[BrownSugar]

Wow...And I just started a relationship with an ENTJ. Coming from being in a relationship with an INFJ, it's one damn rude awakening.

 

[BrownSugar]

Well.. He is very smart but he can be so brutally honest that I wonder if he intentionally does that to make me want to cry. Of course I wouldn't dare.

Me: Oh, did you see that funny youtube video.. The woman did blah blah.. hahahah
Him: That was a fake. Are you that gullible? You can't believe everything you see.
Me. ... Oh well...I can't see how that was fake.
2 days later- I get an email.
with a link verifying that it is indeed a fake.
me: :|
Arghhh!! I hate that he's right and I feel like he just rubs it in. Is it necessary to be smug?
I know it's not intentional (after discovering he was an ENTJ) but sometimes I feel like he is just waiting to pop every single happy bubble. But then at the same time, he says:
"You have no idea how much I learn from you" and "you are so happy , I love that about you. You are the love of my life..." When he says things like this--it shocks me. I'm thinking then stop being so mean!

Oh he likes to tell me that..."Truth is an intruder and receives the intruders welcome".... :dry:

 

[BrownSugar]

You should try to take it as a learning experience. You can't change the way he is. Learn to accept this about his nature, and find ways to enjoy it.

Try to laugh at yourself a bit more, and poke fun at him in your own way.

Yes, I am trying which is why I am still in this relationship (and the fact that he is always there when I need him and just does what he can to make me happy. He is not selfish. ) I have to admit that I am learning something valuable from him but just don't want to lose what makes me the person that I am. This relationship is 9 months old..so there is quite a ways to go. Keep the advice coming--- Much appreciated.

 

[BrownSugar]

why is correcting you smug? you were wrong, now you know better-it's adding to your knowledge base.

I'm really puzzled at how this is smug.

It seems to me he is being smug because he'll finish it with "I'm always right" or something to that effect and seems to gloat. Maybe it's just me. Afterall, I do wear the ENFP crown.

 

[BrownSugar]

-----oops

 

[BrownSugar]

I find this interchange strange. You made no claim as to the veracity or lack thereof of the video, only that you found it funny. The veracity of the video, any gullibility on your part, etc. is beside the point, so what purpose was there in him jumping on that? And then you took the bait... hehehe.

Some things are purely for the lols -- not like a scientific treatise, a police report, a court document, etc. -- and should be taken as such.

"And then you took the bait..." BOO-YA :crazy: Damn it , I do it every single freakin' time!! :frustrating: