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I'm just curious if anyone else struggles with finding their way into their preferred career like I do.

After highschool, I put off going to college because I really struggled with academics. Science was fun, I was pretty good at math even though it bored me, but language arts and social studies were mostly useless to me, and I struggled every year of highschool just pass with a 60%. So anyway, after highschool, I got a job at a small civil engineering firm as a CADD technician, and they taught me how to do 2-man land surveys, too. I took CAD in highschool for 4 years, so doing it professionally was easy, but I got bored with it very fast, I couldn't focus and found myself frequently wasting time clicking toolbar buttons in AutoCAD because watching the buttons moving in/out of the screen was more fascinating to me; I taught myself Visual Basic in the late '90s and loved designing application interfaces and interactive controls as a hobby.

Fast forward 15 years. I'd had a handful of entry-level jobs for experience--worked at a crooked Apple sales and service franchise (before the Genius Bar existed), I bussed tables at an Olive Garden, delivered pizza and subs, and shuttled customers and washed cars for a new car dealer--but I was just making ends meet, never making any kind of advancement, and being dissatisfied with the opportunities I got was constantly keeping me lethargic and depressed, I was tired going nowhere with every job I had; people always recognized thar I had an uncanny talent for understanding technology, but never properly utilized my skills. Then a friend helped me get a job at Staples because their service dept. needed another computer technician, however, when they hired me, they put me on a register because I had no sales experience. For a year and a half, I tried to upsell the money scams they called "product replacement plans". It take very little time for me to realize that these plans were little more than a gimmick, and 90% of the time, a complete waste of money, and yet, when I got a customer that wasn't foolish enough buy one of these worthless plans, somehow it was my fault, as if I didn't do a good enough job selling junk that I knew was a waste of money. Then one day, the sales manager on duty told us to really push for those donations for charity, so I asked why it was so important for sales, and he said "because we make money on them." At that point, I was at the end of my rope, I wasn't going to get promoted to the service dept.--not that I wanted to anyway, because I wouldn't be allowed to use any of my resources to do the job properly (don't take your computers to retail chains, they do inadequate work for way too much money)--and I was sick to death of being told I have to do something I believe is unethical and against my moral code, so I took the first opportunity I got to get out of there.

I worked at CVS after Staples, and my conscience felt much better there, not crystal clear, but livable. I left after another 18 months because management changed and I hated working for the sleaze that took over, not to mention corporate had wholly unrealistic expectations for that store, and employees in general. Then I got job as a courier, delivering pharmaceuticals to hospitals and retail pharmacies around the state. It was quite demanding and we were expected to adhere to a strict delivery schedule, but everyone told me it would get easier as I became familiar with my route and the routine for each stop. But it didn't get easier. I got more and more frustrated when I was approached every month about my deliveries taking too long. When asked if I could do anything to move faster, I always answered "no, it's not physically possible to do my stops in the time allotted." I also discovered that some vehicles violated OSHA regulations, and we were told to forego any kind meal break, which is illegal in my state, so when I reported the labor law violation to the state, the Dept. of Labor answered with "what do you expect me to do about it." I was livid and raring to beat the living crap out of the next person that crossed me. Eventually I got a vacation, I went to Australia for 2 weeks, and when I came back and showed up for work, they gave my pharmaceutical route to someone else without any notice, so they gave me another couriering job. Still denied a meal break, I had to eat and drink while driving, which would put me legally at fault if I got in an accident. Sure enough, I was distracted by trying to place a beverage in an awkwardly placed cupholder in the dark, and I rear-ended an SUV. I tried to explain to the court the illegal circumstances my employer put me in, and the Dept. of Labor's unwillingness to do their job of correcting the company's illegal practices, but the judge didn't care, he held me solely liable and fined me $250 for negligent driving. Then I quit the courier job.

By that point, I felt hopeless of ever finding a decent employer that would treat me with respect and give me the kind of work I excelled at. After being jobless for a year and moving back to my parents, I was hired by a contractor to deliver for FedEx Ground. The pay was fantastic, but it was long and hard work, and I was hired primarily for the holiday season, so work dwindled after Christmas and I just resigned.

