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Inside their own heads? oh really? c'mon give example!
don't they ENFP like to partying and stuff too since they're social butterfly?
I don't like to party too much... Just once in a while. And I don't mind being alone just to think. I like to take solo walks by the beach or in a pretty park...
 
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I do like to party, and often do so. However I also like quiet time alone and with my INTJ. My INTJ is fine with me partying without him, and I'm fine with his not being interested in partying a lot. Both of us like each other exactly the way we are. We also trust each other. He knows that when I'm out partying, I'm not picking up other guys. I know when we're not together on a weekend night, he's sitting at home alone watching TV or playing computer games, not seducing some other woman.

Sometimes on weekends, I'll go out partying and then will spend the night with my INTJ, cutting my partying time shorter than I normally would so I could get to my INTJ's by 11 pm or so. When I say, "partying," I'm referring to dancing and socializing and perhaps getting tipsy, but not getting drunk. My INTJ and I had a nice recent weekend night when we went to a show with an ENFP/INFP couple who are our mutual friends, and then went out to dinner.
 

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why? Have face a bad experience with them before?


Don't take free online test, the result is quite misleading.
Yeah but according to theory, the nature of your personality couldn't change (what you born with which is I think there is some causation between our Biological body and Personality type). So the bottom line is your personality type has a default value but also a dependent variable (that is in your case:
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MBTI meeting? nope. there is no such meeting in my country.

I think what I could go is only the Bookstores/public libraries.

is there any other place which is quiet in nature similar to bookstore/public library?


What do they usually do to get infinite mental simulation?



Thanks. I appreciate that.
I had terrible experiences when interacting with INTJs/INTPs online so far, but only one in person. Maybe is an online vs real life personality thing. You're only the second decent INTJ I've encontered so far. I hope there's more, I'm against typism myself.

I wasn't talking about online tests, but about other people thinking of me as such. I took a professional one a week or so ago.

Record stores, small family farm markets, ice cream parlors, places that sell cute stuff...we're everywhere, though. I think it would be easier if you said what you like to do, then I can tell you if ENFPs in general match.

Reading, watching good TV shows, movies, MUSIC, but nº 1 is: talking to other people.

No probs, I love to help :proud:
 

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okay. so the conclusion is ENFP male is somewhat fashionable. do you follow trend?


I'd met this kind of people couple times in the queue line and when I stare them, they smiled on me and that was so awkward. lol




Inside their own heads? oh really? c'mon give example!
don't they ENFP like to partying and stuff too since they're social butterfly?
So I know you weren't talking to me, but I can't resist.

Most ENFPs I've met (including myself) are actual hipsters. We're mostly ahead of the curve and resist the mainstream. An example: it took me three years to watch Lor of The Rings because I absolutely hated how overhyped it was. I was 11 at the time, mind you. It never changed.

Yes, the smile thing is real. I'm not one to smile at strange people, but I smile to myself all the time and it attracts a lot of attention.

Don't trust the "social butterfly" title too much. ENFPs are the most introverted of extroverts, unlike ESFPs, it sometimes takes a while for us to warm up to people. And we do love to spend time alone, ESFPs would preffer to jump off a building :tongue:

I do love partying, but only with people I know and like, or at least simpatize with. And no alcohol or smoking, please.
 

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okay. so the conclusion is ENFP male is somewhat fashionable. do you follow trend?

Not at all, I'm the only one I know who dresses like this. and though people take the micky because of it.
They also say they really miss it, if I dress normally.

I'd met this kind of people couple times in the queue line and when I stare them, they smiled on me and that was so awkward. lol
Yeah that sounds like me. I do what I find fun, I try a break the daily grind for people. and I love making strangers smile, even if it's at my own comical downfall.




Inside their own heads? oh really? c'mon give example!
don't they ENFP like to partying and stuff too since they're social butterfly?
Well let's explain it like this...
When I had a mutual crush with a girl (it never developed)
I pictured my entire life with her.
Down to marriage, raising a child, dying at an old age.
It's silly but it's something I did.

I was dumped by my first girlfriend about 8 months ago.
And I've probably imagined the situation 100 times since then. as I wish I had done things different when she dumped me (Mainly just telling her to stick it where the sun don't shine)

I constantly have a sort of monologue in my head, though I assume most people are the same.
I'm just constantly imagining situations of how I want different things to go.

As far as parties go... personally I don't like them. but I've only been to one.
Which was a typical party I think, underage drinking, people smoking weed, music too loud to talk, people getting naked.

And as I don't drink, don't smoke. and don't strip.
Needless to say I hated it.
 

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You're only the second decent INTJ I've encontered so far. I hope there's more, I'm against typism myself.
Thanks, it's a compliment. I think it would be great if I was your first encounter.

