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So I have a few questions that I hope esfp males would help me with. As an intp female I run into nerd girl problems. I guess it comes from not being perceived as a "normal" girl. I was wondering if esfp males face similar hurdles.


for example: as an intp female, I'm not very emotional. Some people think I'm cold. I don't know if im cold or not, but I just prefer to be logical.
1. As a esfp male...how do most people perceive you. Do they think your over emotional. Are you emotional?

as an female intp, sometimes people think I'm like a man.
2. Do esfp men come off as more masculine or feminine?

Some people think I'm nerdy, bookworm type
3. Do people think you're the air headed type?

4. How do you prove people's stereotypes of you wrong. Or do you just let them think whatever about you.

these are just of some of the things I deal with as a female, what are the things you deal with as a male.
 

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1. people look at my like I'm very much not intellectual, if you know what i mean. My emotions don't show much around people but that has other reasons.
2. I have been called a mother several times before, because i was being nice. Personally i feel like a man.
3.Probably, i have done a lot of stupid things in my life because i didn't think them threw. ''The heat of the moment''
4. The stereotypes are true to some extent. It's not like all of us are unconscious and don't think, it's just not fun so i generally just go with the flow.

my question to you now is !.... I find IN s very attractive, do they find ESs attractive at all ?

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my question to you now is !.... I find IN s very attractive, do they find ESs attractive at all ?

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I'm sure a lot do. Take this forum, for example. It has a history of attracting a lot of INTPs, INFPs, and INFJs.

I like ESFP guys, myself, Those are the guys, that can make a flippin' dentist's appointment fun!
But, alas, I looked under the smiley under ur profile, and it said Gen Z, and thought "too young, I'm prolly old enough to be his mommy :tongue:"
 

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So I have a few questions that I hope esfp males would help me with. As an intp female I run into nerd girl problems. I guess it comes from not being perceived as a "normal" girl. I was wondering if esfp males face similar hurdles.


for example: as an intp female, I'm not very emotional. Some people think I'm cold. I don't know if im cold or not, but I just prefer to be logical.
1. As a esfp male...how do most people perceive you. Do they think your over emotional. Are you emotional?

I don't really know how MOST people perceive me. All I can really go on is the feedback I've gotten. Yes, I have had people call me "over emotional" as well as "emotionally immature." I am emotional, but I don't really think there is such a thing as "over emotional." I mean, everything I encounter induces some kind of emotion, not all of them are expressed in an extreme way.


as an female intp, sometimes people think I'm like a man.
2. Do esfp men come off as more masculine or feminine?
I think it depends on the situation, but we can certainly come off more feminine than the T types in some situations I'm sure.

Some people think I'm nerdy, bookworm type
3. Do people think you're the air headed type?
Some people do, yes. But I'd much rather be seen as air headed than "creepy" which I've also been called. The latter is much more hurtful to me because I don't consider myself that way at all.

4. How do you prove people's stereotypes of you wrong. Or do you just let them think whatever about you.
I don't really, I just live. That doesn't mean people can't hurt me with things they say about me sometimes, they can, but I don't spend a lot of time worrying about it, and I rarely try to convince anyone of anything.

these are just of some of the things I deal with as a female, what are the things you deal with as a male.
Probably what I alluded to earlier, the "creepy" thing. Especially with kids. I think if I were a female my love of children would not be seen as a sinister thing, but since I'm a big hairy man I get people making accusations of being a pedophile or something just because I love kids. I relate to the "gentle giant" characters in fiction because I'm about the last one that anybody should be scared of, unless my son or someone close to me is threatened. I would never hurt someone on purpose, especially a child.
 

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2. I have been called a mother several times before, because i was being nice. Personally i feel like a man.
Heh, yeah I've lost count of how many people have told me "you remind me of my mom." :tongue:
 

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I don't really know how MOST people perceive me. All I can really go on is the feedback I've gotten. Yes, I have had people call me "over emotional" as well as "emotionally immature." I am emotional, but I don't really think there is such a thing as "over emotional." I mean, everything I encounter induces some kind of emotion, not all of them are expressed in an extreme way.




I think it depends on the situation, but we can certainly come off more feminine than the T types in some situations I'm sure.



Some people do, yes. But I'd much rather be seen as air headed than "creepy" which I've also been called. The latter is much more hurtful to me because I don't consider myself that way at all.



