same door, but I run into that one and it ends up benefiting me. Things have worked out so well for me. Im not afraid to take a risk and do something different/be something different.

Anecdote: I majored in International Studies in college. Yea, one of those "useless" degrees. But by following my gut, and pursing this degree, I had to choose a language, and ended up choosing Korean. Now, when I graduate in a few months, I'll be moving to south Korea for a few years to teach and learn the language fluently. After this, I'll be able to become a translator. Its a pretty wide open field that offers a lot of variety and I know I won't get bored with it. It I work my ass off, I can make quite a bit of money doing it. I can also be my own boss. I don't like being married to a company or job. So, in pursing that degree that others thought was worthless, Im going to be able to travel, learn and be free. So, while everyone else is trying to fight over the jobs that are slowly being outsourced, or are flooded with applicants, I'll be travelling around East Asia.


What do you think of the descriptions of type 6?

I think it overplays the 6s anxiety and fears waaaaaay too much. Their sample size was probably primarily phobic 6s and primarily 6w7s. Which is different from the 6w5 and the counterphobic, especially depending on the variant stackings.


I am type 6 but it was causing me confusion about being an ENFP, so I am interested in what your personal experience is like.


​A type 6 ENFP is different then all the other ENFPs. As you can see based on the ENFP enneagram list, most of the ENFPs here aren't 6s. Lol, Im actually pleasantly surprised to be stumbling across all the 6w5s. I never knew you guys existed. Yaaaaaaaaay. :happy:
Wow, amazing posting . I have nothing to add to this, you said it all. Thanks for sharing the good, bad and ugly ;)
 

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Aww I'm the lone 6w7! But yeah, there aren't a lot of sixes. I find that I manage to meet many of the requirements for ENFP and ISFJ because being a 6 really boosts Si and Fe like behaviors. And I do agree, I think we stick out a bit.
As far as Si and Fe goes, that's interesting because I feel like that too.
 

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I don't think you're alone being a 6, there are more ENFP here that are anxious at their core than they care to admit. Being a 6 doesn't boost my Si or Fe behaviours, it actually brings out my Te/Ne. I'm living proof that being a 6 doesn't increase Fe Lol in any sense of the word, if anything it decreases it :D
For me, Fe, Se, and Si are all the most inferior functions. Everything else gets boosted because of being type 6 though. I also don't get along too well with Se, Fe or Si doms in real life, so I cannot relate to them at all.

Edit: I can tap into Si, but I don't use it very often.
 

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I kind of like being the way I am (6w7), because I'm never caught unexpected. When events happen, or are about to happen, I get glimpses of what can go wrong, but also what can go well. For the most part, I don't have the stereotypical anxiety. I would consider myself a pretty healthy 6 (meaning I become a 9, I think?). The only generally bad part I can think of is, I always feel like I'm in a bit of trouble when someone calls my name.

If I let the anxiety and suspicion get into my head, it's extremely hard for me to get back on my feet. Getting into a close relationship/getting attached usually makes me go insane, which is why I try to avoid it. My mind spins with endless what-ifs, will start thinking the person is just pretending to be nice to me, etc.
I can relate with that. When i met my husband i questioned " Why" what did he see in me, was he just being nice by saying all those sweet things. I remember getting anxious when he would invite me to special events, again questioning the why's. Was i insecure thinking about all the women he could have, yet he wanted me, you bet i was. I imagined him leaving me with people i didn't know, yet he never gave any signs he would ever do such a thing. I feel anxious when i don't have control over future situations or circumstances. I've come a long way since then, that was 10 years ago, i feel like i have better control over not getting so worked up over circumstances i have no control over. I don't think anxiety ever really goes away thou, i can' feel it in the pit of my stomach even when i have nothing to be anxious about.
 

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Oh boy, it makes my Ne go CRAAAAAZY. I joke that I could have written those worst-case scenario books. It makes me more prone to psychological ailments and I've suffered from major depression episodes in the past and also have anxiety issues. I was as a teen diagnosed as bipolar because of my "mood swings" going from the depression/anxiety state to my normal bubbly silly state, and to therapists who had never seen me outside of my depression (and I didn't know about MBTI at the time to see that this *manic* behavior was actually normal), assumed this behavior was hypomania. So I guess in short it sometimes masks and sometimes exemplifies my ENFPness. I think it makes my Ne even more aware to possibilities, outcomes, and consequences.

It also has made and makes relationships difficult. I find that I am constantly questioning things and people, especially when relationships are still undefined. I question their every word, their every move, their every motive.

One thing I do notice though, is that I am probably considered a fairly developed type 6, in that I am able to rise above my fears with courage, and am a very resilient person despite some of the hardships I have endured. I'm also a so/sx 6w7, so I think that might help in that I am much more outgoing and outward than a 6w5 who retreats into themselves. It makes the fact that ENFPs rely heavily on their friends to gauge their decisions very strong.
 
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