Reasons why you think you will be single your whole life

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JoetheBull

Discussion Starter · Jul 2, 2010

Out of sheer boredom and feeling a bit on the downside I decided to list reasons why I could be single my whole life. How I came up with this idea I am not a 100% SURE. My guess some asked why I think I will most likely end up dying single and a dateless wonder and I couldn't think of anything at that moment. Or I predicted such an event could happen in the future and I would be dumb founded on the spot:laughing:. enough. Time for the list I made so far.

1. I'm a geek(not hardcore)
2. The only social events I enjoy are conventions (bars bore the hell out of me and sometimes annoy the hell out of me)
3. I am not socially skilled
4. I am a bit of a gamer (as in video games not to be confused with players)
5. I have no real solid ambitions
6. I have no real career direction (this could be corrected if I didn't want to do so many different things with my life:laughing

7. Don't like drinking alcohol ( it taste awful and fear ended up being annoying idiot like my one friend is and others are when they are drunk)
8. The big reason which includes some of the others on my list is I am me. I like me even if it is the reason I will probably be single for life. It's better to die alone then to die as someone else.( cheesy and cliche thing to say:laughing::laughing: could of went with bit my shiny metal ass)

SO if your bored and want to list off you own reasons, comment on my or someone else s reasons, or whatever post away.:crazy::crazy:

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Goodewitch

· #2 · Jul 3, 2010

Oh i have some similar reasons to yours Joe,..and a few others too.
I am also a geeky,. a bit of a gamer ,.. an extreme introvert, i never go anywhere now, i dont like any social situations.. I suspect my reading, and gaming, and online sirfing would be very dull and boring to live with.
I also have ridiculously high standards of morality and behaviour that I would want a partner to share with me..
I can be argumentative, stubborn,.. I am also intense, i love intensely and sort of wilt and fade awat if i dont feel that the intensity is reciprocated..
Those are the reasons I feel I am not good relationship material..
There are outside reasons too, ..i feel that most people in my age group have adversely affected by divorces or breaks ups of LTRs..while im still shiny, new and relatively idealistic,.. they are jaded and cynical. that leaves me on an uneven playing feild, and at a disadvantage. i still want the loove, commitment, romance, whilst most of my peers will do anything to avoid being locked down again.
Most want 'fun'..not another commitment, so that works against me.
Those are the main reasons while i'll always remain single, i think.
G. x

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Midnight Runner

· #3 · Jul 3, 2010

There is no reason that I would be single all of my life. Yeah, I'm a nerd. Yeah, I'm a geek. Heck, I'm a bit of a dork, too. But these are all things that some women like. I mean, I'm not an asshole, I am reasonably emotionally stable, and my interests are neither obsessive nor creepy. The only thing that might stop me from ever getting into a relationship is getting into a mental state where I believe it will never happen and completely give up. Until such a time, I still have a chance.

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Nasmoe

· #4 · Jul 3, 2010

I'm a content loner.
I'm awkward and completely nervous in social situations.
I'm picky in my choice of partners.
I'm a slob.
I'm very young at heart. Or immature, whatever.
Geeky.
Not very girly.
Can't cook. I mean I can a little, but I don't do big stuff.
Huge procrastinator.
Very leisurely. Or lazy, whatever.

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KrystRay

· #5 · Jul 3, 2010

So, I guess this sucks for all the rest of you, but I'm the exact opposite (outgoing, girly, social, like sports, I cook and clean...) and I'm still probably going to be single forever unless I choose to settle.

Why I will probably be single:
1. All of my married friends make marriage sound extremely scary.
2. Marriage is boring unless you're in a bad one and then you're just in a bad situation altogether...
3. I'm more ambitious when I'm alone.
4. My mom was married 5 times (so divorce is a high probability for me).
5. You can always upgrade if you don't settle down.
6. I can't really find anyone I respect enough to spend my life with. But I'm still young and I have been known to change my mind.

And on the other hand, I dream about having a perfect little nuclear family (husband, 2.5 children, dogs...). It would be a shame if I didn't at least try!

