What do you mean "not get emotional" with him? I love being told that someone loves me, especially if that person is someone significant to me. We (I?) don't mind negative emotions either because I want to experience all of you, not just the happy-go-lucky part. For me, it sucks to be the guy who has to be constantly happy, and I hate being put in that position, so I sympathize with anyone who feels like they need to be that person. Just be you and be honest, otherwise he may think you're trying to deceive him because, more than likely, he'll sense the fact that you're covering something up.
I want to know when my partner (for lack of a better term) is in crisis. If there's something wrong, I want to know so I can help fix it, and if I can't, I'll find someone who can. Hell, there are girls who I seem to care about more than their current boyfriend does. It's, at least, in my nature to empathize and help out those closest to me. If your boyfriend is an ENFP, he will probably do the same, and not hesitate to help out and/or comfort you.
As for "not trying", it could be for multiple reasons:
1. There could be a fundamental breakdown of how you two communicate to each other, and he does care, but doesn't show it in a way that you'd expect. My most recent ex and I never understood each other, even though we cared about each other a lot. The only way we ever really knew it was the fact that we gave up favorable things to be with each other.
2. He's at a social "high point" in his life, and is just stretching himself too thin. ENFPs love social events, and feel obligated to attend each event that they're invited to, with the only limiter being time. If one starts at 2, and ends at 5, and there's another one that starts at 5, and ends at 9, and there's another one that starts at 8, then we'll be on time at 2 o'clock, be a little late for the 5 o'clock, and then we may leave early from the 5 o'clock to get to the 8 o'clock approximately on time. (Comprehensive time! 2 - 5, 5 - 9, 8 - ?, our schedule is 2 - 5, ~5 - 8 or 9?, ~8 or 9 - ?)
3. He's depressed, and doesn't want you to join in. "Misery loves company" is not something I sympathize with, personally. If I'm going to suffer, I'll suffer alone.
4. He could be like me, and just loves to do nothing but talk/lay around with his girlfriend, and socialize with everyone else. This is, understandably, viewed as "not caring" by others, but (to me) it lets you into my world and how I think, which I value deeply.
5. He doesn't actually care... While hopefully not the case, it certainly is a possibility. He could be the "flight of fancy" sort of ENFP that loves to hop from one relationship to the next. Some ENFPs are infamous for this sort of behavior.
Hope this helps.
I want to know when my partner (for lack of a better term) is in crisis. If there's something wrong, I want to know so I can help fix it, and if I can't, I'll find someone who can. Hell, there are girls who I seem to care about more than their current boyfriend does. It's, at least, in my nature to empathize and help out those closest to me. If your boyfriend is an ENFP, he will probably do the same, and not hesitate to help out and/or comfort you.
As for "not trying", it could be for multiple reasons:
1. There could be a fundamental breakdown of how you two communicate to each other, and he does care, but doesn't show it in a way that you'd expect. My most recent ex and I never understood each other, even though we cared about each other a lot. The only way we ever really knew it was the fact that we gave up favorable things to be with each other.
2. He's at a social "high point" in his life, and is just stretching himself too thin. ENFPs love social events, and feel obligated to attend each event that they're invited to, with the only limiter being time. If one starts at 2, and ends at 5, and there's another one that starts at 5, and ends at 9, and there's another one that starts at 8, then we'll be on time at 2 o'clock, be a little late for the 5 o'clock, and then we may leave early from the 5 o'clock to get to the 8 o'clock approximately on time. (Comprehensive time! 2 - 5, 5 - 9, 8 - ?, our schedule is 2 - 5, ~5 - 8 or 9?, ~8 or 9 - ?)
3. He's depressed, and doesn't want you to join in. "Misery loves company" is not something I sympathize with, personally. If I'm going to suffer, I'll suffer alone.
4. He could be like me, and just loves to do nothing but talk/lay around with his girlfriend, and socialize with everyone else. This is, understandably, viewed as "not caring" by others, but (to me) it lets you into my world and how I think, which I value deeply.
5. He doesn't actually care... While hopefully not the case, it certainly is a possibility. He could be the "flight of fancy" sort of ENFP that loves to hop from one relationship to the next. Some ENFPs are infamous for this sort of behavior.
Hope this helps.
