This is not a post to bash sensors, I'm not saying any one type is better than the other! Just putting it out there, not trying to hurt anyones feelings. I had a strong need to start with that, the thought of hurting innocent strangers feelings makes me cringe internally. ENFP problems.
I spend a lot of time analyzing and reanalyzing my past relationships. Before I became interested in MBTI I had dated a lot of guys for short periods of time. Each relationship would last about a month of so, but I would eventually find myself completely misunderstood. Kind of like If thinking were colors they were thinking in terms of blue, red, yellow, ect. I would be thinking in terms of periwinkle, cornflower, violet. Talking to them became unsatisfying. In retrospect, I never had any deep conversation that led to a better understanding of the others thinking. An insatiable desire to think "what if..." that was never shared. Eventually i would get bored, then leave.
After becoming interested in MBTI I have realized that the only guys I have "officially" dated have been sensory. And all of the guys that I have talked to (had interest in), but refused to date have been intuitive. but with each intuitive, I was obsessed with exploring their mind, then when I understood them as a person I would realize that a relationship wouldn't work because of reasons x, y and z. Still fascinated by their intuitive thinking, I would try to keep them as friends, unrequiting their love. Of course time and time again this fails.... EXPLODING in my face. :shocked:
I guess what I'm trying to get at is... am I the only one? I'm fascinated by all types to an extent, but sensory people are too easy to decode for me, they leave me wanting. I constantly find sensors being attracted to me (ironically a surprising amount of ISTJ's). I feel guilty always turning them down, but I know that my attraction to them would be limited before I became distracted with something newer and interesting. I love people, and meeting new people; it makes me feel alive. Being in a relationship seems like being put in a box though. The closest thing that I have come to feeling love in a relationship was with a "sort of" relationship with an INTJ who actually introduced me to MBTI. It was one sided though, give and take was not equal. In hindsight, I was more obsessed with the idea of him. I was all like "la la la I want to know know every thought you have ever had and why!" It was scary, and he made me feel irrational and crazy all of the time. JEZUS. Eventually it didn't work out and I felt like my soul was raw. I have never been so obsessed and fascinated by a person before. But I digress...
Have any other intuitive types found a relationship that doesn't feel like it's closing in on you? Or any sensors that have any insight? Or anyone that can relate or shed some fricken light on the subject.
I didn't really pinpoint anything with this post, just constantly feeding my inner monologue :tongue:
Thank!
xoxox
<3
I spend a lot of time analyzing and reanalyzing my past relationships. Before I became interested in MBTI I had dated a lot of guys for short periods of time. Each relationship would last about a month of so, but I would eventually find myself completely misunderstood. Kind of like If thinking were colors they were thinking in terms of blue, red, yellow, ect. I would be thinking in terms of periwinkle, cornflower, violet. Talking to them became unsatisfying. In retrospect, I never had any deep conversation that led to a better understanding of the others thinking. An insatiable desire to think "what if..." that was never shared. Eventually i would get bored, then leave.
After becoming interested in MBTI I have realized that the only guys I have "officially" dated have been sensory. And all of the guys that I have talked to (had interest in), but refused to date have been intuitive. but with each intuitive, I was obsessed with exploring their mind, then when I understood them as a person I would realize that a relationship wouldn't work because of reasons x, y and z. Still fascinated by their intuitive thinking, I would try to keep them as friends, unrequiting their love. Of course time and time again this fails.... EXPLODING in my face. :shocked:
I guess what I'm trying to get at is... am I the only one? I'm fascinated by all types to an extent, but sensory people are too easy to decode for me, they leave me wanting. I constantly find sensors being attracted to me (ironically a surprising amount of ISTJ's). I feel guilty always turning them down, but I know that my attraction to them would be limited before I became distracted with something newer and interesting. I love people, and meeting new people; it makes me feel alive. Being in a relationship seems like being put in a box though. The closest thing that I have come to feeling love in a relationship was with a "sort of" relationship with an INTJ who actually introduced me to MBTI. It was one sided though, give and take was not equal. In hindsight, I was more obsessed with the idea of him. I was all like "la la la I want to know know every thought you have ever had and why!" It was scary, and he made me feel irrational and crazy all of the time. JEZUS. Eventually it didn't work out and I felt like my soul was raw. I have never been so obsessed and fascinated by a person before. But I digress...
Have any other intuitive types found a relationship that doesn't feel like it's closing in on you? Or any sensors that have any insight? Or anyone that can relate or shed some fricken light on the subject.
I didn't really pinpoint anything with this post, just constantly feeding my inner monologue :tongue:
Thank!
xoxox
<3