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Calvaire

· #6 · Jul 3, 2010

I tried to think of reason why and I don't really know.

I've been single awhile.
All I could think of is that it's hard for me to let people in and I'm not easy,yes guys you actually have to put sdome effort in.

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KrystRay

· #7 · Jul 3, 2010

JoleneSummer said:
I tried to think of reason why and I don't really know.

I've been single awhile.
All I could think of is that it's hard for me to let people in and I'm not easy,yes guys you actually have to put sdome effort in.

Me neither. But I am not easy because I need some entertainment while I put them through hell. It's a little twisted, but I need something more to go on than, "I want to be respected." That's just boring. Then, when I actually like them, I guess I turn down my faux crazy button and apparently turn on my actual crazy button (the "just be yourself") and I guess it's a turn off or something because they usually don't like that. I need to start treating the ones I like like the ones I don't like and they'll probably never leave me.

igloo123

· #8 · Jul 3, 2010

21st century Love is such a joke. Dating... Valentine's Day... Jesus.

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Outcode

· #9 · Jul 3, 2010 (Edited)

atomisedmonk said:
21st century Love is such a joke. Dating... Valentine's Day... Jesus.

Thanks for the chuckle

roud:

Reasons for why I'll be single...

1. I'm shy
2. No self-confidence. I won't make the first move.
3. Pessimistic/cynical, I can be pretty depressing
4. Procrastinator/lazy
5. I'm not very open with anyone
6. I'm apathetic
7. Fear of rejection

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Molock

· #10 · Jul 3, 2010

I'll have a go.

1. I am a heavily introverted loner. I don't mind being alone for extended periods of time.
2. I am basically an existential nihilist. This seems to irk people.
3. Not willing to try activities which I consider uninteresting (dancing for example).
4. I don't show any ambition (I can't decide what I want to do with my life so I don't usually take any initiatives)
5. I don't see the point in giving people gifts... so I don't.
6. My social skills are decent but I still can't maintain small talk with people I don't know well.
7. I can't seem to approach girls I like (not because I fear being rejected (I'm used to that :laughing: ) but because of point 6).
8. Social conventions; I don't always respect them.
9. Related to point 8. I don't try and fit in so I come off as anti-social.

Maybe one day I'll meet a women as weird as myself :laughing:

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Silver Phoenix

· #11 · Jul 3, 2010

I'm kind of a hardcore nerd.
I don't put myself out there.
Zero confidence in my looks.
Cocky about everything else.
I have an anger issue when it comes to stupid people in general and because of this, people think I'm an asshole altogether.
I really don't put myself out there.
Really doesn't understand the concept of "making the move", not that I'm afraid of rejection, I just don't enjoy the chase unless it will lead to something permanent.
I don't jump at the chance for social activities, blame the introversion or the activity itself.
I judge way too easily at things I don't understand, tweakers and the homeless for example.

The biggest reason why I'm single is the fact that my perfect girl who understands me isn't out there and I can't settle for people who don't like me for who I am.

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skycloud86

· #12 · Jul 3, 2010

I'm quite introverted and I'm not great at verbal communication. I don't really want a relationship at the moment anyway - maybe when I'm older, but right now I'm content to be single.

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Rayne

· #13 · Jul 3, 2010

Because I'm really picky and the people I do like don't usually like me. Also I have a huge lack of confidence.

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Mutatio NOmenis

· #14 · Jul 3, 2010 (Edited)

Because getting Kosiwa was nearly impossible. I had to target someone who was vulnerable, then add in extra persuasion. I don't have that many chances, and more mature women will go for better guys the moment that they realize that I'm not that great and that they can get far better than me in every way, they will leave me unless they are obligated by an outside force. Aditionally, because I'm a virgin, I'm not sexually bold, so the sex isn't going to be bed shaking, if I even have to courage to try.

P.S.: I'm a 17 year old guy who passed up sex because I didn't want to fuck up my GF's and my future, so there, it's not like I'm so afraid of sexual contact that I'd make any excuse to avoid it.