The following fall, I finally starting taking classes at a local technical college to try to get employers to take me seriously as a computer technician. I was nervous at first, being extremely introverted and having moderate social anxiety, but I acclimated in the 1st week. Another problem I have with school is the way they teach...read a chapter, discuss in class, then take a test; not an effective mode for me, I'm a hands-on learner, I've picked up all my skills by analytically dissecting problems and figuring them out on my own. Granted, some things I never would have learned had I not gone to college, like subnetting TCP/IP networks, but almost everything else I already learned on my own or it's just unnecessary filler. Then I took a PC hardware & software class which utilized an online curriculum by TestOut...what a terrible excuse for learning material. I payed $170 for a digital curriculum that was plagued with poorly phrased, ambiguous questions and multiple choice answers and incorrect, inaccurate, and inconsistent information. The material is so erroneous, it boggles my mind how TestOut.com can legally offer their resources for educational purposes. Then there's the CISCO networking class, which, again, utilizes a digital curriculum offered by CISCO, but I didn't have pay for that one, just the cost of class. The CISCO curriculum is significantly better than what TestOut has to offer, but is not without questionable information. There are many test questions that ask for details that are not included in the reading material, and the instructor can't do anything about it, so I got wrong answers that count against my final grade because CISCO can't be bothered to proof their materials. But the worst part was the arbitrary notebook grade. 15% of my final grade was dependant on my handwritten notes for CISCO's operating system commands, which was ridiculous because we were told to purchase a book which details every command, but we can only use our handwritten notes for exams, which I didn't make. I did better on the written and practical finals than anyone in my class, and I was the only person who didn't use any notes, which proves I learned the material better than anyone else, but I lost 10% of my final grade because I didn't keep the notes that were already in the book I was told to buy but can't use, and didn't even need in the first place, so what should have been a 96% for my final grade ended up being 86%, even though I learned everything I was taught better than anyone else in my class. I argued that the notebook grade is arbitrary and useless, and my argument was always met with "but it's required", to which I asked "Why is it required? What educational merit does it have?", and I never got a reasonable, rational answer, just "it's required". Dissatisfied with my instructor's answer, I took my complaint to the head of the I.T. education dept., and he gave me the same runaround, no one could counter my logic with a reasonable argument, but they wouldn't admit it was wrong or arbitrary either. So the only thing the dept. head could do to keep me in line was mention that he got reports from other instructors about my tendency to "question authority", to question the legitimacy of the institution when the authorities can't, or won't, make the wrong things right.

After all my efforts to keep the moral high ground, and being consistently met with greed and corruption, why do I keep trying? Living with a clear conscience and standing up for justice is the driving force behind my existence, it's the only reason I keep on living. But I'm so tired of fighting for balance, for what I know is right, and being told to suspend my values or I'll never be happy with my life. How can I do something against my better judgement and be happy with it?

This rant went on longer than I expected, but I just want to know if anyone else here feels like you're trapped in a world that doesn't want you here.
 

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There's an adage: You can either be right or be happy.

The ones who want to be right don't understand the concept of locus of control so they will generally be unhappy.

As for preferred career, I chose lifestyle design over workstyle design.

We have 8 hours work, 8 hours sleep and 8 hours discretionary time. If you design your life around work - how do I make work meaningful, what degree do I need, should I move closer to work, how do I move up the ladder -- then work has to be meaningful and then discretionary time is about recouping energy and entertainment.

If you design your life around lifestyle -- how do I want my free time to reflect my values, what do I want to create -- then discretionary time isn't about entertainment, it should be difficult interesting goals and projects. Then the dayjob is really about funding your lifestyle with as least resistance as possible - easy for your skillsets, no work drama, no micromanagement, and something that lets you gain skills that you can use in your lifestyle (so it doesn't feel like a waste of time)

This way all 6 Basic Needs (Certainty, Uncertainty, Significance, Connection, Growth, Contribution) are met from lifestyle which you have full control over. Where as trying to get those from workstyle is really dependent on company culture and boss -- too many things outside your locus of control.
 

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I'll say this: I'm pretty sure that if I hadn't landed my sweet gig as a stay-at-home mommy, I would've gone through what you've gone through. I bore easily. I tire of meaningless protocol. I especially snap when it comes to things like upselling.

If I find myself having to look for a job outside the home in the future, I'm not going to try to utilize any of my talents or knowledge. I am going to find the most menial job. I have no desire for advancement, financial or otherwise. I would scrub toilets or something before I tried to have a "meaningful career." While I'm scrubbing those toilets, I can think about whatever I want. When I go home, I won't be having to think about scrubbing toilets.

Makes sense to me.

But then again, poverty does not offend my sensibilities.
 

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Question for you: Have you ever been tested to see if you are on the autism spectrum by any chance? Some things you said make me wonder.
It's funny you ask. I haven't been diagnosed, but I've strongly suspected the same thing for a couple years now, and a few friends and family members have brought it up.

May I ask what things I said made you wonder?
 

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There's an adage: You can either be right or be happy.

The ones who want to be right don't understand the concept of locus of control so they will generally be unhappy.

As for preferred career, I chose lifestyle design over workstyle design.
I definitely choose life over work. My career of choice is I.T. desktop support, it would afford me the opportunity to do what I enjoy doing best, solving computer problems, but it doesn't burden me with the stress of innovating for a competitive market or making risky financial decisions, and money isn't an effective motivator for me, so I'd be perfectly content with $50K a year.

I think I've heard that adage before. Fortunately, there is something in life that does make me happy, however, it's very difficult for me to attain; a loving, affectionate relationship always sooths my soul.
 

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Hi! I am sorry for taking so long to answer; I've not been spending a tremendous amount of time online the past few weeks. You asked what made me question if you were on the spectrum. That is hard to say; I'm not an expert by any means and certainly would not be able to diagnose someone, but there is a certain methodical way of quantifying interactions and events, and human relationships, that in my mind is more typical of those on the spectrum (though remember that there are people who are neurotypical who have similar tendencies; you an be tilted towards that systemizing of things and not be considered to meet any sort of diagnosis.]

I hope you won't take offense at my approach but I'm going to pull out a few things you said that made me wonder. Not one on its own would, just the entirety of it.

After highschool, I put off going to college because I really struggled with academics. Science was fun, I was pretty good at math even though it bored me, but language arts and social studies were mostly useless to me, and I struggled every year of highschool just pass with a 60%.
You sound like you probably have a fairly high IQ but school was a struggle, especially less concrete subjects.

So anyway, after highschool, I got a job at a small civil engineering firm as a CADD technician, and they taught me how to do 2-man land surveys, too. I took CAD in highschool for 4 years, so doing it professionally was easy, but I got bored with it very fast, I couldn't focus and found myself frequently wasting time clicking toolbar buttons in AutoCAD because watching the buttons moving in/out of the screen was more fascinating to me;
That. The clicking toolbar buttons because you like to watch the buttons move.

people always recognized thar I had an uncanny talent for understanding technology, but never properly utilized my skills.
Then I got job as a courier, delivering pharmaceuticals to hospitals and retail pharmacies around the state. It was quite demanding and we were expected to adhere to a strict delivery schedule, but everyone told me it would get easier as I became familiar with my route and the routine for each stop. But it didn't get easier. I got more and more frustrated when I was approached every month about my deliveries taking too long. When asked if I could do anything to move faster, I always answered "no, it's not physically possible to do my stops in the time allotted."
While this is likely true, there is something about both the lack of getting faster and your response to management. Honest, literal, no attempt to politic the thing.

I also discovered that some vehicles violated OSHA regulations, and we were told to forego any kind meal break, which is illegal in my state, so when I reported the labor law violation to the state, the Dept. of Labor answered with "what do you expect me to do about it." I was livid and raring to beat the living crap out of the next person that crossed me. Eventually I got a vacation, I went to Australia for 2 weeks, and when I came back and showed up for work, they gave my pharmaceutical route to someone else without any notice, so they gave me another couriering job. Still denied a meal break, I had to eat and drink while driving, which would put me legally at fault if I got in an accident. Sure enough, I was distracted by trying to place a beverage in an awkwardly placed cupholder in the dark, and I rear-ended an SUV. I tried to explain to the court the illegal circumstances my employer put me in, and the Dept. of Labor's unwillingness to do their job of correcting the company's illegal practices, but the judge didn't care, he held me solely liable and fined me $250 for negligent driving. Then I quit the courier job.
Again something about this. I completely believe everything you say, and it seems you were in the right, but somehow you came across as making argument rather than pleading your case to the very people who are meant to advocate for workers' rights. People on the spectrum struggle a bit with theory of mind and seeing how they present to others and so frequently their factual message is somehow lost in what mistakenly comes out as a combative tone. They are NOT being combative but it can seem that way to others.

