At my firm, there is an ISFP co-worker with whom I get along really well (I'm an INTJ guy, she's an ISFP gal; both in early 30s). We're definitely not interested in each other romantically, but occasionally when I'm having lunch, she'll join me, or vice-versa. We do this 1-3 times a week. In that way, we've formed a really warm friendship. She is among my favorite people in the world, and I love her sensitivity and warmth towards me; I think she likes that she is among the few people I open up to.
My problem is that I am leaving this job in a week, and the next one (it's a finance-tech start-up) is going to be more stressful with far longer hours. She is my best friend from this job and I'd love for us to continue being friends. However, though she agrees, she also says that it is very difficult for her to schedule a meetup in advance. She cannot commit to something beforehand; her moods might change and all that.
For example, what I would like is to know if she'd like to meet up for lunch on Saturday at least 2-3 days in advance (then I can ensure that I'm not working at that time). On the other hand, she says that she cannot confirm something that early; she'd prefer to confirm a couple of hours in advance. With the work schedule I expect, that won't work out. Even if I am able to meet up, I am an INTJ with a strong I and J component; I need time to push the work out of my mind and to be emotionally available for a friend.
We've been good friends for 2 years now (we met at this firm). Does this mean that when I leave this company, I also have to leave this friendship behind? I'd hate to lose her , and unless I propose a good solution, I can foresee that happening here. That would be sad :th_sad:
Help? Advice? Any interesting or creative ideas?
My problem is that I am leaving this job in a week, and the next one (it's a finance-tech start-up) is going to be more stressful with far longer hours. She is my best friend from this job and I'd love for us to continue being friends. However, though she agrees, she also says that it is very difficult for her to schedule a meetup in advance. She cannot commit to something beforehand; her moods might change and all that.
For example, what I would like is to know if she'd like to meet up for lunch on Saturday at least 2-3 days in advance (then I can ensure that I'm not working at that time). On the other hand, she says that she cannot confirm something that early; she'd prefer to confirm a couple of hours in advance. With the work schedule I expect, that won't work out. Even if I am able to meet up, I am an INTJ with a strong I and J component; I need time to push the work out of my mind and to be emotionally available for a friend.
We've been good friends for 2 years now (we met at this firm). Does this mean that when I leave this company, I also have to leave this friendship behind? I'd hate to lose her , and unless I propose a good solution, I can foresee that happening here. That would be sad :th_sad:
Help? Advice? Any interesting or creative ideas?