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So I haven't really explored the online dating world too much but I had an idea of creating arbitrary profiles that lacked coherent structure yet still made some semblance of sense. Also instead of focusing on selling yourself and your value as a partner I thought of instead on focusing of what you want out of a partner in a realistic sense and not just "loyal, honest etc" "I work in x job and like doing y things".

Get as creative or as bland in all 3 categories just make sure they can be realistically achieved.

3 things you want to be able to do with a partner

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish



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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner


  1. Dance in the rain.
  2. Play scrabble or any other game and ultimately want to choke each other out but never succumbing to the desire.
  3. Not do everything together.

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner


  1. Fk off.(in a lighthearted manner with no future repercussions).
  2. That dress does make you look fat but here is how you could make it better.
  3. You are annoying me and here is why.

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish


  1. Finish this sentence "I wanna be the very best like no one ever was...."
  2. Do their dishes without whining.
  3. Walk in a straight line after a shot of vodka.

 

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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner
- Go on adventures (bike ride, holidays, hikes, walks, exploring new places, imaginary adventures)
- Be incredibly intimate, connected and deep (inlc. be able to completely be ourselves/share almost everything openly)
- Be able to just relax with them, no pressure.

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner
- I Love You
- I want to be able to tell them when I'm uncomfortable/disapproving with something. E.g. "Don't do that."
- Joking, playful teasing things, without them taking offense (because they understand my cheeky demeanour and vice versa)

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish
- tying their shoe lace
- getting past the immaturity (and egotistical) stage, into the self-development/understanding path
- dealing with their emotions and the emotions of others appropriately
 

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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner
- hang around in jammies all day long dinking around and not get sick of each other
- get stoned together and talk about how great the other is for hours and hours
- do nature stuff together outdoors like day hikes or going to the beach and relaxing

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner
-anything that's on my mind
-that they are emotionally sensitive, supportive and nurturing
-thank you for showering and shaving regularly

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish
-helping with the housework without having to nag them would be nice
-not making a huge mess everywhere they go for me to clean up would be nice
-tie their own shoes

i don't ask for much
 

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I am such a romantic sucker.

3 things I want to... do with a partner
- fuck
- binge on all foods
- burp/fart and laugh about it

3 things I want to... say to a partner
- "Mhmm, smack dat ass"
- "Would you mind leaving me alone for 150 hours?"
- "My place or your place next week?"

3 things I need them to... accomplish
- Get a life.
- Get an income.
- Get an own home.


Removed the "to be able" as it implies wishful thinking or things held "secretive" to a partner. Bottling up your wishes/desires is not helpful toward a partner.
 

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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner

1. Have lots of sex

2. Sit around doing nothing

3. Cuddle on the couch watching old-fashioned romantic movies

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner

1. I want to be able to express myself sexually and tell her she's beautiful and so forth

2. I want to be able to talk about abstract concepts with her

3. I want to be able to express sadness/depression/fear sometimes and have her be supportive

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish

1. Being able to be composed and have a rational thought about serious matters

2. Being able to tolerate some lifestyle differences

3. Being able to contribute strongly to a conversation without dominating it, or listen while still not putting a burden on me to dominate it
 

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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner

murder them
dispose their body
burn all the evidence


3 things you want to be able to say to a partner

I'm going to kill you
I will hide your body
I will burn the evidence

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish

kill yourself so I don't have to
find a nice spot in the woods to dig your final resting place
have your ghost come back and burn all the evidence


Here's Mine
 

3 things you want to be able to do with a partner


  1. Dance in the rain.
  2. Play scrabble or any other game and ultimately want to choke each other out but never succumbing to the desire.
  3. Not do everything together.

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner


  1. Fk off.(in a lighthearted manner with no future repercussions).
  2. That dress does make you look fat but here is how you could make it better.
  3. You are annoying me and here is why.

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish


  1. Finish this sentence "I wanna be the very best like no one ever was...."
  2. Do their dishes without whining.
  3. Walk in a straight line after a shot of vodka.

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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner
1- Go to cultural events AND enjoy so.
2- Kiss, make out and flirt in the nature- under the rain, on the top of a mountain, laying on the grass...
3- Discuss any matter, specially the more abstract/theoretical ones.
3 things you want to be able to say to a partner
1- I am attracted to them; how much and how and why, whenever I want, without the consequences of violating the male-female dating code; in other words, looking weird/desperate/ non-diplomatic/ etc. Because for me, to confess attraction has nothing to do with being the slave of someone's love.
2- I am eccentric and unconventional in many ways, including the gender roles.
3- Nicknames for them and some parts of their body.:kitteh:
3 things you need them to be able to accomplish
1- Realize what they want in a partner/ out of a relationship.
2- Wash their underwear.
3- A reasonable degree of practical and intellectual independence.

Useful post, by the way. I consider this the next time I start to date someone :)
 

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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner

1- Being really sick and vulnerable. Spewing from both ends from food poisoning and after experiencing each other like that, still being able to look at each other and saying I love you.
2- Being together in complete silence without needing to talk, just enjoying the company.
3- Both call in sick for work, just once to be together in bed all day



3 things you want to be able to say to a partner

1- Anything. Nothing being wrong because they get me so they will know that it comes from love. And never having to explain because we get each other.



3 things you need them to be able to accomplish

1- acceptance of each others differences, good or bad
2- Some sort of independence, having their own friends and interest and not relying on my all the time for social interaction
3- Being mature enough/tidy enough so I won't become ''mom'' having to yell at them to clean up and so on...
 

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3 things you want to be able to do with a partner
- Be lazy (i.e. just take naps together, play video games, watch movies/listen to music). I want to be able to fun with the guy without having to always go out.
- Vacation together.
- Couple outfits :proud:

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner
- "I love you, but I want to be alone."
- "I don't need you to give me solutions on how to solve my issues. Just listening is enough."
- "No, I don't want to watch sports/football games with you."

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish
- Know when to be serious and when to be goofy.
- Be able to cook one thing really well.
- Take an interest in what I like. You don't have to like Kpop as much as me, but being able to at least try it out means a lot.
 

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Only completing a third of the questions?

That doesn't sound like you @Catwalk :shocked:
Sometimes, I indeed, skip question(s) .... not often, but it happen(s). I was once asked a "would you rather have..." a delicious chocolate bar or a long life of good health + wellness.

I avoided the question.

[*]Play scrabble or any other game and ultimately want to choke each other out but never succumbing to the desire.
Tear.
 

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@Crimson Ash so here is what i think i would actually put on a dating profile using your template if i were to really make one

3 things you want to be able to do with a partner
-laugh at them making fun of people (i can't because i am too nice)
-enjoy long luxurious backrubs by them whenever i want one
-exquisite fulfilling vanilla bean sex (not always have it be like a dirty porno or something)

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner
-thanks for putting the dishes away
-thanks for being understanding about everything
-you are the sweetest and most sensitive person ever!

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish
-wake up at a decent hour
-stay soberish -not be a heavy alcohol drinker/heavy drug user
-consider me first in their life if in a serious relationship
 

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Not to rain on your parade, but plenty of research on the subject has shown that your profile pic is virtually all that matters and the words in your profile might as well be in another language because nobody reads them anyways.

But just to humor you:

3 things you want to be able to do with a partner
1. Go on adventures with be it across the street or around the world.
2. Cuddle.
3. Raise kids and retire.

3 things you want to be able to say to a partner
1. The truth - There's nothing else. If there is anything we have to lie about then fuck it.

3 things you need them to be able to accomplish
1. Making a decent wage and living within budget.
2. Must be physically capable of having kids.
3. Must be mentally stable.
 
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