See, that's interesting. My manager is very much like that -- plays the "daddy" role -- with my younger less experienced team mates, and I wonder if part of the reason we have difficulties getting is because I'm older (than my younger team mates, not him) and more established in my career, and therefore the dynamics of our relationship may be more threatening to him in some ways. The thing is, having recognized this dynamic, I've tried to approach him from the standpoint of asking for his help and guidance to function better within the team structure, but that hasn't really gotten me anywhere in the long term either.Yea their messiness and inefficiency annoys me sometimes. But on the other hand if they are your supervisors it's great because they never get angry. I remember as an intern i had to confess to my ESFP boss that I didn't think something through and we lost like $1000 because of it and he was like "oh no worries, that can happen". He's the one who used to always lose contracts and that cost way more money. He was a lot older than me but he was a charmer and people thought we were flirting sometimes but it was just the way we were xD he was like a second dad almost who kept inviting me to ridiculously expensive dinners and VIP parties because we both loved good food, music and wines. I didn't ever go for dinner with him though because it would have come off wrong. But the VIP parties were great because he'd introduce me to all the potential future employers and talked good about me to them. I didn't even know they were the CEOs so i casually chatted and danced with them and they said they've never seen an intern who was that confident and happy haha white wine....i owe that ESFP many job offers and i really liked him and miss him. He and the ISTJ were the people i liked most in the office
Anyway, sorry for deviating! I have at least 2 (young) ESFPs at my new job and i have to say its different with them. One is basically constantly on drugs and super chill (too chill for my likings) and the other very, very loud. But some ESFPsare actually quite energized ans efficient, from my experience mostly the older ones.
But you're also right that the upside is that he doesn't really care about my messiness and my procrastinating ways, even when it leads to issues! I've had other bosses who were more STJ who really gave me a hard time with my "process" so it is definitely a benefit that my current manager is worse than I am in this respect! :wink: