She said "if you dont trust me I will beat you!!" But my SO still things she will talk
Congratulations. I hope it works out well for the both of you.
Hon, it's not much of a secret anymore.My SO (whom I am head over heals in love with!!!) want to keep our relationship a secret because they says otherwise his childen and x-wife will never speak to him again because his culture forbids a woman having had more then one men from his culture. Now I spoiled the secret to my friend who is from that culture and I've known her from about 20 years but my SO is terrified she will talk...I'm afraid he will break up up with me
What culture is this?otherwise his childen and x-wife will never speak to him again because his culture forbids a woman having had more then one men from his culture
As for this, if she's married to the culture, we are looking at a reasonable likelihood that she feels obliged. That, or simple gossip.Now I spoiled the secret to my friend who is from that culture and I've known her from about 20 years but my SO is terrified she will talk..
Could be. But my experience is that where there are strict rules, etc., there is also a lot of secrecy and lying. So the friend might keep the secret.As for this, if she's married to the culture, we are looking at a reasonable likelihood that she feels obliged. That, or simple gossip.
Again, depending on which culture/religion.
For as long as the friend remains the friend of courseCould be. But my experience is that where there are strict rules, etc., there is also a lot of secrecy and lying. So the friend might keep the secret.
What do you meen?What culture is this?
And can you rephrase? Because I'm not sure "woman" and "men" are in the right place here.
He isn't married amymore. I don't really understand the culture...Sounds like he is married. You might want to research whatever culture this is.
Thank you so much Wickerdeer!Did he tell you you'd have to keep your relationship secret from everyone when you first started dating? That sounds really unreasonable to expect.
And what is his ex wife going to do to him if she finds out he's dating again? So he's just never supposed to date again? Seems fishy and unreasonable.
You are worth way more than to be someone's secret. You have a heart of gold, are a kind person, are beautiful and sweet. And even if you are trying to be kind to him, it wouldn't be your fault if anyone found out. That's HIS problem, that he shouldn't be pushing on you.
I also don't want to have to say this, but it sounds isolating for him to expect you to never talk to anyone about your relationship. This is possibly dangerous and it seems unhealthy to expect of you.
Tbh, I think you are worth more and I hope that you find happiness and someone who won't expect you to do things for no good reason.