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I think the correct answer to all your questions is "Don't be an idiot".
Surely there's more to it than "don't be an idiot"? But then again, how do you define idiocy? And is this definition held by ENTJs in general, or is it more specific to your own personal perceptions? Not being an idiot might lead to a detached sense of respect for another person, and even towards the building of casual friendships; but does it lead to attachment as well? Do you grow very fond of every person you meet who happens to not be an idiot? And I'm genuinely interested in understanding here.
 

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You're overthinking it. It's really simple. ENTJ's live by that one rule. Don't be an idiot. ENTJ's love competence. If you are good at your job, or you are talented at what you do, I think it's stupid not to give you kudos. If you suck at your job, I have the right to tell you you do. We also love efficiency. Don't waste.
Again, I can see how someone being competent would cause you to respect them. I too easily respect people I feel are competent, and I'm very attracted to these same individuals as well. But my question is, does competence itself cause ENTJs to let people into their personal space? Would it lower the ENTJ's wall so that the other person has an opportunity to explore their more authentic side? Is that all it takes?
 

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For me, there are different levels of friendship. There are some friends that I can meet with for lunch every once in a while and chat amiably about casual subjects (an occasional lunch hour is more than enough), and others whom I find engaging and love to sit around and talk with about topics that are a bit more abstract and that interest me.
Yes, I think I understand a bit better now. Let me ask you this. When it comes to this latter group of people that you like to discuss abstract topics with, are they also divided into separate categories? Perhaps some of them are more closer to you on an emotional level than others? If so, then what specific qualities do these people closest to you possess?

From the various things I've seen Te-doms write on this website, it doesn't appear that you lot are the "wear your heart on your sleeve" type. So are there any other characteristics besides intelligence that would make you decide that it was safe enough to give someone a peek into your hopes, your fears, your insecurities, your aspirations... you know, those things that, when exposed, might make you feel more vulnerable?
 

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:dry: Excellent observation.
Is my observation inaccurate? Obvious? Offensive? It's been a long day and I can't tell whether you're being sarcastic, or not. Though my intentions were not to offend anyone. I just wanted to know if it took more than mere competence and good conversation to build a genuinely closer relationship with an ENTJ?
 

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@KINGoftheAMAZONS, some people are more private than others, buddy.
Agreed. And I respect anyone's right not to answer me. I just didn't know if I was being unintentionally offensive, or not. And while in most situations on perc, I could care less if I'm offending others, this subject matter is a bit more personal, and so I'm a bit more aware of trying not to be rude. So thanks for the heads up. If anyone would like to give their opinion on the questions I've asked, I'd welcome it.

You cannot have a formula for making friends, everyone is fucking different. Even ENTJs are different from other ENTJs, focus less on the type (don't focus on the type) and focus on them.
Thanks. I'll keep this in mind.
 

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Yes. It would be someone who knew better than to ask me a question like this. Especially after making the comment,
Hmm. Maybe it's because I'm used to talking about these things with random people that I didn't think that such a question would be offensive. I don't apologize for asking the question, but I am sorry that my asking it offended you. Honestly, my intention wasn't to make anyone uncomfortable. I'm not sure if it was the question, or the comment about Te-doms that rubbed you the wrong way. Perhaps both, I'm not sure. But all I originally wanted to know was whether or not it took more than competence for an individual to be given access into the ENTJ's private space. And I think I got my answer. So thank you for taking the time to respond to me.

You asked if I was offended.
No, because I don't think by asking the question your intent was to offend.
But, I'm not going to answer it beyond what I posted above.
I hope that doesn't offend you, because that's not my intent.
No, it doesn't offend me at all. Again, thanks for taking the time to interact with me.
 
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