I'm naive, in fact clueless on this. Why some people (and it seems it's more like "a lot of people") can't live without posting their life on social networks? anyone can do whatever they want, but I just can't get it. In many ways several situations cross the line between personal stuff and public stuff, in other cases it breaks YOUR line because you were there with X person and suddenly you are everywere, like if you just became a public person just because that someone posted a picture of you together.
Mmm specially some women regarding their BF... is like they are saying "hey remember how all of you at school said I was fucking ugly and would never get a BF? well here he is and I will post gazillion pictures of us". Some can't help but posting what they are about to eat. Seems kind of... lonely to me. I asked about this and discussed in friendly terms the matter with people who behave like this, again: in friendly terms, curious. The results I've had are:
I'm a blood donnor. WTF has to do with the topic? well... I've been friends for years with some of those people, and over the years despite them talking about their "friends", well... in case of trouble... all their social networks don't seem to help at all, nobody helps them to change a tire, when sick, or when needing a drop of blood for them or a relative. I have a fairly good memory and sometimes in those situations I remember the moments where they were talking about their so many friends and their groups, whatsapp groups, etc. So it sounds worse to me, why posting so much personal stuff to your network of friends when you actually have none? I got some people insisting me to answer some technical questions... in some cases I turned into "why don't you ask your gazillion friends?" ha ha.
It would make sense to me if there was actually a sign of some friendship, but it seems to me a lot of people are just looking for validation. I have no problem with social networks, but their use has turned into something I consider (HOW they use it) when considering a relationship. Can't see myself dating someone who takes so many stranger's opinion at heart. It's been an unavoidable conclussion to me.
Mmm specially some women regarding their BF... is like they are saying "hey remember how all of you at school said I was fucking ugly and would never get a BF? well here he is and I will post gazillion pictures of us". Some can't help but posting what they are about to eat. Seems kind of... lonely to me. I asked about this and discussed in friendly terms the matter with people who behave like this, again: in friendly terms, curious. The results I've had are:
- Some felt ashamed, showed signs of "damn, this is silly and childish"
- Some didn't care and shared their reasons to keep doing it (well I'm ok with this, sounds like they just do it and there is not crucial emotional or psychological need to keep doing it).
- Some got mad... and tried to make me mad blaming me or others of "hating social networks"
- Extreme cases reacted BADLY to the topic saying "well that's because you don't have fucking friends". This group not only sounds childish, sounds... like a lot of issues at once.
I'm a blood donnor. WTF has to do with the topic? well... I've been friends for years with some of those people, and over the years despite them talking about their "friends", well... in case of trouble... all their social networks don't seem to help at all, nobody helps them to change a tire, when sick, or when needing a drop of blood for them or a relative. I have a fairly good memory and sometimes in those situations I remember the moments where they were talking about their so many friends and their groups, whatsapp groups, etc. So it sounds worse to me, why posting so much personal stuff to your network of friends when you actually have none? I got some people insisting me to answer some technical questions... in some cases I turned into "why don't you ask your gazillion friends?" ha ha.
It would make sense to me if there was actually a sign of some friendship, but it seems to me a lot of people are just looking for validation. I have no problem with social networks, but their use has turned into something I consider (HOW they use it) when considering a relationship. Can't see myself dating someone who takes so many stranger's opinion at heart. It's been an unavoidable conclussion to me.