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I'm pretty sure most of us failed at something whether it being a test in school, a post on PerC, or your intentions that you executed to your optimum ability. Whatever it was, you failed.
As for me, I do feel a little disappointed initially, but I don't dwell over it. When it comes to school subjects, I know that given a little more thought, I can succeed. And I will put forth my efforts constantly regardless of time because rational concepts are always within full reach because anything rational is capable of being solved.
However, when it comes to interpersonal relationships, it's a different story. You can't manipulate people in the same manner you can manipulate your thoughts to overcome something. So, if a relationship gets out of hand (after I tried making amends), I usually drop the connection, set the hiking stick forward, and move on from there.
Call me a quitter, but, honestly, most relationships with people are irrational and can not be understood. Therefore, I see it as a waste of time and struggle to fix, unless it's my family (in which case, I compromise like a sucker to almost any demands). Of course, interpersonal skills and healing-time is a tactic when making amends. But as an introvert, that doesn't come naturally.
I don't know if failure is a big part of your lives but I realized that I can tackle any matter easily if I set my expectations low to begin with. That way, when I do fail, it doesn't come as a shock and can effortlessly solve the matter given time.
So,how do you respond knowing that you failed? Do you feel discouraged and give up quickly or do you tackle it again with confidence? Now, I know that I'm being vague so you can narrow your personal experience to anything that's relevant.
As for me, I do feel a little disappointed initially, but I don't dwell over it. When it comes to school subjects, I know that given a little more thought, I can succeed. And I will put forth my efforts constantly regardless of time because rational concepts are always within full reach because anything rational is capable of being solved.
However, when it comes to interpersonal relationships, it's a different story. You can't manipulate people in the same manner you can manipulate your thoughts to overcome something. So, if a relationship gets out of hand (after I tried making amends), I usually drop the connection, set the hiking stick forward, and move on from there.
Call me a quitter, but, honestly, most relationships with people are irrational and can not be understood. Therefore, I see it as a waste of time and struggle to fix, unless it's my family (in which case, I compromise like a sucker to almost any demands). Of course, interpersonal skills and healing-time is a tactic when making amends. But as an introvert, that doesn't come naturally.
I don't know if failure is a big part of your lives but I realized that I can tackle any matter easily if I set my expectations low to begin with. That way, when I do fail, it doesn't come as a shock and can effortlessly solve the matter given time.
So,how do you respond knowing that you failed? Do you feel discouraged and give up quickly or do you tackle it again with confidence? Now, I know that I'm being vague so you can narrow your personal experience to anything that's relevant.