I do love partying, but only with people I know and like, or at least simpatize with. And no alcohol or smoking, please.
I thought partying is about drinking alcohol and get fun as there is strong relationship betwen partying and drinking alcohol. why no alcohol? reason?


Record stores, small family farm markets, ice cream parlors, places that sell cute stuff...we're everywhere, though. I think it would be easier if you said what you like to do, then I can tell you if ENFPs in general match.

Reading, watching good TV shows, movies, MUSIC, but nº 1 is: talking to other people.
What I like to do?
[Reading, listening, observing, speculate on things, analyzing, watching documentary, watching lecture, movie (rarely, it depends on the genre), music] <= and all the activities I spend is at home. lol


No probs, I love to help :proud:
is generosity their trait too?

Most ENFPs I've met (including myself) are actual hipsters. We're mostly ahead of the curve and resist the mainstream. An example: it took me three years to watch Lor of The Rings because I absolutely hated how overhyped it was. I was 11 at the time, mind you. It never changed.
oh hell, I don't even know what a hipster is.

is it like this? (found from google)

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I'm just constantly imagining situations of how I want different things to go.
This look like me and like what the theory said, we have same dominant function.

As far as parties go... personally I don't like them. but I've only been to one.
Which was a typical party I think, underage drinking, people smoking weed, music too loud to talk, people getting naked.

And as I don't drink, don't smoke. and don't strip.
Needless to say I hated it.
2 persons said the same thing. I think for the time being, this is the concrete thing what differentiate ENFP & ESFP.
 

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A hipster is someone that doesn't really fit into the mainstream, they listen to bands you don't know of and have unique hobbies.

At least that's the original kind of terming. now it's a bit of a derogatory term because there are so many people trying to avoid being mainstream...
That they're becoming a cliche and a parody, these are the kind of people that want to dress like hipsters. so they buy $60 vintage t-shirts (kind of nullifying the reason for vintage clothing)
Another thing is fake hipsters lose interest in something when it becomes big. you'll find they love a song when it only has 200 hits on youtube. but the minute it's playing on the radio they act like their precious baby has been stolen
Despite the fact that musicians need recognition to survive.
 

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I thought partying is about drinking alcohol and get fun as there is strong relationship betwen partying and drinking alcohol. why no alcohol? reason?
Are you serious? You must be joking.

The word “party” does not imply alcohol. Society does ties the two things up these days, has for a long time actually, but there’s no real connection.

"Having fun” and “enjoying oneself” is about being sober, if you need to get high then you have no idea of what real joy is.



[Reading, listening, observing, speculate on things, analyzing, watching documentary, watching lecture, movie (rarely, it depends on the genre), music]
You like the exact same things I do (With the exeption that music is my life and I love to dance:happy:). See, it doesn’t all comes down to type.


is generosity their trait too?
I usually see ESFPs pegged as the most, but I’ve always been called generous, sometimes exceedingly so. But in general, I think so.


is it like this?
NOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :frustrating:

Don't beleieve in anything Tumblr or UrbanDictionary tells you about hipsters. I beg you.

I'll post the best hipster description I've ever encontered. It's actually the results of a test I took:

Some people may think you're a geek only to find out that's not exactly true. You're more of a dilettante.
You have many areas of culture, academics, and even geekdom that you're interested in. But your knowledge is wide - not deep.

You are often ahead of the curve when it comes to trends, and you're bored by whatever you're into once it becomes mainstream.
You are mainly interested in what is culturally underrated or forgotten. You gravitate toward the indie and bohemian.

You like to live an artistic lifestyle. You rather work to live than live to work... you seek meaning.
You could be interested in anything at any given moment, and it's likely you have a weakness for music, photography, and writing.
This is what a hipster is. It has nothing to do with plaid shirts and glasses!!! :angry:

I'm sorry, I'm not angry at you, but after years of seeing airhead kids throw hipsters name in the dirt, it takes its toll :crying:
 

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@YLTO

A hipster is someone that doesn't really fit into the mainstream, they listen to bands you don't know of and have unique hobbies.

At least that's the original kind of terming. now it's a bit of a derogatory term because there are so many people trying to avoid being mainstream...
That they're becoming a cliche and a parody, these are the kind of people that want to dress like hipsters. so they buy $60 vintage t-shirts (kind of nullifying the reason for vintage clothing)
Another thing is fake hipsters lose interest in something when it becomes big. you'll find they love a song when it only has 200 hits on youtube. but the minute it's playing on the radio they act like their precious baby has been stolen
Despite the fact that musicians need recognition to survive.
THANK YOU.

Someone understands the difference, I have actual tears of joy in my eyes :crying:.
 

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"I thought partying is about drinking alcohol and get fun as there is strong relationship betwen partying and drinking alcohol. why no alcohol? reason?"