I don't really, I just live. That doesn't mean people can't hurt me with things they say about me sometimes, they can, but I don't spend a lot of time worrying about it, and I rarely try to convince anyone of anything.



Probably what I alluded to earlier, the "creepy" thing. Especially with kids. I think if I were a female my love of children would not be seen as a sinister thing, but since I'm a big hairy man I get people making accusations of being a pedophile or something just because I love kids. I relate to the "gentle giant" characters in fiction because I'm about the last one that anybody should be scared of, unless my son or someone close to me is threatened. I would never hurt someone on purpose, especially a child.
Sorry to hear about the creepy thing, I kind of get where your coming from. You just have to not give a fuck. Haters gonna hate.
 

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1. Yes


2. Motherly...


3. =(

4. All of these things really resonate with me. I think sometimes I go into identity crisis only because I am a sociable person and what people think of me can affect me. However, I always take a step back and realize that I don't have to fit into anyone's perception of who I should be. Unless it's an attractive girl.
 

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1. People perceive me as open more than emotional, and I think that's part of being emotional. I definitely show what I'm feeling all the time. Once in a while when I can't deal with someone's attitude, my face definitely let's them know. I like being emotional though. It feels free when I express myself.

2. I think it's somewhere in the middle. We show a lot of affection, and that can be taken as "feminine". No one ever complains about friends who are affectionate because everyone likes that type of attention. I'd definitely say I'm perceived masculine.

3. I have decent memory, so I spout random facts all the time. My friend calls them "party conversations" because they're useless outside of them lol I definitely act silly enough to give that impression sometimes.

4. It's hard thinking about that all the time. You just have to go with it.
 

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I don't really know how MOST people perceive me. All I can really go on is the feedback I've gotten. Yes, I have had people call me "over emotional" as well as "emotionally immature." I am emotional, but I don't really think there is such a thing as "over emotional." I mean, everything I encounter induces some kind of emotion, not all of them are expressed in an extreme way.
Spend more time with ESFJs.
 

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I'm an ESFP woman but I have an ESFP ex crush and some ESFP male friends.

1) They're tough on the outside but soft on the inside. Sometimes they don't care about what other people say about them (especially when they want something so badly). But when they're being criticized they get hurt and defensive.

2) Masculine. Very boyish.

3) Sometimes, due to their happy-go-lucky personality. But don't be deceived by that, you'll be surprised at how knowledgeable they are.
 

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So I have a few questions that I hope esfp males would help me with. As an intp female I run into nerd girl problems. I guess it comes from not being perceived as a "normal" girl. I was wondering if esfp males face similar hurdles.


for example: as an intp female, I'm not very emotional. Some people think I'm cold. I don't know if im cold or not, but I just prefer to be logical.
1. As a esfp male...how do most people perceive you. Do they think your over emotional. Are you emotional?

as an female intp, sometimes people think I'm like a man.
2. Do esfp men come off as more masculine or feminine?

Some people think I'm nerdy, bookworm type
3. Do people think you're the air headed type?

4. How do you prove people's stereotypes of you wrong. Or do you just let them think whatever about you.

these are just of some of the things I deal with as a female, what are the things you deal with as a male.
1. No. They think I'm a cold psychopath detached from the world.

2. I think I come off as very feminine. I don't fit many of the manly archetypes.

3. Not at all. Well maybe when I'm just chilling. But people often tell me I'm extraordinarily intelligent. Well it's one or the other I guess. They same I'm the former or they say I'm stupid as fuck.

4. Well, I shouldn't answer this question to be honest. Because I'm not the typical ESFP, I'm really calm, quiet, and I sit in my recliner all day. So to say that people stereotype me as "airheaded" would be somewhat incorrect, because I just don't exhibit the common archetypes. That being said I can't answer this question, because I really have no stereotypes against me to prove wrong.
 

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1. No. They think I'm a cold psychopath detached from the world.

2. I think I come off as very feminine. I don't fit many of the manly archetypes.

3. Not at all. Well maybe when I'm just chilling. But people often tell me I'm extraordinarily intelligent. Well it's one or the other I guess. They same I'm the former or they say I'm stupid as fuck.

4. Well, I shouldn't answer this question to be honest. Because I'm not the typical ESFP, I'm really calm, quiet, and I sit in my recliner all day. So to say that people stereotype me as "airheaded" would be somewhat incorrect, because I just don't exhibit the common archetypes. That being said I can't answer this question, because I really have no stereotypes against me to prove wrong.
Maybe your isfp?
 
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