I think it’s an appeal to all type - perhaps the sprawl of why one is drawn to it differs from intuitive vs sensors , but I wouldn’t rule sensors out - my esfp cousin - istp husband and nearly everyone in my high school theater class loved Lewis Carroll . I love how the book could be interpreted in so many different ways. What’s your take on it ?
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What kinds of things turn you off romantically? Is this different for females vs. males?
1. Different Morals. (I react strongly against forms of bigotry)
2. Controlling me. I don't mind it in a sexual context but someone shouldn't tell me who I can hang out with or what I can eat.
3. Always pessimistic. I don't mind a little pessimism but if you're constantly gloomy I'll have a hard time wanting to be around you.
4. Not authentic. I need someone to be themselves. I can pick up on fake quickly.
5. Rude and cruelty. I probably will just ignore you.
6. Being too submissive. For some reason, a completely submissive male is a turn-off.
7. Must be a male. You must look like the opposite sex. I've tried out females and I've found out I'm not attracted to them. A transgender female turning male, maybe. I haven't fully experimented with that to know how I would react.
8. No Hygiene. I need you to smell good.
9. An intelligence above the average bell curve. Not necessarily within my range but you have to at least be able to provide feedback on conversations.
10. Not motivated. You can't be lazy. For some reason being too lazy is a turnoff.
11. Hot and cold. I'm attracted to males that know what they want and go for it.
12. Making fun of geek or nerds. I'm a nerd and a geek at heart. I generally enjoy items that fit within those categories, they don't necessarily need to be geeky or nerdy but at least respect those points that are a part of me.
13. Alcoholics. I've had some bad PTSD moments with people who are drunks every day of their lives and now react badly to it. I mean when you drink so much that I can smell it coming out of your pores 24/7. I now recognize that scent anywhere. The scent when someones been drinking and it comes out of every pore as they sweat. It gives me an upchuck feeling. I don't mind a little bit of bourbon, scotch, Irish whiskey collecting, craft beer, or wine. But don't drink 24/7.
14. Blowing cigarette smoke in my face. Smoking isn't a turn-off but blowing it in my face is. This also goes for chewing tobacco and trying to kiss me with it in your mouth. That's no.
15. Too picky of an eater. If all you like is cheeseburgers every day of your life and give me a long list of everything you hate and that list is longer than a CVS receipt. Yeah, I'm not the girl for you. I love my cooking and like to try out new recipes. I'm that type that when I land in Asia be prepared to try out interesting dishes.
16. Must be a friend. I don't date people I'm not already friends with. I can walk around with no chemistry for someone and then one day if it's the right timing can have chemistry for them after knowing them for a while. I've found dating men that are not friends first, the relationship burns in flames.
17. Men that try to use just "good-looks" chemistry have a harder time with me. I find the outward appearance of genetics "physical looks" to be a non-factor in if I'm attracted to someone. It's normally the above points that led me to switch my status from single to being in a partnership. If someone meets me at a coffee shop, gym, yoga class, library, art class, etc, and tries to pick me up on my appearance alone, I kind of look at them as if something is wrong with their reasoning center. It's more of a put-off. This is probably the main reason why I don't fall in love easily. I've never had the "fallen in love with someone at first-site." I find the expression highly shallow.