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...how do you react?

This is hard for me to articulate, but I think this is in line with what someone previously described as an NJ sense of justice. It really bothers me a lot when I see someone who doesn't deserve something, but attain it anyway.

This is a school related example since I'm a recent college grad: if someone works hard, earns good grades, spends a great deal of time/energy/dedication on their goals, and gets into a great grad. school, I respect them for their strong values, their ideology, and their hard work. Likewise, I've met people who told me, "I want to get into X Med school because it's prestigious and I'm ambitious." And they go about working hard for it. I acknowledge those people, too, because at least they are willing to work hard for something important to them, whether or not i agree with or like their motivations. Plus, at least they are honest and straight-forward about their motivations of pursuing ambition. I've also met people who aren't sure of what they want in the future, but still work hard and have strong values about what they do now. As long as they keep true to themselves and seek to develop some kind of ideology that is important to them while they figure out things, I respect them.

But, when I see someone cheat or see that someone is shallow/lacking in values/ideology, I lose respect for them. When I talk about "shallow," I am referring to those who pursue something not because it is important to them or because it is a goal they want. Hard to describe these people or know what they are about 'cause I can't relate... but I've met some people who lack a remote sense of ideology or strong values that ground them. I've also met people who are clearly pursuing something out of personal ambition, but spend half their time criticizing people who are upfront about their ambition and the other half trying to do something that I don't really quite get/can't put my finger on (I just sense the insincerity). Anyway if they get into a great grad. school, I feel frustrated and feel that they don't deserve it. And yes, I have a hard time getting over it.

Enough ranting! Do you guys also feel similarly when people get rewarded for something they don't deserve? and feel free to share your own personal examples/experiences too. Mine is just a recent example I encountered.
 

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Btmangan, are you asking those questions to me specifically? Because in these situations, people I know rarely talk openly about it or call people out on it. Most people I know react by saying, "I can't believe she got in!" or when they first hear about it, "Are you serious...? Cause that really sucks." And then they move on, or so it seems. For me, my first thought is "how is that even possible?" and I start questioning the fairness of this situation. After deliberating on various factors and after I conclude that this is indeed an unfair/unjust situation, I get stuck in a rut about it.
 
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