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I only non-stop talk about things I'm interested in
That's an important distinction, and suggesting the ability to control it.

Rather I'll talk and talk and be enjoying the heck out of myself in talking about whatever the subject is that I enjoy, but then after a while some internal alarm starts to go off (one I've only really developed in recent years with my husband) and I realize I've been talking for quite awhile without allowing anyone else to say anything and then I start looking at the people around me and suspect they might not want to hear anymore because man have I been talking a while, but since they're not being very obvious about it and I can't really tell by their faces if they're bored or disinterested, I guess I'll keep going until someone says something. This "internal alarm" I've developed is really from when my husband will finally just sigh very loudly and give me what I've figured out is a highly sarcastic look and gesture me to continue - I pay attention to him now when I start going on about something I enjoy and look for that exact facial expression and gesture. Of course, this doesn't work well when applied to others, but now that I know it's a problem I have an internal egg-timer so even when I'm not with him and can't cue in on his expressions that I've learned, I still start to suspect when I'm talking too much because of the amount of time he'd usually lose patience with me.
But this--all of this is just three sentences. This isn't talking non-stop about a fond subject, it's more like a runaway train in the brain. This is why my gut still says ADHD.

This is what my brain used to do all the time, and I truly thought most peoples' brains worked this way. They don't. This is atypical. If you're happy with your brain doing this, great.
 

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That's an important distinction, and suggesting the ability to control it.



But this--all of this is just three sentences. This isn't talking non-stop about a fond subject, it's more like a runaway train in the brain. This is why my gut still says ADHD.

This is what my brain used to do all the time, and I truly thought most peoples' brains worked this way. They don't. This is atypical. If you're happy with your brain doing this, great.
Yes, it can be like a runaway train - I'm talking about a subject I enjoy and am quite railroading the conversation - but my point was that it's not that I can't stop talking, it's that I can't tell when people I'm talking to aren't interested anymore. When they make it clear to me that they aren't interested or wish to change the conversation, I can stop quite easily. Once I've realized they aren't interested, I can drop it like a hot stone. (Usually rather upset that they don't find the topic as interesting as I do, but alas, not everyone is into what I'm into.)

I think the way people converse in forums like this can lend itself to confusion in this regard. Not only have I had difficulty here as an NT to express my thoughts in words here in a way that's clear, but since I'm not speaking "to" anyone, I have no clue as when to stop talking or when I've expressed my point enough that it's understood, etc. So I tend to just run-on in discussions like this where I have no cue when to stop speaking. I can just let my thoughts run on here because there's no guidelines for the conversation, no other pilots to help steer.

And I know this is atypical thought patterns, but not necessarily just ADHD. My husband doesn't think "as much" this way, but he too can have the "jumping" from thought to thought. I would be interested in whether or not this is solely a pattern of ADHD or also representative of the Introverted Intuition. As someone above was pointing out the similarities between INTJ personality quirks and Aspergers/ASD, I too see a pattern here between the way I've seen Ni thinking described and between how you're describing ADHD.

Anyway, I once again want to just say thanks for your input. Here in January our health insurance will kick into effect once more, and I intend to see a specialist to receive some kind of official diagnosis, for my peace of mind at least. (As a J, I like certainty.) And I'll be open to whatever the doctor says. And if he says ADHD, I'll be sure to let you know your instincts were spot on.
 

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I scored a 35 but I must say that I am very skeptic of this test (as the moderator have pointed out) and that is due to the wording of the test. I guess the disclaimer is there for that purpose. I also think that if someone puts an effort into modifying their behaviour because they recognize the deterrent it causes for themselves in social situations and if it is detrimental for their life then that should take them out of being diagnosed. I am probably just really anti-social and unwilling to cooperate with people due to the way I am and the way my personality is. I think associating one type to one disorder is presumptuous and should not even be considered.
 

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Wow, I dated and got engaged to a man with Aspergers. I didn't know he had it until after it was all said and done. I knew something but not what it was exactly. Shrugs, strange family secret.

I'm logical but I have fairly "normal" adult emotions. I override them with reason or examine what would cause a certain emotion to surface. I have a difficult time understanding that because they are not rational but I have them. The why I have them is what counts. I've done some research about emotional states to better understand that. For example love, I found this amazing chart that said love is a combination of two base emotions trust and joy. I've never heard a better definition of love.

This chart could help another INTJ: Google, Robert Plutchik's Psychoevolutionary Theory of Basic Emotions

Aspergers looks different, very different. The part of the brain that processes emotion doesn't work correctly. What it can look like is fear of emotion. Run away hide type of fear. This guy would run and lock himself in a bathroom during a mild disagreement. This is embarrassing to say, but he thought I was too emotional! That was a first.

While watching Total Recall he said, "Why don't we have that kind of love?" An INTJ without Aspergers would slap him then give him the reason.

It is a very sad condition. I don't feel lonely. He felt empty all the time. His words, there is nothing inside of me. I can't imagine nothing.
 
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