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Hiccups24-7

· #15 · Jul 3, 2010

Because it would mean I'd have to get out of bed more, shower more, brush my teeth more, do things someone else wants to do, possibly fake orgasms (this one is actually a joke), share my bed, consider someone elses feelings, possibly make food for someone else, possibly clean up after someone else, have to actually talk more, have to try and make friends with their friends ...not to mention family ... oh dear god that never works out the way you want it >___< ...et c ...et c....

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CuritadeRana

· #16 · Jul 3, 2010

* It's one of the few things in life I really excel at....why mess with a good thing :wink:
* I'm just as comfortable with my masculinity as well as my femininity which can be intimidating. It also means I fall in love with myself in the mirror every morning and it's hard to find someone to come between me and me. :shocked:
*In a world where everyone is going Dutch I am one of the die-hards who wants it all.
*If you want a generous and all natural rack...you have to take the package it comes with.
*I'm just not discouraged enough to switch teams in the middle of the game no matter how long the coach benches me in the dugout.
*I'm too introverted for the extroverts and too extroverted for the introverts. Where the heck are those people from Middle Earth at? Obviously I am living in the wrong dimension.
*Obviously my designs for the perfect man trap are still in the experimental stage and I haven't gotten all the bugs out. I really need to make sure that sliding cage door doesn't close shut so quickly...important parts may get caught :shocked:
*Not everyone can appreciate or get my humor :laughing:He would have to be really special and I mean special....not "special" :tongue:

Good luck everyone....like I always say....there's a nut for every squirrel because I've cooked in the kitchen and not all those lids fit that pot.

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SaraBell

· #17 · Jul 3, 2010

I have a reason all you guys won't be single your whole lives...I'm am the same as most of you (shy, lazy, argumentative, loner, gamer/nerd, socially awkward, etc) and I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years. The secret is to find somebody else who is similar; not exactly easy I know, but they are obviously out there based on all the responses to this thread.

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Third Engine

· #18 · Jul 3, 2010

Molock said:
I'll have a go.

1. I am a heavily introverted loner. I don't mind being alone for extended periods of time.
2. I am basically an existential nihilist. This seems to irk people.
3. Not willing to try activities which I consider uninteresting (dancing for example).
4. I don't show any ambition (I can't decide what I want to do with my life so I don't usually take any initiatives)
5. I don't see the point in giving people gifts... so I don't.
6. My social skills are decent but I still can't maintain small talk with people I don't know well.
7. I can't seem to approach girls I like (not because I fear being rejected (I'm used to that :laughing: ) but because of point 6).
8. Social conventions; I don't always respect them.
9. Related to point 8. I don't try and fit in so I come off as anti-social.

Maybe one day I'll meet a women as weird as myself :laughing:

My list would pretty much be the same, except for 2 and 4. But, for whatever reason, some women still get interested me for whatever reason, and it's usually the ones who I thought would never have the slightest interest in me. I guess it's my "mysteriousness" or whatever.

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suicidal_orange

· #19 · Jul 4, 2010

SaraBell said:
I have a reason all you guys won't be single your whole lives...I'm am the same as most of you (shy, lazy, argumentative, loner, gamer/nerd, socially awkward, etc) and I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years. The secret is to find somebody else who is similar; not exactly easy I know, but they are obviously out there based on all the responses to this thread.

Now here's the problem - people similar to me are sitting at home posting on a forum not "out there" to be found.

Maybe we should petition to get the Dating link updated to a simple personal ad section - I dreamed of there being one on here once and was disappointed when I couldn't find it the next day :tongue:

My list:

1.When in a social situation I gravitate towards either negative or depressed people to try and cheer them up or to people who are assured in their attitude, think extreme confidence without cockiness. This usually means they are happily in a relationship, thus validated.
2. I appreciate individuality but dislike most ways of expressing it (heavy make-up, piercings, tattoos...)
3. I have no idea how to express love, which is a big one!
4. Lack of hobbies means not much to talk about, coupled with a dislike of appearing nosy so not probing others enough.

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RobinsonCrusoe

· #20 · Jul 4, 2010

because i don't put out on the first date :sad:

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