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long story short I have been seeing a girl for a short period (~2 weeks for three nights) and need to stop. is there any good way to say something like "youre great but this isn't for me"??

i have been honest before but wondering if the internet can also improve my breakups
 

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Trust me -- it's much less of a dick move to just be honest and tell her you're not into it and let her move on, than to string her along and make her think it's going somewhere when in reality, you're just not feeling it.

Just tell her the truth and say you'd love to be friends but you think that's all you should be.
 

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If she smells though maybe you shouldn't be too honest :wink:
 
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Best to rip it off like a band-aid. She'll probably be upset, but that's expected. Personally, I hate the line about "wanting to be friends", so I wouldn't say it unless you were friends for a while already. I'd skip the flattery, too. "You're great" only leads to "I can't be that great if you don't want me." I'd go with a simple "I'm sorry, but this isn't working for me." You shouldn't have to explain yourself, but if she asks, it'd be better if you could. You're not a dick for being true to yourself.
 

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I agree pretty much with everything said here, especially what OctoberSkye said..... don't try "flattering" her by saying how great she is and stuff. Don't tell her that you just aren't in a place where you can see things going any further. Don't give her any kind of hope that something may happen later down the road.... give it to her straight.

If it were me... the harsher the words, the better. It will sting for a while, but harsh words help me move on much quicker than the whole, "you're great, but... I'm just not ready. Lets be friends for now" type crap. I can't speak for every woman out there, but... yeah...:unsure:

Please be a decent man and be truthful.
 
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ok. im fairly sure shes an INTP actually so I am less hesitant to be honest than normal. nice advice, ladies. thank you
 

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long story short I have been seeing a girl for a short period (~2 weeks for three nights) and need to stop. is there any good way to say something like "youre great but this isn't for me"??

i have been honest before but wondering if the internet can also improve my breakups
just be honest and say you expect other things. two weeks is really short, after all.
 

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Short and sweet is the best I think.
A tad of honesty is the key. She'll probably be a tad devastated but she will get over it, it's only been approx. 2 weeks...
Atleast, you were some what honest with her...
Anyway, the longer she thinks it is going swell, the more awkward when you end it in my opinion.
 

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I'm gonna have to disagree with the whole "be honest and tell her how you feel" approach. There are just toomany variables that could end badly for you on this one. why do you have to be the one to let her down in the first place? Just start acting really clingy or whatever, and before you can think twice about it; she'll tell you "we should just be friends". Works everytime. This way nobody really feels rejection and you still get what you want. Mind ninjas have been using this elegant solution for years without any negetive consequence.
 

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Break it off n no uncertain terms in person, and then gtfo in case if she's yandere.
Oh, and hope she doesn't stalk you.
 
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