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So I recently got a new job yesterday; it's a better fit for me with more hours than my previous job.. which i still have by the way, because i enjoy it it small bursts and i just like helping out when they need me..

I had it in my mind that if i got hired by this new job, that i would tell my other job that i would prefer to be taken off the schedule, and only be "on-call"... like they call me on short notice to see if i could come in.. or i want some hours, so i call my department manager, and she gives me one shift or two..

This has actually been the case for the past few weeks.. i wouldn't be scheduled, then I'd call my dept manager, this younger girl around my age, and she'd put me on a night shift.. one day this guy called in sick, so this dept manager called me and asked if i could come in..

So yesterday i had my job interview, and they hired me.. so as planned, i went straight to my old job to find my dept manager and tell her my new availability preference.. she wasn't there, so i talked to the assistant store manager.. she's actually really nice and we get along much better than the store manager and i.. she's kinda on the employees side, and stands up for them and doesn't act like a macho boss lady..

anyways, when i told her that I'm busy and prefer to be off the schedule and only come in if i call them, or they call me.. she said casually, "if it ain't broke don't fix it!".. she also said she wasn't sure if I'd be able to do this.. i then told her I'd talk to the store manager tomorrow, since my dept manager isn't here this weekend..

So today i came in, talked to my manager, told her the same thing i told the assistant manager.. and she then said "why don't you just call it quits?", and she then went on to explain how this job isn't a good fit for me etc, how i don't do my job etc.. her and i have REALLY butt heads so often, more than any manager I've ever had. She does not like me! I'm always extremely polite and respectful and sensitive, but she is still a harsh lady, definitely an ESTJ all the way, so you can see the conflict we have!!

Anyways, i told her that I'm not looking to quit.. and had to kinda plead with her a bit to not fire me.. she then said that she would put me as a "seasonal employee", which at first i thought meant after the holidays I'm gone.. but apparently it means just what i wanted; that they call me if they need me, or i do if i want hours. So I'm a permanent employee, I'm just not scheduled regularly unless they need extra help, someone calls in etc..

After all this, it really stressed me out a bit because i felt like i did more damage then if i didn't say anything..
But at the same time, if i said nothing, then I'd be scheduled probably on a day that conflicts with my other job, and I'd have to cancel and i hate not being available to help out.

I figured maybe i should've just waited until my department manager came in, and talked to her privately about it.. let her know to take me off the schedule and only call me if necessary/if i call for hours.. but then again, everyone gossips so she probably would've told the store manager.

I just really don't want to lose this job. I like keeping my options open with two jobs.
 

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Dont worry about it, at the end of the day your manager doesnt go home thinking about it, and neither should you. Dont beat yourself up, just learn from the situation. Congrats on your new job.
 

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I hate to be that guy (actually it's the most fun I have on the forums lol) but you do know they don't care right? Like you are literally 1 worker out of how ever many people work there. Their primarily concern is to complete what ever task they are given so they are chew out/fired by the people above them. Ultimately your actions don't impact them that much...especially during this time a year where they likely get an influx of "seasonal" workers anyway...and probably pick out the ones they like and ask them to stay.

Like you are worrying about something as if it's your pay grade when in reality it's above your pay grade. While I personally wouldn't care so long as I'm getting a paycheck to each their own, do you.
 

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Yeah, I think you're fine. As long as you were respectful about the whole thing, I wouldn't worry about it. It's true that you never want to burn bridges, but I don't think you've burned any bridges at your old job (at least, not based on anything you've told us).

If your sincerity about working with your old job showed through, then I'd give you bonus points (honesty and sincerity are great ways to make yourself more likable). A stressed out/busy, practical-minded person might not care that much though—they care about filling positions they need filled, and making sure the job gets done. Regardless of this, you still have nothing to fret over.

And I guess I'm not sure what kind of response you were expecting...if your old boss was an ESTJ or whatever, then she's probably not going to give you some flowery, doting response saying, "Oh, we're going to miss you so much! Things won't be the same without you around; you are such a joy to work with!" (Please note that with ANY type or any job, that's a rare response. The only places I can think of where you might hear something like that from higher-ups are at Chick-Fil–A, a business run by your own family, or some non-profit organizations).
 

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I know you posted this on the INFJ site as well, and so I think you are genuinely looking for an answer. I don't think you're going to like my reply, but if you genuinely want to improve your performance as an employee then maybe you'll forgive me if I decide to tell you what I see. I read your other post about the sound volume. If I was your manager I would be super upset with you. It's a huge mistake to challenge a manager over and over. She made it clear that she wanted the volume untouched. So you just showed that you couldn't follow orders. When you have a job, it's best to find ways you can support your manager. Why? Because they took a chance on you by hiring you. They don't hire people because people need hours or want the job. They hire people to do tasks and follow instructions. If you aren't following your manager's instructions then they can write you up and fire you. About hours. There are certain tasks to be filled. If they can put people that follow instructions into those hours they will. They can't just give you hours because you want them. They give people hours to fulfill the job tasks. So if it works for the company to have someone they can call up at any time, then okay, but if you've got some other job and are going to be telling them "no" whenever they call then that just wastes their time. I know quite a few employees who work "PRN " or "as needed" at my job who turn down hours when they could have gone in there and saved the company's butt in a pinch but who are mad when they don't get scheduled hours. That doesn't serve the company's goals. The manager has tasks that need to get done. If you can help her to that, then good. If you can't help her and support her then she will wish you well and goodbye. I hope this makes sense. To my generation and above it does. When I have an employee I want to see that they can follow instructions, listen to what I'm trying to accomplish and most of all accomplish the aims of the company. Often managers are stressed to the max due to people only caring about themselves and not showing that the care about what is best for the company. The manager's job is to do what is right for the company. See it from her side. In this next job too, try to put yourself in your manager's shoes and figure out why they want you doing what they are saying. It's probably because it's what the manager thinks is best for customers and for the company. Good luck!
 
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