It's like when I take steps to get out of this hick town and crappy job my parents will doublespeak and basically say, "Well you have to do what makes you happy," but when I actually take steps like say I applied for a job in X city, their reaction (mainly my mom's) is contrary to what they say. Nobody sees the world the way I do so everyone thinks I'm crazy and it doesn't seem like I have much support.I'm not convinced that the people in my life want me to be happy as much as they want me to do what I'm "supposed" to do. I am not immune to bad decisions, but I'm pretty sure I know what's making me happy and what's not getting the job done anymore.
Story of my lyfe.I'm not convinced that the people in my life want me to be happy as much as they want me to do what I'm "supposed" to do. I am not immune to bad decisions, but I'm pretty sure I know what's making me happy and what's not getting the job done anymore.
It annoys the crap outta me too. Idk but it inspires a feeling of "there's nothing that you can do it's not under your control give up boy!" I don't like being told its not in my control :II hate the saying "if you love them, let them go. if they come back yadda yadda yadda". I...I just hate it.
Motivation is the worst. I've turned failing at motivation into a science. (Thanks, ADHD.)UGH why is motivation so hard seek?! I think to myself as I neglect my priorities.
also, why do I have to show my emotional vulnerability to all? I know they don't give a damn whether I'm bored or having a bad day. I should stop wearing my annoyance with the world at large on my sleeves.
You've just reminded me of how much I love PerC. Random ENTPs helping you sail across this depressing stormy life because they've been there and done that.Motivation is the worst. I've turned failing at motivation into a science. (Thanks, ADHD.)
So... Plan to start whatever it is you want to do. Plan to do it for only 5 minutes. Then, see if you wanna continue. That usually helps.
Can't help with emotional annoyance/bad-mood/boredom either. People usually know what's up with me emotionally without me even thinking it's showing. It's... Irritating. So, I try to distract myself. That seems to help.
Agreed. The relationship i just came out of had a very daddy-daugter sort of feel to it. I helped her VERY often and would get onto her when she messed stuff up. She depended on me for far too much. Not a healthy relationship for two adults to have. I guess i'm just wanting to take care of me...for the moment, anyway. I dont' need anyone babying me.The seemingly chaotic nature of ENTP and extraverted perceiver types in general can lead us to attract people who feel that they know what's best for us
l wouldn't say that the dynamic l've had with types like INTJ was controlling, but he definitely viewed himself that way.
ln all honesty though, if you want someone to take care of you , then that's what you will attract and if you didn't want it on some level you wouldn't be attracting it.
l used to attract it because l wasn't really of an adult mind yet...now l function as both roles lol.
I feel the same way. I go back and forth between thinking we're all screwed as a race and nobody cares and then all I have to see is a video mashup of hugs and then like magic I'm mr positive. My emotions can be pretty roller coaster on the inside even though I'm all smiles on the outside.I went on the bus today.
I'm a pretty avid people-watcher, so I was looking at everyone. Nobody really noticed. Didn't even seem to realize what was going on around them, because a camera guy from a TV station was recording them with a big hulkin' camera, and a journalist with a notepad was walking over to direct him what to do next.
It seems like people are actually afraid of making eye contact with anyone-- As if this is a dangerous, life-threatening activity. If you look at it objectively, it seems really strange. Like if an alien civilization came down to observe us, they'd be like, ''Why is everyone so self-absorbed and disconnected?''
I usually look at things on a macroscopic level, like the way our society is functioning as a whole, and how it seems dysfunctional. But, you need look no closer than the everyday to see how things could be better.
We seem to be getting better with communication-- Maybe-- Because of the social networking and stuff like that. But, it seems to be disconnecting us at the same time. And good ol' Roman emperors like to 'divide and conquer'...