I payed $170 for a digital curriculum that was plagued with poorly phrased, ambiguous questions and multiple choice answers and incorrect, inaccurate, and inconsistent information. The material is so erroneous, it boggles my mind how TestOut.com can legally offer their resources for educational purposes. Then there's the CISCO networking class, which, again, utilizes a digital curriculum offered by CISCO, but I didn't have pay for that one, just the cost of class. The CISCO curriculum is significantly better than what TestOut has to offer, but is not without questionable information. There are many test questions that ask for details that are not included in the reading material, and the instructor can't do anything about it, so I got wrong answers that count against my final grade because CISCO can't be bothered to proof their materials. But the worst part was the arbitrary notebook grade. 15% of my final grade was dependant on my handwritten notes for CISCO's operating system commands, which was ridiculous because we were told to purchase a book which details every command, but we can only use our handwritten notes for exams, which I didn't make. I did better on the written and practical finals than anyone in my class, and I was the only person who didn't use any notes, which proves I learned the material better than anyone else, but I lost 10% of my final grade because I didn't keep the notes that were already in the book I was told to buy but can't use, and didn't even need in the first place, so what should have been a 96% for my final grade ended up being 86%, even though I learned everything I was taught better than anyone else in my class. I argued that the notebook grade is arbitrary and useless, and my argument was always met with "but it's required", to which I asked "Why is it required? What educational merit does it have?", and I never got a reasonable, rational answer, just "it's required". Dissatisfied with my instructor's answer, I took my complaint to the head of the I.T. education dept., and he gave me the same runaround, no one could counter my logic with a reasonable argument, but they wouldn't admit it was wrong or arbitrary either. So the only thing the dept. head could do to keep me in line was mention that he got reports from other instructors about my tendency to "question authority", to question the legitimacy of the institution when the authorities can't, or won't, make the wrong things right.
Again you make fair points but most people would have just seen the notes part as something they had to do to keep everyone happy and done it anyway. I have turned in countless outlines for work in my academic career, all of them written AFTER the main body was written which was stupid. But oh well, it's what they want and it's hardly an ethical issue. And I also recognize that teachers teach to the way the MAJORITY learns. The fact that I don't work or learn that way is on me, not on the teacher. A teacher can't tailor plans individually to everyone so if my mind (intuitive thinker) works differently then it's up to me to adapt even if I hate every second of it. I did not like school at all but I still got all As because it was just what I did.

After all my efforts to keep the moral high ground, and being consistently met with greed and corruption, why do I keep trying? Living with a clear conscience and standing up for justice is the driving force behind my existence, it's the only reason I keep on living. But I'm so tired of fighting for balance, for what I know is right, and being told to suspend my values or I'll never be happy with my life. How can I do something against my better judgement and be happy with it?

This rant went on longer than I expected, but I just want to know if anyone else here feels like you're trapped in a world that doesn't want you here.
I can offer you something that might help: Not every ethical battle is as important as others. Turning in notes is an inconvenience, not a matter of conscience. There are skills to navigating people that can be learned by rote and they can help people like yourself who (I think) are very high-functioning on the spectrum to manage the day-to-day interactions with people when those people behave in a way that is foreign to you. I would suggest that only because you seem not happy with where things are. Seek out a diagnosis and get a good behavioral specialist who can help you put your talents to use so you don't continue to be frustrated.

Wishing you all the best.
 

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Ya, I think you and I have been in discussions in this area a time or two before. I've just come to accept a couple of things. The world aint gonna change. Find the parts I can enjoy, and try to make the unenjoyable parts go as smoothly and quickly as possible, so I can get back to the parts I enjoy more often.

Don't take everything in "the world"(ie: society, the workplace, etc.) personally. People are all doing their best to get through this world, and sometimes their struggles overflow onto me, just as at times mine likely do to others.

Life's a little easier and not as awful when I'm at least swimming sideways across the current and not trying to swim upstream. Pick my battles carefully.
 

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Ya, I think you and I have been in discussions in this area a time or two before. I've just come to accept a couple of things. The world aint gonna change. Find the parts I can enjoy, and try to make the unenjoyable parts go as smoothly and quickly as possible, so I can get back to the parts I enjoy more often.

Don't take everything in "the world"(ie: society, the workplace, etc.) personally. People are all doing their best to get through this world, and sometimes their struggles overflow onto me, just as at times mine likely do to others.

Life's a little easier and not as awful when I'm at least swimming sideways across the current and not trying to swim upstream. Pick my battles carefully.
Get through this world, into what?
 

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A saying - make it in this world, do what they think is right, stay out of trouble themselves, meet perceived expectations, yada, yada, yada.
but get but get through this world is specific, and I'm wondering what destination are they going through the world to get to, because the world and this life is all you have.
 

