Directed primarily at my fellow ENTJs...
I got caught up in a deep & meaningful over the long weekend. During the conversation I was asked what my type of women were, what my views on women were & what my views on romance were over the long Easter weekend. When I got home I looked at the ENTJ articles to see if anybody else had written anything interesting.
I was re-reading the articles in the ENTJ forum & came across this
"The ENTj is, deep inside, a romantic (although he will forcefully deny this). He believes in love in a nearly childish way: pure and idealistic. He rarely lets people know about it, but he is rather a sensitive person inside. When he falls in love with someone it can take incredible proportions. He can idealize the other person and put them on a pedestal. The ENTj hides this softness behind a big psychological fortress that makes him look tougher than he really is. Take the time to get to know an ENTj. Once you're in his close circle, you're in for life"'
In all honestly, the description is quite relevant to me. I definitely have a big psychological fortress. I put everyone to the test & can't just let anyone in too easily. As much as I would want to, I just can't do it. My instincts simply do not allow it. There's just a nagging inside of me.
In the context of meeting the right woman..
I don't know about "idealizing the person" & "putting them on a pedestal" but I will value her greatly & she will be most precious to me. I prefer the metaphor of walking the journey along side them.
I believe the main cause of romanticism (for me) was watching Disney movies over & over again during my childhood years. Although I may not be the white knight in shining armour, that most likely describes another MBTI type? I believe I am more a grey knight, I live my own life path & if romance comes my way, I will embrace it. It will be hard to detect because of how I am, but she would have to be able to detect that I do care.
In one of the ENTJ threads I wrote that I did not believe in love. I do not, I believe it is an empty word that has no weight. However, I do believe in romance, loyalty, trust & a few other things (cringing as I write this, oh my!). I'm not too fond of words, but I am fond of action. "Love" at a loss for words, is in my opinion, something that is seen & experienced, not said. What weight does it have to simply say "I love you?" Stupid.
I also related to "once you're in his close circle, you're in for life." To quote an old ENTJ thread "push her off a cliff & if she survives, she's worthy."
My question is, how much of a romantic are you?
What are your views on romance?
I got caught up in a deep & meaningful over the long weekend. During the conversation I was asked what my type of women were, what my views on women were & what my views on romance were over the long Easter weekend. When I got home I looked at the ENTJ articles to see if anybody else had written anything interesting.
I was re-reading the articles in the ENTJ forum & came across this
"The ENTj is, deep inside, a romantic (although he will forcefully deny this). He believes in love in a nearly childish way: pure and idealistic. He rarely lets people know about it, but he is rather a sensitive person inside. When he falls in love with someone it can take incredible proportions. He can idealize the other person and put them on a pedestal. The ENTj hides this softness behind a big psychological fortress that makes him look tougher than he really is. Take the time to get to know an ENTj. Once you're in his close circle, you're in for life"'
In all honestly, the description is quite relevant to me. I definitely have a big psychological fortress. I put everyone to the test & can't just let anyone in too easily. As much as I would want to, I just can't do it. My instincts simply do not allow it. There's just a nagging inside of me.
In the context of meeting the right woman..
I don't know about "idealizing the person" & "putting them on a pedestal" but I will value her greatly & she will be most precious to me. I prefer the metaphor of walking the journey along side them.
I believe the main cause of romanticism (for me) was watching Disney movies over & over again during my childhood years. Although I may not be the white knight in shining armour, that most likely describes another MBTI type? I believe I am more a grey knight, I live my own life path & if romance comes my way, I will embrace it. It will be hard to detect because of how I am, but she would have to be able to detect that I do care.
In one of the ENTJ threads I wrote that I did not believe in love. I do not, I believe it is an empty word that has no weight. However, I do believe in romance, loyalty, trust & a few other things (cringing as I write this, oh my!). I'm not too fond of words, but I am fond of action. "Love" at a loss for words, is in my opinion, something that is seen & experienced, not said. What weight does it have to simply say "I love you?" Stupid.
I also related to "once you're in his close circle, you're in for life." To quote an old ENTJ thread "push her off a cliff & if she survives, she's worthy."
My question is, how much of a romantic are you?
What are your views on romance?