How do ISFJ's show their love?
Do they have trouble saying the words "I love you"?
*please note, I mean this all in the sense of friendship. None of this is romantic.
I have a friend who's I'm fairly sure is an ISFJ. She means a lot to me and has had a large impact on my life, and so I really do love her very much and i am incredibly grateful for her. And so I try to show her how much I appreciate her in whatever ways I can, including saying "I love you".
But the problem is, whenever I say "I love you" I just get the whole "you're so lovely. You just made my day
xo" replies that i just don't know what to think of. She's obviously not going to say it back, and I've come to terms with that, and I don't really mind anymore. But what does worry me is WHY she won't say it back, and instead works around the statement. Is it because she really doesn't like having me around and doesn't consider me anything special? Or does she actually 'love me' when it comes down to it, but just has trouble saying those words and therefore avoids it?
She says that she will always be there for me... Well, in a 'round-a-bout sort of way. Her exact words were "I haven't ditched you yet have I? And I won't" and when I have previously questioned her about whether she actually wants me in her life and cares for me (I obviously didn't word it like that when asking her) she responded with "believe it not, but there are reasons for everything I do with you." And so both of those subtly imply to me that she does 'love me' or care for me at least a little.
But then it brings me back to the whole 'why won't she say "I love you" thing'
...I mean it's not like she's got anything to loose? Is it? -if so, please explain, because from how I see it I can't understand why she would be so afraid of saying those words to someone who clearly loves her back.
If she's not going to say it, then really, that's cool with me. I don't want to pressure her or manipulate her into saying something she doesn't mean, or feels uncomfortable about saying, as then the words wouldn't really mean anything anyway. But if there's anything I should be paying more attention to instead that is her 'way' of saying it back, if you guys could maybe point it out to me, that would mean a lot.
Because it would really mean a lot to me to know that she does love me back.
Thanks so much for your help guys!!!
Do they have trouble saying the words "I love you"?
*please note, I mean this all in the sense of friendship. None of this is romantic.
I have a friend who's I'm fairly sure is an ISFJ. She means a lot to me and has had a large impact on my life, and so I really do love her very much and i am incredibly grateful for her. And so I try to show her how much I appreciate her in whatever ways I can, including saying "I love you".
But the problem is, whenever I say "I love you" I just get the whole "you're so lovely. You just made my day
She says that she will always be there for me... Well, in a 'round-a-bout sort of way. Her exact words were "I haven't ditched you yet have I? And I won't" and when I have previously questioned her about whether she actually wants me in her life and cares for me (I obviously didn't word it like that when asking her) she responded with "believe it not, but there are reasons for everything I do with you." And so both of those subtly imply to me that she does 'love me' or care for me at least a little.
But then it brings me back to the whole 'why won't she say "I love you" thing'
...I mean it's not like she's got anything to loose? Is it? -if so, please explain, because from how I see it I can't understand why she would be so afraid of saying those words to someone who clearly loves her back.
If she's not going to say it, then really, that's cool with me. I don't want to pressure her or manipulate her into saying something she doesn't mean, or feels uncomfortable about saying, as then the words wouldn't really mean anything anyway. But if there's anything I should be paying more attention to instead that is her 'way' of saying it back, if you guys could maybe point it out to me, that would mean a lot.
Because it would really mean a lot to me to know that she does love me back.
Thanks so much for your help guys!!!