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but get but get through this world is specific, and I'm wondering what destination are they going through the world to get to, because the world and this life is all you have.
I believed that once myself. Strongly believe otherwise now. But, to your point, this life should be more than something to "get through" or survive, or you aren't really living.
 

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I hope you won't take offense at my approach but I'm going to pull out a few things you said that made me wonder. Not one on its own would, just the entirety of it.
Offense?! Not even the slightest bit. Your feedback is informative and constructive, it's not often I get objective insights into the the inner workings of the majority, people generally don't make much sense to me.

However, I was deeply offended by a so-called "friend" when she told me she went to the park with her daughter, and the regular strangers asked her where her boyfriend was (referring to me), and that made her mad, so now she won't hang out with me because she doesn't want anyone to think she and I are a couple. That absolutely disgusted me, I never thought she could be so shallow. I deeply cared for her as a friend, and wanted nothing but the best for her, and this is how she repays my generosity and kindness. I thought she was authentic and had a huge heart, but now I see she's just as corrupt and superficial as those she claims to be intolerant of. She cut me deep, and I feel a terrible pit in my gut, and it's really upsetting because, for a few months, she made me feel good to be myself, something I haven't felt in almost 10 years, and now I'm back to being the husk I was before I met her.
 

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Offense?! Not even the slightest bit. Your feedback is informative and constructive, it's not often I get objective insights into the the inner workings of the majority, people generally don't make much sense to me.

However, I was deeply offended by a so-called "friend" when she told me she went to the park with her daughter, and the regular strangers asked her where her boyfriend was (referring to me), and that made her mad, so now she won't hang out with me because she doesn't want anyone to think she and I are a couple. That absolutely disgusted me, I never thought she could be so shallow. I deeply cared for her as a friend, and wanted nothing but the best for her, and this is how she repays my generosity and kindness. I thought she was authentic and had a huge heart, but now I see she's just as corrupt and superficial as those she claims to be intolerant of. She cut me deep, and I feel a terrible pit in my gut, and it's really upsetting because, for a few months, she made me feel good to be myself, something I haven't felt in almost 10 years, and now I'm back to being the husk I was before I met her.
I am so, so sorry. That is awful. I will ask this though: Is it possible she’s just worried that if people think she’s part of a couple, she won’t be able to meet someone? In other words, maybe it’s not “I don’t want people to think this guy is dating me” but “I don’t want people to think I’m dating someone when really I’m looking for a partner.”

Many years ago I remember myself and my best girlfriend were going to see a band playing at a gay bar. It took us about five passes past before we got up the courage to go in. It was not that we had any issues with anything to do with being gay. It was that we were both single and wanting to meet a guy at some point. We did everything together, spent tons of time together, and we were concerned that if our broad casual social circle got the idea we were gay, we would not have men consider us as a possibility. So it wasn’t homophobia; it was not wanting to limit our prospects.

If you spend a lot of time with her she might have been scared when she realized people think you are a couple because she might have her eye on someone she wants to date and wants to be sure he knows she is available.

Have you tried talking to her about it?

Again I’m very sorry; that hurts a lot.
 

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Blue Flower,

the thing is, I met her on a dating site, but since she determined she liked me as nothing more than a friend, she explained several times that she's not actively looking for a relationship, because she is going to college this fall and her daughter is 4 years old and autistic, so she just wants to focus on education and starting a career, and when her daughter is older, maybe 10 more years or so, then she will get serious about finding someone to marry and have a family. So dating is not a priority for her, unless she just happens to meet someone she likes and he likes her.

And no, I haven't tried talking to her about it. She basically yelled at me via text because lately I've been asking her if we can hang out soon and she keeps saying she hasn't had time. Now, here's why my bulls**t alarm went off; for 2 months, she invited me to hang out with her at the park with her daughter or at her house several days a week. It felt wonderful to have a local friend that wanted me around all the time again. Two weeks ago, her sister (whom lives with her), got a new boyfriend, and he was coming over all the time apparently, so my friend says she's busy because her sister has her boyfriend over??? That doesn't make sense. This past week she was on vacation, and still giving me the "no time" excuse, but she's posting photos on facebook of her day at the beach, a day at the lake, a day at a local farm & ice cream stand which was only a couple minutes drive from my house. A month ago, these are all places she would have invited me to join her, but now she just doesn't have time for me...going to local vacation spots, and taking nightly walks with a co-worker, but no time for me anymore. I expressed my disappointment with her sudden change in behavior, and she just went off on me, saying that I want to spend all day, every day with her, and it's too much for her, she has her own life, her own responsibilities, and can't be there for me all the time, and that's when she mentioned she was mad that strangers thought I was her boyfriend. This is all fine and dandy, except I never pestered her everyday to hang out, I don't need to spend the entire day, every day with her, she started it, and I was just accustomed to the frequency that she established.