Partying really is about being social -- getting to know people, dancing, having fun. Alcohol may or not be involved. In my opinion, people who think partying means drinking to drunkenness are losers who are too inept or shy to talk to others unless they are drunk. ENFPs are great at talking to others so we don't need alcohol in order to have a fun time. People whose idea of fun is drinking to drunkenness have never been the type of people whom I chose to hang out with.
 

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1. Esfp are airheads :p no offense to esfps... But they are irrational and overly indulgent and a little egocentric. You will tell the difference once you try to have an intellectual conversation with them.
1. airheads? lol . Yeah, They show weak interest about intellectual conversation since I've experience some of my friend which I observe is esfp stereotype.

2. hmm.. are you hipster?
 

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@YLTO

A hipster is someone that doesn't really fit into the mainstream, they listen to bands you don't know of and have unique hobbies.

At least that's the original kind of terming. now it's a bit of a derogatory term because there are so many people trying to avoid being mainstream...
yeah, I have several my friends in university claiming they're anti-mainstream but I doubt they are.


That they're becoming a cliche and a parody, these are the kind of people that want to dress like hipsters. so they buy $60 vintage t-shirts (kind of nullifying the reason for vintage clothing)
Actually it's kinda a trend nowadays. Because I could see many girl wear vintage outfit/style, rarely in case for man. So it's kinda hard differentiate real hipster and wannabe hipster. Don't you think so?
 

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THANK YOU.

Someone understands the difference, I have actual tears of joy in my eyes :crying:.
I've had some experience with it.
I knew a lovely girl a few years ago who wanted to be a hipster but claimed she wasn't "hip" enough for it.

But mostly my friends call me a hipster because I dress strangely. I have odd interests.
And I like bands no one I know has actually heard of (Poets Of The Fall, The Ones You Loved, Motion City Soundtrack)

However they're wrong, I'm not a hipster I'm just Myself and I like what I like.

So yeah I listen to obscure bands, but I also like The Beatles, One Direction, and Daft Punk.

In general people should just be themselves and be less obsessed with fitting in to a niche like Emo or Hipster.
 

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MBTI meeting? nope. there is no such meeting in my country.

I think what I could go is only the Bookstores/public libraries.

is there any other place which is quiet in nature similar to bookstore/public library?
Yup. Wanna find out? Click here.

What do they usually do to get infinite mental simulation?
You're kidding, right? For an overactive Ne (ENFPs' dominant function), pretty much everything qualifies as fodder for the cerebral fire, so to speak. It's like every ENFP this big, gigantic intellectual clitoris on legs: a little goes a long way, and yet, the more, the better! ;-)

Okay, okay, facts: "we" tend to like words, their shape and meaning, so it's a safe bet that we're into books, song lyrics, on-line forums, conversation, and such. We also tend to be "artsy", so anything artistic is good, too. Also, we're all about authenticity and self-expression, so watching others being themselves is also a turn-on.

The rest, I leave you to find on your own. I mean, after all, INTJs are supposed to "dig" research...
 

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"What do they usually do to get infinite mental simulation?"

Classes, conferences, workshops, lectures in subjects that interest them. They'll be the ones sitting in the front row, asking lots of questions, and getting to know their classmates and other conference attendees.
 

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1. airheads? lol . Yeah, They show weak interest about intellectual conversation since I've experience some of my friend which I observe is esfp stereotype.

2. hmm.. are you hipster?
Ahahah I love reading the way you are using the scientific method to put two and two together. It's cute and humorous :p.

Hipster? I am what I what I consider "me." I don't care if something is mainstream or not. I just hate anything that is marketed to appeal to me just for money be it music, movies, tv shows, clothing and food. I also hate when my favorite bands start to change their music just to appeal to a bigger audience. All in all I hate corporate and Most of all I hate hypocracy.
 

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Would you rather be a purple spotted flying squirrel who happens to be friends with a dinosaur or a blue striped flying fish who is friends with the cookie monster? :kitteh:
Please note if you pick the wrong one the world may turn into potatoes
(I don't know what I'm doing with my life) :D
 

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Are you a misanthrope? Why? Why not? And how do you make it work considering that you are extroverts?(assuming that you are a misanthrope.)
I'm a Misanthrope and a Philanthrope

It depends on the mood I'm in. while so many people frustrate me with their close minded selfish entitled world view...
But when I see something like this


I just can't stay mad at humanity.
We mess up so often... but we've also done some incredible things.
So... for the most of the time, I truly do love everyone.
Which means I guess I'm not fit to answer your question :D



Would you rather be a purple spotted flying squirrel who happens to be friends with a dinosaur or a blue striped flying fish who is friends with the cookie monster? :kitteh:
Please note if you pick the wrong one the world may turn into potatoes
(I don't know what I'm doing with my life) :D
Isn't the answer obvious do to my name? :D
 
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