I swear this sort of thing happens to me every time I meet someone, we talk and hang out a bit, and then something happens and it's my fault that they can't be honest with me.
 

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I know how you feel. I have no idea what I want to do career wise, there's just nothing that appeals to me as a job. I've been a kitchen hand, now I currently volunteer at a charity and a school. I want to study but it's expensive to go to TAFE even. And I'm not a study type of person. I just know myself, I don't want to get into a course then get bored of the work half way through and then not finish it. My current volunteer job is starting to bore me, the kitchen hand job bored me to death that I actually started getting really depressed (I already have depression.) It just made me feel worse at times. I also get bored being at home a lot as well. Entry level jobs these days want you to have more experience than necessary. Entry level should be no experience, just change your f***ing advert to experienced junior position ffs employers. I've literally clicked on job adverts that say 'entry level jobs no experience,' or just, 'entry level job', then in the job description they write must have 3 years experience. Wtf.

And it's not just me that's finding it difficult to get a job it's practically almost my whole age group and older.

I remember reading the paper earlier this year, one girl said she handed out 60 resumes and heard nothing. Even volunteer jobs want some ridiculous requirements now.

Also:

https://www.google.com/amp/s/thewest.com.au/news/wa/this-is-why-i-cannot-find-work-job-desperation-for-was-young-people-ng-b881123978z.amp


People tell me to do nursing, or work with kids or elderly people. I don't have patience for that, 2. Young children almost drive me nuts 3. I don't like seeing gory stuff, 4. I don't really want to be wiping someone's ass. The people who do do those jobs are usually really lovely and have a whole different level of patience. I like helping, but not in that way.


Oh, earlier this year I applied for an usher job in the city. But I never heard anything back. But seriously, how hard can it be to clean a damn theatre? Even if it was a bit difficult, it's better than cleaning a kitchen. Oh well, I think some of those people in the acting/arts industry usually have clique groups and only want their own clique people working in those places. SMH. Or you know some people judge others based off what they've worked as. Maybe it was that. Or maybe I'm just being paranoid right now. But really it doesn't take that long to get to the venue from where I live.

It's like these days it's more about who you know rather than your skills and experience. People in high places reserving jobs for their friends or whatever.
 

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It's not just difficult to land a job, it's also about finding a place to work where I don't have to compromise my values.

For example, I worked at a Staples store for a little over a year, and one of the things I hated doing was asking customers for donations when the company was doing fundraisers for charity. It became a problem for me because managers always pushed to ask for those donations, and when I asked why it was so important, the answer I got was "because we make money." Because the way taxes work for charities, any donations in excess of, let's say $1000, is tax deductible, so everyone that donates $1-$3 can't write it off their taxes, but the corporation that raised hundreds of thousands of dollars nationwide, didn't actually give any of their profits to charity, and paid less in taxes. It's a bogus loophole and in my mind, an unethical practice. Since then, I don't feel guilty anymore when cashiers ask if I would like to make a donation and I say no.

So just about every job I've had requires me at some point to do something that goes against my principles, and I resist as much as possible.

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It's not just difficult to land a job, it's also about finding a place to work where I don't have to compromise my values.

For example, I worked at a Staples store for a little over a year, and one of the things I hated doing was asking customers for donations when the company was doing fundraisers for charity. It became a problem for me because managers always pushed to ask for those donations, and when I asked why it was so important, the answer I got was "because we make money." Because the way taxes work for charities, any donations in excess of, let's say $1000, is tax deductible, so everyone that donates $1-$3 can't write it off their taxes, but the corporation that raised hundreds of thousands of dollars nationwide, didn't actually give any of their profits to charity, and paid less in taxes. It's a bogus loophole and in my mind, an unethical practice. Since then, I don't feel guilty anymore when cashiers ask if I would like to make a donation and I say no.

So just about every job I've had requires me at some point to do something that goes against my principles, and I resist as much as possible.

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Ah I see what you mean. I also don't like to work for companies that don't have moral standards etc. I definitely don't want to support corruption or anything immoral.
 
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